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Do you share bath water? (Not together)

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justgeton · 19/10/2020 17:52

I shower every morning and bath every evening so my bath would never be very dirty, and my husband often jumps in after me

However I would not DREAM of getting in his, despite his morning shower too.

Do you share?

Maybe this should be on AIBU but thought would keep it more light hearted

OP posts:
TotorosFurryBehind · 19/10/2020 21:51

I often leave the water in and get in after toddler DD has had her bath. Partly to save money on heating and partly because I just don't have any free time anymore since having a baby.

TotorosFurryBehind · 19/10/2020 21:53

All the people saying it's a bit gross, have you ever used a public swimming pool...you are getting covered in the bodily fluids and pooticles of hundreds of strangers.

vanillandhoney · 19/10/2020 21:56

@TotorosFurryBehind

All the people saying it's a bit gross, have you ever used a public swimming pool...you are getting covered in the bodily fluids and pooticles of hundreds of strangers.
Surely the difference is you don't get into a public swimming pool to get clean...
YorkshireIndie · 19/10/2020 22:00

We share. LO likes to stand in the bath and then the bath gets offered up to the house. Recently though he has started having a bath with my sister when they both get in from work/nursery. It saves on the water bill. There is nothing wrong with sharing if you haven't done a wee/shave

mathanxiety · 19/10/2020 22:02

Crikey! No way.

mathanxiety · 19/10/2020 22:03

Public swimming pools are full of chlorine, and many people shower after swimming in them.

TheChosenTwo · 19/10/2020 22:21

Christ no, the thought of it makes me want to heave. Someone else’s skin cells and arse crack juice bobbing about next to me Envy
Dh and I sometimes share a shower (for reasons besides getting clean). That’s as far as it goes!

scrivette · 19/10/2020 22:27

DH goes in after me as I like my baths very hot and by the time I get out they are the correct temperature for him.

The youngest DC have a bath together and then I add as much water again for eldest DC to have his bath as he is a bit older and likes his deeper and warmer.

EmbarrassedUser · 19/10/2020 22:31

DH used to get in mine but I’d never get in his. I wouldn’t know if he’d farted In it 😂😂

Viviennemary · 19/10/2020 23:05

I couldn't believe this was actually a thing people did. It's disgusting.

cobpickles · 20/10/2020 01:22

I’m a hypocrite because I love having a bath WITH someone but the thought of jumping in after them seems disgusting

cobpickles · 20/10/2020 01:23

@TotorosFurryBehind

I often leave the water in and get in after toddler DD has had her bath. Partly to save money on heating and partly because I just don't have any free time anymore since having a baby.
that’s definitely partly pee
soffiee · 20/10/2020 01:29

This is absolutely disgusting. We have one main bathroom and one en-suite shower. DH and I use the shower in the en-suite and DS 18 months uses the bath tub in the main bathroom. No one has ever used our bathtub apart from DS and before I fill up the tub, I wash it with flash and then clean it and fill it with water. I can't imagine my DS sitting in a dirty bathtub let alone playing in the water where my DH or me have sat in it. Eugh just no way!

LaBellina · 20/10/2020 01:37

Yes we share. Last night I washed myself from head to toe with water & soap, then enjoyed a bath with some lovely bath salts and asked DH afterwards if he wanted to use the water too, which he did. I see nothing wrong with this, surely it's also much better for the environment to not fill up the bath twice.

Hydrate · 20/10/2020 01:39

No.

standupsitdownturnaround · 20/10/2020 06:05

Grinthis thread is so funny. I love how strongly each side feels about it even thought there don't seem to be any material consequences Grin

It's made me slightly worried for when I have children because my hygiene standards are soooo far from cleaning the bath out with flash before every bath! Surely that exposes a little one to chemicals far worse? And wouldn't it deny them the chance to develop their immune system? I would assume it's a recipe for eczema and allergies but haven't read the evidence.

Bluntness100 · 20/10/2020 06:11

No, there is something about it that I just find a bit unpleasant. However I am a shower person and would only have a bath to relax in. And quite frankly I do not wish to relax in water someone else has already washed in. I also find the thought of washing myself with used water unpleasant. But if I needed to I would obviously. Being in the fortunate position that I have other options to wash myself I chose not to do so in dirty water.

Angelina82 · 20/10/2020 06:12

All the people saying it's a bit gross, have you ever used a public swimming pool...you are getting covered in the bodily fluids and pooticles of hundreds of strangers.

Yes but then you go have a shower don’t you?

I would and have happily shared baths/water with my kids when they were smaller and ex husband used to sometimes jump in after me, but it would be a cold day in hell before I bathed in a man’s old water. 🤢

Seriouslymole · 20/10/2020 09:15

Yes, every night I have the kids water and it will be DH's too if he's jumped in first. I LOVE a bath but am very aware of the environmental nightmare they are so I'm trying to do my bit!

NataliaOsipova · 20/10/2020 09:22

@TotorosFurryBehind

All the people saying it's a bit gross, have you ever used a public swimming pool...you are getting covered in the bodily fluids and pooticles of hundreds of strangers.
This was my thought too! Funnily enough, I will happily get in a bath after my kids (for speed, or for a quick end of day dunk that I wouldn’t bother with otherwise), but I’m always a bit circumspect about swimming pools...especially if they are private ones which are less likely to be quite as scrupulously chlorinated etc as the public baths.
Thuglife · 20/10/2020 16:53

Dd used to have a bath every night when she was a baby/toddler. ExP always used to get in after her.
I’m on a water meter so costs a fortune & this was the man who would suck snot out her nose before she learnt how to blow it so don’t think a bit of toddler wee in the bath would have bothered him Grin

KindergartenKop · 20/10/2020 21:14

My kids share water. I don't like it though.

I once went away on holiday with a friend and she used my water after me Confused

EatPrayYoga · 20/10/2020 23:51

Not only will I not share DH's water but I will make sure the bath is washed with Flash before I run my own

StrangeAddiction · 21/10/2020 00:46

I don't like even sitting in my own scum so there's no way I'm sitting in anyone else's! 🤢🤮

Shower all the way for me.

QueenOfPain · 21/10/2020 00:51

The situation hasn’t arisen in many years, but yes, in the past I have shared bath water. With my mum as a child, or a partner as an adult.

The band No Doubt have a song called Bathwater which is about exactly this thing and also sharing a toothbrush. So Gwen Stefani also has no qualms about taking the second bath of the evening.

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