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Do you get excited about your birthday?

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cwtchesandprosecco · 13/10/2020 22:13

It’s my birthday tomorrow. Not a big one, just a fairly ordinary one and I’m getting loads of questions about whether or not I’m excited. I’m honestly totally indifferent.... absolutely no excitement or any feelings really. Am I odd? Do you get excited about your birthdays now?
I think lockdown is playing a part, as is the part that I have no real plans for tomorrow having celebrated few friends a few weeks ago.

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HP2020 · 13/10/2020 22:17

I guess it depends on your situation like do u have a bf or partner to make an effort? Do u have kids and if not would u usually go out?

I'm 36 with 2 small kids both under 3. I look forward to cards and presents from ppl but generally I'm not too fussed. It's just an excuse for me to let hubby do everything and give me a break lol!! And I enjoy the attention and fun stress free day but we don't usually go out or have a party. Altho hubby has been told for my 40th I want a party with everyone there and a bouncy castle!! So I guess for a milestone birthday I want a real fuss made but otherwise I don't get too excited no

Happy bday for tomo

thesoundofthepolice · 13/10/2020 22:21

No excitement here either, to me it's just another day. I do always try to get the day off work but other than that it's an ordinary day.

I hate attention of any kind though even nice birthday wishes attention

Feminist10101 · 13/10/2020 22:27

It’s mine today.

I asked for a whole day of nobody contacting me directly. (9 months of Covid in a HR role in the NHS has me sick of people. 😂)

My daughter gets very excited about birthdays, but as hers is a few days before mine I’m usually recovering and happy for a day off and some peace and quiet.

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Meruem · 13/10/2020 22:28

No because if I want to do something fun, buy myself something or go somewhere special, I just do it. I don’t wait for it to be my birthday. It wouldn’t mean anything more to me to do it on that particular date so I see no reason to.

Clearthinking · 13/10/2020 22:40

Hate the fuss and hate bring another year older :-)

Bubbleandboba · 13/10/2020 22:45

I get excited and I’ve absolutely no idea why. It’s shit and I have no friends to celebrate with. But for some reason it just feel so excited when I wake up, I feel different. I then get disappointed and end up in bed for most of the day.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/10/2020 22:47

I love birthdays, mine included.

Juanmorebeer · 13/10/2020 22:51

It's mine too. Not this year. I'd never use the word excited but usually I do celebrate it with my friends and do something. Not this year.

BeautifulandWilfulandDead · 13/10/2020 23:00

Mine tomorrow too...happy birthday! I am excited, because I have a day off work, the kids are at school and I don't have to lift a finger. I'll eat and drink nice things, and take time to relax. It's a really good excuse to practice some self-care, so make the most of it!

goisey · 13/10/2020 23:08

Nope, I can't ever remember being excited about my birthday.
I do try and make the effort to celebrate it, but mostly because of FOMO.
I am a perfectly happy person and not miserable at all, but I don't really get birthdays.
Christmas: I love.

Titsinknicks · 13/10/2020 23:18

I love birthdays. I love spoiling people I love - with presents or attention or indulging their whims. I enjoy mine as my friends and family feel similarly. I love any excuse for fun and frivolity. Yes I also buy myself nice things the rest of the year and also treat people throughout too but why the fuck not also enjoy birthdays. People who say 'I can do x y and z on any day' tend to be the ones that just don't; they don't seek out joy.

Titsinknicks · 13/10/2020 23:20

Also happy birthday op!

It was my DPS birthday literally as harsh lockdown ended in July and I booked some socially distanced treats - activities and dinner out and stuff. If it had been within lockdown I'd have done other stuff and made it a special day for him in other ways

DappledThings · 13/10/2020 23:51

I dread it. Have got everyone on my life now finally on board with completely ignoring it so hopefully have now had my last one that is anything other than a totally normal day.

user1487194234 · 14/10/2020 07:44

Yes very,but not this year

Notmydaughteryoubitch · 14/10/2020 07:49

I love birthdays - mine and other peoples. I love any excuse to celebrate and have fun and bring some extra joy. I tend to have birthweeks though! Blush
I had my 40th during lockdown and I was a bit sad about it in the run up as we were supposed to be on a beach in the south of france rather than in my garden but it ended up being so much more fun and people were so thoughtful.

MumOfDiamonds · 14/10/2020 08:38

I like buying gifts but not too fussed on receiving them, although I do always appreciate what I do get. It's my birthday in November, along with my sisters and my mums and I don't even think about mine. Mine stopped been interesting when I had children I think!

Juicyfrooty · 14/10/2020 08:44

Nope, not even a little bit. I actually find it a bit cringey when adults make a huge fuss about their birthdays, not so much milestone birthdays, but I have friends/relatives who really expect a big fuss for every single birthday and then just end up disappointed that it doesn't meet their expectations.

RhubarbCustardy · 14/10/2020 08:45

You're not odd. Think it's with the current situ. Some of my family have had birthdays or ones coming up and have said not to bother with cards/presents as they weren't able to buy any for me. It's just another day. It's more important that family are safe and well to me. Birthdays seem insignificant at the moment. Even my dcs friends aren't celebrating or sending cards like they usually do and generally aren't bothered. Actually had this conversation with my teens last night who asked why do people celebrate birthdays as in what's the point generally! 😂

Enb76 · 14/10/2020 08:48

No - I cannot be bothered with my birthday. I have never not been disappointed when I’ve even vaguely raised my hopes that it will more than an ordinary day and have now given up entirely.

Ragwort · 14/10/2020 08:51

Not at all, I enjoy receiving cards, particularly from people I rarely see these days but I have absolutely no wish to be 'spoiled' or given extravagant presents. I am at the age and stage in life where if I want something I can buy it for myself rather than put up with someone else's choice which is very rarely right. Likewise I would rather choose my own meal out, or what I cook at home, instead of someone else making the decision for me. My DH is much keener on birthdays than me and he rather "pushed" me into celebrating my last two 'significant' birthdays so now I firmly take charge and do what I want to do.

Rainb0wDrops · 14/10/2020 08:57

Yes I still get really excited. I'm not so fussed about the presents but I love going out to celebrate and spread that across a few occasions eg afternoon tea with family, dinner out with friends. It's more the excuse to meet and go out.
Was gutted that this year my birthday was in full on lockdown and I couldn't do anything or meet anyone.

AyDeeAitchDee · 14/10/2020 09:08

I do a bit. Not like I do about Christmas or DC birthdays though.

I didn't much this year.

Generally we go away for a few days. So I look forward to the break.

But it's nice to have a day for me and get a few gifts. So I don't dread it or anything.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 14/10/2020 09:11

Yes. I normally celebrate with a meal, night our or party. I was lucky this year as my birthday is August when Covid cases were right down and the restrictions had been relaxed so I was able to go out with friends.

Bluesheep8 · 14/10/2020 09:52

No. Not remotely. If it falls on a weekday it's just a normal day at work. If it's a weekend, well it's just a normal Saturday or Sunday. At 47 I really can't see what on earth there is to get excited about. Yes I'm thankful for these things but can't get excited about them

Morgana7 · 14/10/2020 09:58

I look forward to the day as DP and I usually plan something nice like a meal at my favourite restaurant and we both take the day off work.
I wouldn’t say I’m “excited” though. It just feels like any other day when I wake up other than knowing I’ll be doing something a bit nicer than normal.
I used to absolutely love it as a child though and would count down the days.