Chrissy and John

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I’m so sorry to be reading about the loss of their much wanted son, Jack.

They must be in so much pain.

I just wanted to take a moment to acknowledge baby loss. This morning I’m thinking about all those who have experienced such heartbreak

I've followed her on social media for years and I've been following her pregnancy story. My heart broke for them when I woke up yesterday to the news, it's an awful time. I hope people see their story and feel able to share their own, it shouldn't be a taboo subject and people shouldn't feel the need to hide their loss or feel like they can't speak about their angel baby

@Lardlizard

It’s a life changing loss, this poem might give other a slight insight into how this feels And it’s so much more common then people seem to want to realise

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in other's eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so that they don't hurt quite so much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

This is lovely-Really poignant xxxx

Unicorn I didn’t write it, but it’s the one that slightly captures the lifelong pain of it
Zaphodsotherhead I’m so sorry your mum when through that alone, i feel so much for the women of the previous generations that where treated this way, thank goodness the way most drs and midwiveschandlenit these days is so different
What a lovely thing for your brother to do as well

A friend of mine lost a DC at full term, it was such a trauma obviously for her and her DH. She felt it was important to share pictures of her stillborn DC and of their grief and of them holding and caressing their beloved DC. There are people who don't want to see such Images but those people have an option to not look. The grieving parents don't get that choice.