I'm freezing

[Ghostlyglow]

How are you staying warm if WFH? Currently have blanket over my knees (wearing leggings) top half:t shirt, denim shirt, thick hoodie, fingerless gloves, scarf and woolly hat! DP won't countenance heating on through the day yet and I don't think I can confortably wear any more clothes!

OP is avoiding all the posts questioning why she's allowing her DP to rule the roost. I think that says everything.

Put the heating on.

I'd be cold in what you are wearing even with the heating on though. I was doing some work last night (don't WFH but I'm doing a course one day and a few evenings a week from home). I wear a vest, t-shirt usually 3/4 length sleeve, jumper, thick hoody. Bottom half jeans, warm socks and bootie slippers. I'll throw a fleecy blanket over my legs, or I've been known to replace the hoody with my dressing gown.

I really feel the cold and often have three more layers on than everyone else in the house. I have the heating on whenever but I always layer up first.

Check out Bella di notte for lovely warm thermals in natural fibres and wear wool jumpers. Cotton layers are not warm enough for winter. Also wear wool or silk long johns under leggings (Bella di notte again or patra). If you wear sensible winter clothes you don’t need to bulk up with endless layers and can still look chic. But if you are wearing sensible clothes and are still cold then you need to put on heating. You don’t have to heat the whole house all the time, just the room you are in.

I am in my own during the day so have total heating control but still don't really want to be using it all day every day. So far I have concluded: 1. Need a skirt or something over leggings, and leggings should preferably be extra warm (Primark do some) or thermal (m and s for me)

1. Cold feet will make you cold - thick socks to stop drafts and some warm slippers or shoes - I have bought sheepskin slippers.

1. Top layers should involve real wool and preferably a thermal long sleeved top - if I wear these and a dress I am generally not too cold.

But number 4 is to accept that sometimes you'll have a cold day and at that point the heating just needs to go on! No point suffering for the sake of it. Obviously this one depends on your husband by the sounds of things - is he happy that you're cold? I would never ask someone else to sit in the cold like I am myself, it's only because I am in the house on my own!

Electric throw. I'm using this one
https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7074572
Mostly because I'm sat down all day and can't move about, I get colder

Outside of covid times I have lived alone. Does this mean I shouldn’t ever having the heating on because it’s just me? I never understand that logic. But yes a heated throw is a game changer.

I'm all for expecting to wear season-appropriate clothing in the house and I too am energy conscious but I wouldn't let anyone tell me whether I can put the heating on in my own home. Did you accidentally put your clock back to 1950 OP?

Can you just have the heating set to 16 through the day then turn it up a couple of degrees in the evening?

I expect op will disappear from this thread as she's reluctant to tell us why her husband won't let her turn the heating on.

Still here and grateful for all the replies...

Is your martyrdom not keeping you warm?

@Pinkyandthebrainz

OP is avoiding all the posts questioning why she's allowing her DP to rule the roost. I think that says everything.

This!

If gpu need to wear gloves indoors, you need to put the heating on!

My husband and I are complete opposites in that respect, in that he is always warm and would happily sleep with the window open permanently. Whereas I'm usually cold and like to have the heating on and in the evenings when I'm sat down watching tv for example, I like to sit under a blanket in the winter.
But he would never ever say I can't put the heating on if I'm cold. It's rare he will ever be the one who wants it on, and if we are both here I will say does he mind if I put it on? Just because I think it's nice to ask. But I don't have to, I could just say I'm putting the heating on and he would say okay. And when he's not here I put it on whenever I want. Luckily our house warms up quick.
Or we also have fan heaters and sometimes if we just want to heat one room quickly we plug that in and close the door. The room warms up within 5 minutes. (No idea if it's cheaper to use the heating or use the fan heater but when I'm cold it's either one or sometimes both).
If you can afford to put the heating on. Your partner should not be attempting to control your life in this or any other way.

I am my parents' child and incredibly mean about heating, so I'm Team DP here (not just cost, but environmentally).

Dress in the morning as though you're going to be cold: thermals, big socks, boot-type slippers, a blanket over your lap if need be. It's easier to shed layers as you warm up, than warm up once you're cold.

Keeping the ambient temperature at around 16-18 degrees is also a good way to work off residual calories!

You know what else burns calories? Digging a whole under the patio.

In my head that was quite jovial and as I read it back it seems far more sinister.

@FourTeaFallOut

I wouldn't countenance a partner saying that. Put the heating on fgs!

Well the op is either being abused or they are in poverty, no ones business, and she isn’t asking for help on either scenario just how to keep warm as she’s in the situation she’s in.

So I’d agree, warm foot wear, more than just leggings on your bottom half, get some thermals from m&s or even Amazon.

I am my parents' child and incredibly mean about heating

It’s not something to be proud of, and if you’re only making yourself uncomfortable them crack on.

I stay warm by putting the heating on when I need it. We have nest thermostats and DH actually sometimes kindly turns it on remotely for me if I've been out and it has been turned down as I work from home so it's not cold when I get in

Seriously - unless there is some financial reason not to turn the heating on, please just do so

Well the op is either being abused or they are in poverty, no ones business, and she isn’t asking for help on either scenario just how to keep warm as she’s in the situation she’s in.
And yet she posted that it was her husband vetoing the putting on of the heating, so as well as the practical advice she's been given, many posters are highlighting that her DH doesn't get to decide whether or not she should be cold while working. Lots of posts on MN are no one else's business, but the advice given is free and often relevant.

@LadyJaye

I am my parents' child and incredibly mean about heating, so I'm Team DP here (not just cost, but environmentally).

Dress in the morning as though you're going to be cold: thermals, big socks, boot-type slippers, a blanket over your lap if need be. It's easier to shed layers as you warm up, than warm up once you're cold.

Keeping the ambient temperature at around 16-18 degrees is also a good way to work off residual calories!

You sound fun!

@Justmuddlingalong

Well the op is either being abused or they are in poverty, no ones business, and she isn’t asking for help on either scenario just how to keep warm as she’s in the situation she’s in. And yet she posted that it was her husband vetoing the putting on of the heating, so as well as the practical advice she's been given, many posters are highlighting that her DH doesn't get to decide whether or not she should be cold while working. Lots of posts on MN are no one else's business, but the advice given is free and often relevant.

Agree, my comment is simply she’s not clarifying she might have said it was her partner as she didn’t want to say it was because they can’t afford to heat their home. Or indeed it could be she’s being abused.

As she’s not willing to say, it’s hard to judge.

Clarification doesn't seem to be forthcoming, so I hope either way the OP posts on other appropriate threads for advice if she needs it.