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I'm anxious. Why are you awake?

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rainatnightlove · 20/10/2020 01:39

Had a rough day today, well month really!

-Had bladder pain everyday for 4 weeks, 2 lots of AB's w/ no change, still waiting on a urology referral from a year ago.

-Had a panic attack in the supermarket this evening.

-Partner is grumpy and constantly working (has his own business).

-Two of my best friends (there's 3 of us in friendship group) booked to go to a spa hotel this weekend last week without inviting me and I found out by accident today when one posted it in the group chat. (I can't go as it would cost 4x what they paid now as it's 4 days away!).

Feeling horrid, had a cry this evening, everything's a lot at the moment and the bladder pain is really not helping. Sent a sample to the docs today so hopefully will hear something tomorrow.

What's keeping you up?

OP posts:
AlitheAllosaurus · 20/10/2020 02:37

Thank you, just been to breastfeed DD back to sleep, was a nice distraction

Thesuzle · 20/10/2020 02:40

Woke up for a wee, now having a cup of tea and marmalade on bread

Thesuzle · 20/10/2020 02:42

Woeful- just read your post, goodness that’s awful, I’m so sorry for you.xx

Pipandmum · 20/10/2020 02:43

Felt exhausted so went to bed at 10 (normally go to bed at midnight). Woke up hearing my son throw up in toilet- not worried about it but now I'm wide awake.

clpsmum · 20/10/2020 02:49

I have a son with LD and disabilities he's decided tonight (the night before he goes back to school) is the night he will just not sleep 😩. He's 11 but needs constant 1 to 1 care so I have no choice but to be awake I'm a single parent

Anordinarymum · 20/10/2020 02:51

@rainatnightlove

Had a rough day today, well month really!

-Had bladder pain everyday for 4 weeks, 2 lots of AB's w/ no change, still waiting on a urology referral from a year ago.

-Had a panic attack in the supermarket this evening.

-Partner is grumpy and constantly working (has his own business).

-Two of my best friends (there's 3 of us in friendship group) booked to go to a spa hotel this weekend last week without inviting me and I found out by accident today when one posted it in the group chat. (I can't go as it would cost 4x what they paid now as it's 4 days away!).

Feeling horrid, had a cry this evening, everything's a lot at the moment and the bladder pain is really not helping. Sent a sample to the docs today so hopefully will hear something tomorrow.

What's keeping you up?

Do you think your friends didn't ask you because you are unwell OP
Serengetiqueen · 20/10/2020 02:53

DD19 took an OD a week ago. She’s alive and well thank god, but the incident has left me feeling totally worried sick.

rainatnightlove · 20/10/2020 03:01

@Anordinarymum They didn't actually know- I've kept it quiet as I hate bothering them with my issues. Sad

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Pyewhacket · 20/10/2020 03:02

My 16 DD has raging ear ache and I've just got her off now that co codamol has kicked-in. And as I'm wide awake I thought I'd review stuff for tomorrow's meeting regarding resparators masks and other improvements to new PPE supplies.

rainatnightlove · 20/10/2020 03:02

To everyone struggling and sleepless, I hope you eventually fall asleep and get some rest. Some horrible situations people have been through recently and I genuinely wish you all the best. ThanksSad

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Anordinarymum · 20/10/2020 03:03

[quote rainatnightlove]@Anordinarymum They didn't actually know- I've kept it quiet as I hate bothering them with my issues. Sad[/quote]
Do you know why they did it

LynetteScavo · 20/10/2020 03:05

I'm angry. And worried.

It's so long and complicated why I'm angry I can't even put it into words. So I'm lying here thinking it over and over to try and get it straight in my head and am worrying. It involves someone messing up something very serious with DS and I don't want the same to happen with DD. It looks like I'm fussing and I keep being told by various people what happened couldn't have happened. But it did. I haven't made a formal complaint because it was human error and I don't want anyone to lose their job. I just don't want a repeat of the situation with DD. I've asked to have certain things confirmed in writing, but I received a phone call yesterday instead. I again asked for it in writing. Apparently only one person can do that and they're off sick at the moment and when they come back it may get over looked anyway because these are difficult times. Confused

user1468538201 · 20/10/2020 03:14

I hope it's being watched carefully, I had one 20 years ago and the pain was dreadful until it was dissolved, I was admitted to hospital with it and stayed there over a week.

