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Tell me he hasnt got a perfect happy life after what he did to me thie year?

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Rapphue · 26/09/2020 19:46

I know the best thing for me is to put this behind me and forget he ever existed. I’m trying to and have already blocked and can’t see online content anymore. But I just want people to say no he’s not got the happy ending that it looked like on social media. I still feel angry at what he did to me.

With ex DP for 5 years. I worked abroad for two months. He cheated. This woman was pregnant, I find out three MONTHS after he found out because he was ‘deciding what to do about telling me.’ Obviously I ended the relationship.

Within a month he had moved her into his house (our old house, I moved out) three weeks before the baby was due. It’s been four months and this woman has plastered photos of them on social media as if they are some happy family. He told me when it ended that he didn’t know what was happening with the relationship (I asked after I moved out) but said he wanted to make sure she moved in with him so that he could ‘secure his parental rights.’

I’ve since blocked everything on social media and most days I don’t think about them. But this properly broke me and at 36 I am devastated that after dedicating the last five years to me and him that he cheats and then waltzes off into the sunset with this ready made family.

I know I’m bitter. I know I need to stop it. I just need to vent this :(

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Zaphodsotherhead · 27/09/2020 11:48

She wanted a baby - I will take bets on it. She slept with him to get pregnant, so she's got what she wanted. Of course her pictures will be all happy and smiley. And he's desperately trying to recreate what you and he had but with someone he doesn't know very well and with the complication of a baby in the mix...

It won't last. Babies, cute, biddable, dress-up-dolly babies become toddlers who argue, scream, throw food, draw on walls, won't do anything they are asked. It's not the sleepless baby stage that's the danger, it's when the baby becomes a real live human being.

Give it time. By the time his relationship has fallen apart, you genuinely won't care any more. Be kind to yourself and just know that social media is not a window on anyone's life, it's an airbrushed stage set.

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