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Does anyone NOT feel like it's the end of times and everything is going to be shit forever right now?

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norunningwithscizzuhz · 20/10/2020 20:11

I mean according to MN I might as well drive off a bridge right now because a) i live in a London flat so no one will ever want to buy it and I will be in negative equity this time next year b) I work in the arts so I'll never be able to work again and I should retrain as a plumber instead c) there will never be a covid 19 vaccine and even if there is one it won't work properly d) brexit means that everything will basically be shit in the UK forever

Don't get me wrong, everything is pretty rubbish right now but could we maybe dispense with the relentless doom and gloom? Otherwise what's to live for, seriously?

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bathorshower · 20/10/2020 20:35

Obviously what's happening now isn't great, but a bit of historical perspective does help. I remember watching some interviews by the BBC with people in various situations during the first lockdown. One was with a family including two young girls living in a small flat who'd previously lived in Aleppo. Funnily enough, they didn't think lockdown or Covid-19 were the worst things ever....

charliebear78 · 20/10/2020 20:36

Everything will be ok in the end,
If it's not ok,it's not the end

Asterion · 20/10/2020 20:38

Imagine you were told last year that there was a global pandemic coming, that people across the world would be under lockdown and borders would be shut. How many people and commentators would have predicted the total breakdown of society?

And yet here we all are, moaning about masks and Boris Johnson and wondering if we can have our in-laws over for Christmas.

Chumleymouse · 20/10/2020 20:39

I’m just waiting for the zombie apocalypse, then I’m going to eat all my neighbours........... yum 😛

Rayn · 20/10/2020 20:41

I keep reminding people that in history all events pass. I am sure that when our ancestors were in the middle of Spanish flu or a world war that it felt shit and that it would never end. Like a storm, it will pass!

helpfulperson · 20/10/2020 20:47

I agree that this like many other trials will pass. Pandemics tend to last about two years without a vaccine if you look at history. We just need to try and ensure as few people die in that time as possible.

mbosnz · 20/10/2020 20:47

I'm a pragmatist. Shit happens, sometimes it happens to me and mine. If it does, we'll deal with it as best we can, counting the blessings we have, and trying to mitigate the harm.

iamtheoneandonlyyy · 20/10/2020 20:56

I've just left another thread because I am finally having a reasonable day and a bit of calm.
Everyone was raving about the doom and then they had to introduce climate change into it as well.

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norunningwithscizzuhz · 20/10/2020 20:57

I just dont understand the mentality

If you really believe that everything is shit, forever, and we are truly completely fucked, then what is the point? Why bother with anything?

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ulanbatorismynextstop · 20/10/2020 21:09

I think it's the dawn of a new era, women will become more powerful, and we'll enter into a period where the weak and vulnerable and those helping them will be glorified whereas selfish arseholes will become weaker. There will be many job losses but some industries will flourish so over a few months the unemployment will reduce and we'll have a huge bounce back.

The human race will become more conscious, they will be kinder to each other, exercise more, travel less, have stronger communities, need less material things but more services related to mental health and wellbeing. People will meditate more and be more at peace than ever before.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/10/2020 21:11

What's weird is that in RL, nearly everyone I come in to contact with (and I teach - that's a lot of people even in CovidTimes) is just pragmatically getting on with day to day life and making the best of it all.

It's only on here that Chicken Little runs around wailing that the sky is going to fall. Bizarre.

BlueJava · 20/10/2020 21:18

From our immediate family perspective there have been changes for us, but nothing we can't cope with. We both work from home rather than commute which is a bonus; both DS are at Uni and have less facetime but they seem ok. I'm not a big shopper so do everything on line, but do go out for walks. I come into contact with ppl at yoga but it hasn't bothered me. I'm happy to do simple things at home like reading either fiction books or technical papers work work, I'm learning Russian which is time consuming, I did embroidery recently too which I hadn't done for ages. If we go out to a restaurant then I've found most things to be fairly empty, and we usually sit outside.

I do worry about my parents as they are elderly, they had a very active social life which has now stopped and they seem much frailer and more worried than they were.