Serengetiqueen · 20/10/2020 03:14

@LynetteScavo.....I understand your anger but it is probably not going to produce a result of any kind for you tonight....just a knackered mum for your DC in the morning. Get up and write down a diarised plan of action with names, dates, escalation route etc. This is the most productive thing you can do. Commit to follow up the actions with diary reminders. And then tell yourself, I’ve done all I can now and leave it alone.

cheeseburger100 · 20/10/2020 03:14

So sorry to hear about everyone's worries and troubles.

What is it about nighttime anxiety? I get the most dreadful feelings in the night. Loneliness, sadness, anxiety, utter hopelessness. Then during the day I can squash it down again. I wish that worked at night. Sometimes I just want to die

Pyewhacket · 20/10/2020 03:15

Serengetiqueen , You must have everything whirling through your mind but the main thing is she's OK. Hope she can open up to you. We've never met but big hug from me.

Serengetiqueen · 20/10/2020 03:16

For me, nighttime is when shit things actually have kicked off.....like calls from A&E departments unfortunately. Doesn’t sew the seeds for restful sleep.

Anordinarymum · 20/10/2020 03:16

@LynetteScavo

I'm angry. And worried.

It's so long and complicated why I'm angry I can't even put it into words. So I'm lying here thinking it over and over to try and get it straight in my head and am worrying. It involves someone messing up something very serious with DS and I don't want the same to happen with DD. It looks like I'm fussing and I keep being told by various people what happened couldn't have happened. But it did. I haven't made a formal complaint because it was human error and I don't want anyone to lose their job. I just don't want a repeat of the situation with DD. I've asked to have certain things confirmed in writing, but I received a phone call yesterday instead. I again asked for it in writing. Apparently only one person can do that and they're off sick at the moment and when they come back it may get over looked anyway because these are difficult times. Confused

Make sure you have everything you do in writing so they can't scotch over it.
user1468538201 · 20/10/2020 03:19

I have fibromyalgia and am too sore to sleep. No matter what way I twist or turn I'm in pain. Even a wrinkle in the sheet hurts me. Am convinced the fairytale The Princess and the pea was based on someone with fibro. Wash your hands, keep your distance and wear your mask everyone, all my health issues stem from a viral infection when I was 12.

Serengetiqueen · 20/10/2020 03:20

@Pyewhacket....she only opens up when she wants to and then becomes quite remote. She’s at Uni 200 miles away in a tier 2. The OD thankfully failed but when alone she can relapse. My DD is an alcoholic just recently embarking on sobriety with the AA. The alcoholism has cursed us all.

AdriannaP · 20/10/2020 03:22

Stress at work
Sadness that I can’t see my family over halfterm (country they live in was just added to quarantine list)
Have pregnancy symptoms, too scared to test after recent miscarriage

Dinomum79 · 20/10/2020 03:29

Thanks for asking. I hope you feel better soon! It's hard with the friends thing as why would they not ask you and then keep it secret?

I'm anxious. Lots going on with OH under real redundancy threat since July. Mainly though my boss is a bully and has shortened a timeframe for a project at work and is not understanding my childcare issues due to my toddler self isolating.

Looking on here though this seems a bit trivial. Hope everyone is ok x

GeorgiaGirl52 · 20/10/2020 03:31

Waiting for my son to come home from work. He gets in at midnight and I have a hot dinner waiting for him. He eats and showers and goes straight to bed because he has to log on to school at 8am. I stay up to wash and dry his uniform and clean his boots to have them ready for tomorrow night's shift. I go to sleep about 3am and get up at 10am so I can get his lunch ready before he leaves for work.
It is a weird schedule but I am proud of him for holding down a job and keeping his grades up. We are lucky he has a job the way the economy is now.

Serengetiqueen · 20/10/2020 03:37

@GeorgiaGirl52.....you’re a diamond of a mum, I hope he appreciates you!

Pyewhacket · 20/10/2020 03:42

cheeseburger100 .... have you tried listening to the radio at night ?. Just the sound of somebody else's voice can help. I treated a patient who served in both Iraq and Afghanistan and the only way he could sleep was to listen to late night chat shows on the radio.

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