Rude or insensitive things friends have said...

[pattyre]

Been thinking about this after reading a post earlier about jealously, which is where I think lots of these sorts of comments come from! I’ve NC as I’m worried mine could be outing!

When I was 24 I got a job at a city accountancy firm and my (then) best friend said no man would ever fancy men now I had out earned them and I would be ‘back up north where I belonged in no time.’

I’d spent the last four years sitting exams to get the job and this was very crushing to me at the time.

Same friend also said she would hate to have to live in a crumby flat like one of our mutual friends. At the time I lived in a much smaller flat...

I’m actually now wondering why I stayed in touch with her!

Anyone else got any crackers?!

"Remember that time you went for a promotion and didn't get it".

Friend when I was telling her about repeated growth scans I'd had as baby was measuring small, "Maybe it'll be a dwarf" not what I needed to hear at that moment.

My mother when I told her my much wanted baby was a boy after the 20 weeks scan, "Oh, can't we send it back, I wanted a girl"

Discussing corona virus risk factors.
One friend commented that people who are overweight have a higher chance of death if they contract it.
Other friend said quick as a flash “that’s you fucked isn’t it” to me.

On having a perfectly healthy newborn, but missing being pregnant
“I feel bereaved”
Said to me a month after my brother was killed in an accident.

Friend 1: my sister and husband are really struggling working in lockdown with toddler
Friend 2: well at least they have space and not a tiny flat like superfoodie123

Ex 'best' friend phoned me up ten minutes after we had received the results , by post , of our intense , fast-tracked , double-degree exams . She had been in the top stream at grammar school , I was one stream up from the bottom and generally thought to be thick :
' How can you have passed ???', she hissed with vitriol ,
'How can you pass when I didn't ???? It's just not fair !!! You did not deserve to pass and for me to fail !!! You shouldn't have passed and it's not fair ...It's JUST NOT FAIR !!!! YOU DIDN'T EVEN STUDY !!!'
Forty years later she was ripping me a new one after I (very gently) rejected her brother's prolonged , hideously intrusive and inappropriate attempt to shoehorn himself into my life five days before my operation ...'Well ,' she wrote , ' you seem to be coping with breast cancer so I just hope you can cope with this' , and carried on ripping .
These things stick with you ; they alter you .

People make idiots comments all the time. Your friend is not a friend if she can’t learn and grow from it

After my ectopic pregnancy, my mother said "I know a woman who had that and then she had twins!".

I know she was trying to cheer me up, but it was the wrong thing to say.

I've a friend who talks about how busy she is all the time, in such a way as to imply I must have a very empty life to have time to make packed lunches etc. I sometimes wonder why we meet we are so different!

She also asks me to do things that are vastly out of my price range.

Oh goodness, I hate thinking about this!

I had some humdingers when I was first pregnant with DD. I had started my first teaching job on 4 September and found out I was 11.5 weeks pregnant on September 30th!
My sister said “I feel like someone’s died”
My boyfriend said “Can’t you get rid of it”
Someone I trained with said “Pregnant in your NQT year. That’s awful. How will you manage that?”
But me and my little girl are thriving. I completed my NQT year just one term behind and having her has never stopped me from doing anything.

Me (on my first successful pregnancy after three miscarriages): so we found out that it's a little boy!

My friend (who is genuinely lovely normally): oh. I hope if I have a baby one day it's a girl.