Overall though, these things will pass, we'll carry on and the economy will pick up again is my view.

Ingridla · 20/10/2020 21:20

@ulanbatorismynextstop

I think it's the dawn of a new era, women will become more powerful, and we'll enter into a period where the weak and vulnerable and those helping them will be glorified whereas selfish arseholes will become weaker. There will be many job losses but some industries will flourish so over a few months the unemployment will reduce and we'll have a huge bounce back.

The human race will become more conscious, they will be kinder to each other, exercise more, travel less, have stronger communities, need less material things but more services related to mental health and wellbeing. People will meditate more and be more at peace than ever before.

Now this is the kind of post I like!
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norunningwithscizzuhz · 20/10/2020 21:51

I have zero interest in meditating. I hate meditation.

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LittleLapwing · 20/10/2020 21:53

Haven’t been on mumsnet for a while.
Clicked on a few threads just now and omg I cannot believe the doom-mongers around at the moment.

I’m going back to Facebook. I can mute the moaners there 😂

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norunningwithscizzuhz · 20/10/2020 21:55

I don't know anyone IRL who is as pessimistic as MN is. And I know multiple people in the arts who have no work at all right now and no prospect of work.

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LittleLapwing · 20/10/2020 21:58

I really cannot believe the mood on here. It’s nuts!

mocha78 · 20/10/2020 22:00

There’s a really positive advert on at the moment I like,I can’t find it on YouTube to link to-it’s about the research for a vaccine and all the potential research developments in health that spin off of it throughout the coming decade. It was called the Health something, I noticed the Gates Foundation was mentioned at the bottom with other companies.

friendlycat · 20/10/2020 22:01

I quite agree. In time this will pass and it’s something that just has to be got through.
I fully realise that some people are hugely affected and others not nearly as badly. Therefore it just isn’t equal hardship for all. But on MN there are so many who see the end of the World in really quite trivial things and fight against it all. Their phrase “I’m so over it all now” really grates. If only that were the case.
It’s hard but made harder by some who equate fairly trivial hardships such as their rights to holidays, visiting ten family members at the same time etc to a reduced way of life forever that they deem not worth living.

Then there are others who really are facing serious hardships in amongst this and stoically trying to get through it all. And get through it we will.

Northernsoullover · 20/10/2020 22:02

I'm fed up with all the 'I'm fed up with covid' posts. Both on here and other social media. Do people honestly think that the rest of us aren't fucking fed up with it either? Covid isn't going to disappear just because we have all had it up to our eyeballs with it. I'm just getting on with it because I have no choice in this matter and I won't be whingeing along the way.

MushMonster · 20/10/2020 22:06

I have my moments, but in general a "well let's get on with it, with a smile, a cuppa and some sense of humour" attitude. Better than doom and gloom.

AgeLikeWine · 20/10/2020 22:09

I certainly think the good times are over for the foreseeable future. The pandemic has a long way to go, the government’s handling of it gets worse by the day and the economic fallout will be on a scale we haven’t seen since the 1980s.

Brexit is turning out to be even more of a total clusterfuck than even the most pessimistic Remainers could have imagined.

Johnson is a completely useless chancer who is hopelessly out of his depth and the government he leads is the most incompetent of my lifetime. Even Thatcher did evil things competently.

It feels like the 2012 Olympics happened in a different country, in a different century. Good times probably will return at some point, but it will be a very, very long haul back to where this country was in 2016.

Krabapple · 20/10/2020 22:09

I usually try to keep positive but having a bad day. I hate the what it brings out in some people. Everyone seems to be turning on each other.
Tomorrow is another day though so will try to be more upbeat about it then as and just let today go .

katy1213 · 20/10/2020 22:12

I'm having a nice week and next week looks even better. Friends all seem quite cheerful, too. It's only on Mumsnet that I see the relentless pessimism.

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norunningwithscizzuhz · 20/10/2020 22:13

I definitely get why people feel down. I feel down a lot of the time. I would never be one of those posters saying oh stop whinging, just be more resilient.

However I really, really think some posters are relishing telling others that nothing will ever be OK again. I just don't believe that.

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