Are you good in groups of women?

[Iwonder777]

I've come to the realisation that I'm not terribly.

Find it hard to find my place as such.

Are you a natural at group situations with peer women, if so, any tips ?

I’m much better with men. Not in a flirty way, but I grew up with 2 brothers and then studied male dominated courses and work in a male dominated industry. I seem to “get” men better than women. I have a few close female friends, but I’m never really very relaxed in a big group of assorted women like school mums etc.

I'm crap in groups full stop.

What counts as being good?

I'm terrible. I'm quiet and can't get a word in as I find they all talk so fast

Small groups - yes. But I’m not much good in large groups, no matter whether they’re made up of men or women.

I don’t really have any tips, I’m afraid. I’m not sure about your comment about ‘finding your place’.
I think perhaps not trying to be competitive about stuff, and listening sensitively, tend to mean that I don’t offend others and am generally viewed as a reasonable person to be around (I think!).

I’m alright yeah. If it’s women I don’t know well a glass of wine helps. But friendshipwise I only hang out with people I really like so it doesn’t make a lot of difference whether they’re men or women.

What do you find tricky?

1:1 women = I am fine. Big groups = not so good. I am not great at the social dynamics and the loud and dominant women who are sometimes in groups. I am ok with groups of men sometimes but tbh, I am better in 1:1 or small groups full stop

i prefer women's company. I'm grand with men, no problem at all but i just prefer to be with women. At work it's slightly different. I'm surrounded by men, i manage only men. I'm more used to them in a work environment. Still prefer women though.

Totally fine.

Do you mean meeting a new group of women, or in your friends already, or in the workplace?

I try not to make assumptions about people but base my opinions of them on what I observe myself. Then if necessary I avoid the individuals I don’t like very much!

Oh and I try very hard to listen as much as I talk, and gauge whether I'm the person someone is trying to avoid!

Doughnut really? Never ever?

What work do you do if you don't mind me asking, or at least what industry. My company is only 5"% female and I know I've been on a couple of meetings over the years where there were 4 women and no chaps!

I joined a networking group for women business owners and it’s been incredible. I am an introvert groups of people I don’t know are always hard work.

This was different though, maybe it’s the confidence these women have owning and running very successful businesses but they made me feel instantly safe and comfortable.

Maybe if there is a lot in common it’s easier?

Not saying every group of women is easy of course! I’ve been a bridesmaid with some really annoying ones 😂

But overall I find with women listening, smiling and being really positive goes a long way. I like to make people laugh but if that’s not for you then you don’t have to. With women I really enjoy the relaxing sense that (usually) no one thinks anyone is flirting so you can just be...nice.

My first several jobs were in women only or women dominated industries and I’ve always been comfortable in groups of women. They’re just people, there’ll be a bunch of different characters and areas of similarities you can find.

What do you think you find difficult?

I have realised this lately as well. I tend to become withdrawn in groups of 4 or more. It can often seem that there is a constant stream of chatter and I too, struggle to find my place.

I am rubbish in any large groups TBH.

Nope. I am socially awkward, "uncool" and I miss social cues.

I'm great one on one or in groups of women I already know well. I struggle in new groups of women. And even when I make friends one on one I often find they all get together without me

I'm terrible.
I'm fine one on one. Or perhaps two or three at most.
But in a big group I can never get a word in, feel self-conscious, get quieter & quieter & more uncomfortable.
I wish I wasn't like this

Depends who the women are
Same as any group of people.

I find it hard to socialize with my sc's school moms. I just don't connect with them..sometimes I think it's just cause I'm a stepmom. Kinda like i don't feel i have the right to be there...

Nope. I prefer blokes. I feel uncomfortable and always get drowned out.

Yep, quite comfortable. I work with a bunch of women so I'm used to it and I can work a room really well.

Nope. Much better in groups which are mostly men. I never really know how to find a level with other women in a group situation...fine one to one though. I am really not very 'girly' which is sometimes the issue.

I love groups of women. Depending on the dynamics I will either join in a discussion or sit and listen to others.