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Urgent! Parent breaking covid rules

33 replies

Crazymum19 · 12/10/2020 17:11

Advice needed please
I've been made aware that my daughters father had a get together with his parents, girlfriend, her 2 kids and my daughter at the weekend. This means there were 7 of them in the house.
I've emailed him to make him aware that I know but I know he will either ignore it or make up some lies/excuse
He lives with his parents and girlfriend stayed the weekend with her 2 children

Big concern for us because my husband and I both work in care and also I care for an elderly relative at the moment.
Surely he's broken the law.
Am I overreacting??
Do I stop contact?
Bare in mind there is a court order in place!
Has anybody else had to deal with this?

OP posts:
mummyh2016 · 12/10/2020 17:13

Considering nearly half of the group are children YABU IMO.

paxillin · 12/10/2020 17:16

I really don't think this is urgent. The number 6 was plucked from thin air, there being a number 7 won't make a difference.

I don't think you should stop contact.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:17

I stick to the rules- but wouldn't see an issue with this. Presumably she is a single parent, so he is her support bubble. Therefore the numbers are irrelevant as they make one family.

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BiggerBoat1 · 12/10/2020 17:18

Sounds like you're looking for trouble to be honest. It was only seven people and half of them were children. In the nicest possible way, you need to mind your own business! Sorry.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:18

I just checked the rules on support bubbles, and they are fine.

Here's the guidance. www.gov.uk/guidance/making-a-support-bubble-with-another-household

AndwhenyougetthereFoffsomemore · 12/10/2020 17:19

So, one extra person? Honestly, I wouldn't kick off on that one, and I am being very careful and cautious around covid. I can't see you could prove anything (I assume he will just say you've got it wrong), and even so, I wouldn't have thought that sort of law breaking would mean it was acceptable to break mandated court orders around contact. At most, I would remind him know you are caring for vulnerable people and ask him to ensure he is maintaining social distancing etc - but is it likely that he'll take any notice of that? More sensible maybe is to talk to your dd and remind her of the importance of being careful and that its ok not to hug people etc - how old is she?

legalseagull · 12/10/2020 17:20

Do you think one extra person is likely to make any difference in a family bubble? YABU and seem to be looking for a fight

doctorhamster · 12/10/2020 17:20

Depends what the rules are in your area? I'm not allowed anyone in my house where I am

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/10/2020 17:21

Why would this be urgent?

Calm down.

No one died.

Stop looking for excuses to disrupt contact. It’s for your child’s benefit.

Diemme · 12/10/2020 17:22

He's broken the law but, to me, common sense dictates that the risk would be pretty much the same if he'd invited say one of his parents not both. Or left one of his girlfriend's children with a babysitter. Again that doesn't change the fact that he's broken the law. But it would stop me stressing about it. In your situation I'd be happy to remind him of the rules and move on.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:26

@Diemme he hasn't broken the law as his girlfriend will have him as her support bubble as a single parent.

Lazypuppy · 12/10/2020 17:28

Yabu. Kids shouldn't count.

BillywilliamV · 12/10/2020 17:29

Oh FFS, 6 or 7, as if it makes any bloody difference?
Still an extra stick to beat your ex with is always useful!

Morgan12 · 12/10/2020 17:29

Jeezo it's one extra person.

butterpuffed · 12/10/2020 17:31

It isn't urgent.

FunTimes2020 · 12/10/2020 17:31

I think you being a tad dramatic. Sorry, but you did ask for opinions!

Original poster
Crazymum19 · 12/10/2020 17:31

The rules confuse me.
Sorry if I sounded desperate but I thought it was 6 people maximum.
Surely it doesn't matter whether they are children or adults?
Anyways thankyou for advice

OP posts:
Diemme · 12/10/2020 17:34

thismustbe interesting. I always thought children counted but just checked and you're right obviously. Ok definitely fine then.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:35

Can you not see the link I posted? Am I talking to myself?! It is 6 people. Unless you form a support bubble in which his girlfriend is entitled to do with him.

Figgygal · 12/10/2020 17:36

It is six people including children so yes he’s broken the law but to be honest I think you’re onto a loser if you stop contact over it

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:36

Children do count in England. But not when you form a support bubble with another household as a single parent.

They don't count in Scotland. Not sure about Wales or NI.

Velvian · 12/10/2020 17:36

YABU, if she's a single parent household, she can join another household. The rule of 6 does not apply to this situation.

Also, I wouldn't worry at all about 2 households exceeding 6 people, even if it did break the rules. I would report a party though.

Velvian · 12/10/2020 17:37

...also, not urgent.

whatistheworld · 12/10/2020 17:39

@Diemme

thismustbe interesting. I always thought children counted but just checked and you're right obviously. Ok definitely fine then.
children do count in England but as they are children visiting a parent that is separated its a grey area as these visits were always allowed in the full lockdown
ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/10/2020 17:39

Oh thank fuck @Velvian. Thought I was a lone wolf then!