I've been contemplating whether or not to write this for a while now but I've genuinely had enough.
My partner and I got together around a year ago, she lived in a town and I lived in a city about 2 hours away. I lived with 2 of my friends whereas she still lived with her parents (we're both in our mid twenties). I ended up moving in with her for several different reasons but I was over the moon to be able to properly be together. Our plan was to leave her parents house by August/September this year, fast forward to now and we're still living there. This is due to the pandemic and us both being off work for a bit so not having the funds to move. We've worked out our finances and we will have the money to move by February at the very latest.
I love my partner to death and would do anything for her, including living with her parents and constantly dealing with her awful sister and niece.
Don't get me wrong, her parents are lovely people but they're both retired and rarely leave the house. In all the time I've been here I think we've had the house to ourselves twice, for an hour at a time. I still haven't gone back to work whereas my partner has and I'm left feeling trapped. I feel confined to our room and I still don't feel comfortable enough to go and sit alone in the living room with her parents. It's not my home and quite honestly I don't want it to be, I'm desperate for us to have our own space.
Next comes her sister and her niece. Her sister is in her 30's and her niece is 7. I really really dislike her sister. She's demanding, ungrateful, stroppy, rude, obnoxious and childish and her daughter is growing up to be exactly the same. Her sister is so full on, even when we don't see her she's still calling my partner, messaging until late at night, pestering for us to do things that she can very easily do herself but she doesn't even try, she keeps playing the single mum card but I've had enough now. We all do more than enough for her and she still wants more. My partners niece comes over every single Tuesday and Thursday and then has a sleepover on a Friday and doesn't leave until Saturday afternoon which ruins our weekend. Even though she is 7 she refuses to sleep in her own bed and doesn't go to bed until at least 1am because this is the routine her mum lets her follow on the weekends and throughout the school holidays. It's all getting too much and we can't even go on a date together because we put up with backlash from my partners family saying "oh you could have taken your niece along with you". Why would we ever want to take her on a date? She gets everything she wants and between my partners sister and niece, they completely run the family.
We're eager to start our own family (once moved out in February) but we know how much stick we're going to get from my partners sister. It's going to be her telling her child that she's not going to get attention anymore, that her nan has a new favourite, that she's going to get less toys and we're not going to bother with her etc. Her daughter already wants a bedroom in our house which I 10000% do not want. She won't sleep in her own bed which means I'll have to go in a different room whilst she stays with my partner, she doesn't understand that she needs to go to bed before 9pm and let us have grown up time and I just don't want her over at our house all the time. I also don't want to have to see her mum when she's picking her up.
My questions are does anyone have any advice to keep me sane until we move out in February? How would you go about tackling the major issue of the sister and niece? How would you tell your partner that you don't want her having a room in the new house/you don't want her over very often?
Disclaimer - I honestly love children, I studied childhood education at university and every job I've had has been child related but I've honestly never come across a child as spoilt and naughty as this 7 year old. She can be absolutely awful and her mum is twice as bad.