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My face is horrible-looking

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Jourdain11 · 25/09/2020 21:14

Just that, really! I really don't approve of the way it is looking, and I used to like my face. I lost weight at the start of the year and since then I have hollow cheeks and I look all pinched and unhealthy. You'd think it might have rebalance itself by now 🤔

I've tried supposedly plumping and rejuvenating facial masks, moisturisers etc. No difference, as far as I can see.

And I know it isn't just me, because people say to me, "Oh dear, your face looks very drawn!"

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Humbersider · 25/09/2020 21:17

You know some very rude people.

They're just jealous of your striking, angular features, the pudding-faced bastards.

thecognoscenti · 25/09/2020 21:18

If it makes you feel better, I'm a bit fat and my face is hideous ☹️ if I was thin I'd still look awful

thecognoscenti · 25/09/2020 21:19

PS I bet you look great and the people commenting are rude

oldmapie · 25/09/2020 21:21

the pudding faced bastards 😂
Bet you're lovely OP. And good on you for shifting the pounds...I need more willpower to shift mine.
Swap ya, your hollow cheeked beauty for quadruple chins?!BlushGrin

Jourdain11 · 25/09/2020 21:25

Aww, that's sweet. And I bet none of you have nasty faces - only nasty people have truly nasty faces. Their inner nastiness shines out! Wink

I just feel like my face looks a bit... old and haggard!

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LooseleafTea · 25/09/2020 21:35

I am sure your face is extremely far from horrible!
have you thought of good nutrition to boost your face as IMO it shows in people’s faces more than any products you use . I’ve seen a big change in switching someone to a more wholefoods and veg

DianaT1969 · 25/09/2020 21:45

I bet you look fine. Well done on your weightloss. Have you tried eating more healthy fats such as salmon and avocado?

I just mentioned hyaluronic acid on another thread for plumping. Nip+Fab serum at Superdrug is an example. Apply to damp face in morning.

Marula oil from The Ordinary also plumps and smooths.

Facial yoga exercises on YouTube.

Facial tanning oil drops by Clarins can help put the glow back.

TheRealHousewife · 25/09/2020 21:49

@Humbersider They're just jealous of your striking, angular features, the pudding-faced bastards. < This comment made me laugh out loud... thank you!

CrazyToast · 25/09/2020 21:50

I recommend face exercises. My face was dropping, lost my cheekbones and my eyelids were going down. I do daily face exercises and they have really worked. Have a look on youtube for different ones. You have to do them every day.

Alternatively you could try fillers to plump things out. If you go to a good provider they will ease you into them with a small amount and they are reversable if you dont like them.

Jourdain11 · 26/09/2020 12:01

Thank you for the ideas! I did think that "maybe I'll just get used to it" but I haven't. My face looks a bit aged and gaunt Blush

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Gettingthereslowly2020 · 26/09/2020 12:13

Honestly? If you're really not happy with it then do something about it. Botox, fillers, surgery, whatever. Life is too short to be miserable. There are all sorts of things that you can have done to improve your appearance.

Dowser · 26/09/2020 12:16

You have had a very stressful time though.
It will bounce back.
Mine looks old and haggard
Oh yes it’s because I am old and haggard 😂

LunaNorth · 26/09/2020 12:17


You know some very rude people.

They're just jealous of your striking, angular features, the pudding-faced bastards.

^what they said
ClinkyMonkey · 26/09/2020 12:29

Oh God - pudding-faced bastards - that is brilliant😂😂

ClinkyMonkey · 26/09/2020 12:38

I wonder if maybe it just takes a while to get used to your new and different look. But people should keep their opinions to themselves. I remember my MIL saying to me 'you're awful failed looking' when I lost over a stone as a result of breastfeeding. I just said 'sorry, did you just tell me how lovely and slim I'm looking? I'm sure that's what I heard'. I'm not looking forward to hearing what she has to say when she sees I'm letting my grey roots grow out!

ClinkyMonkey · 26/09/2020 12:40

Sorry, just realised you already said that you've tried to get used to it.

Seventybillionnamechanges · 26/09/2020 12:42

Am sure you look wonderful.
However if you are unhappy and feel gaunt - cheek fillers may help. They sort of round out the face (if done well).

Seventybillionnamechanges · 26/09/2020 12:43

Oh and I find that people say shit like that when you lose weight - is really is jealousy.

fabulousathome · 26/09/2020 13:09

Maybe a different hairstyle would suit your new slim face? Have a look online to see if inspiration strikes or (brave) post a photo here?

LittleEsme · 26/09/2020 13:14

@Humbersider 🤣🤣🤣🙈

ShagMeRiggins · 26/09/2020 13:32

What’s your daily skincare? I realise masks and moisturiser are great but are you using a retinol and vitamin C?

Have you consulted a racialist to discuss this? I got great help for my skin routine and an excellent cleanser plus nightly Vitamin A oil (plus moisturiser) plus a daily Vitamin C oil (plus moisturiser, eye cream, and always sunblock) have made a visible difference.

I also exfoliate once a week and am in the process of reviewing my routine to ensure absolutely everything I use is collagen boosting when possible.

Another thing for great skin—drink at least 2litres of water every single day. At least.

Finally, and this might not be for you, I am on a low carb/high fat way of eating. It can be used for maintenance as well as for weight loss, but the addition of healthy fats (olive oil, butter not margarine, mayonnaise, high fat mince or fatty cuts of meat such as rib-eye, and also fish with Omega oils)...all of these Male a huge difference.

What age range are you in, if you don’t mind my asking?

ShagMeRiggins · 26/09/2020 13:33

Oh God. Facialist, not racialist. Definitely do not visit a racialist.

ShagMeRiggins · 26/09/2020 13:35

Also realise the above sounds a faff but it takes just a minute or two. I can recommend products if you like (and I have no vested interest, just years of experience trying things that work for the skin, face, and shape have).

Haircut also an interesting/good idea.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 26/09/2020 13:45

@gettingthereslowly2020. That’s all well and good but people need “surgery and improvement money”. Op may not have a magic money tree blooming in her back garden.

I’m astonished that people are being so rude to you, op. Angry. I will say this though and I hope it doesn’t upset but Not everyone suits being slim. Some people do look better with a bit of timber on them.

Beautiful3 · 26/09/2020 13:56

Hi, well done on your weight loss! Would you consider filler injections? My 82 year old mother had thinning lips, and had them filled to a natural shape. She's so happy with them now. My sister has botox and lip filler to help keep old age at bay. Nothing wrong with a little help.

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