I was stealthed last night

[Anon00]

I had a drunken one night stand last night, it was really really stupid but I’m only 20 and I’m sure everyone’s been there at some point.

We had sex twice however it was only halfway through the second time I realised that he was lying about wearing a condom. I feel so terrible. I’ve taken the morning after pill (I’ve never done that before I always have safe sex )and he’s in the army so that means he doesn’t have HIV. I don’t think you can get other STD tests at the moment but hopefully it’ll be fine. Is it normal to feel so freaked out by it though ? I’m not really sure what to do I feel a bit violated

[Katinski]

Hey OP! I've read the whole thread, I'm pleased you're going to do all the things you need to, and so, from that going forward, it's going to be onwards and upwards for you.
So just now want to wish you a great, productive and happy time at Uni.

[Anon00]

Update, I called the local sexual health clinic and they’ve given me PEP which is a medication to prevent HIV after a possible exposure to it.

I had a consultation over the phone they said my risk is 0.001% for contracting it and if the sex had been consensual I wouldn’t be allowed it, but because it was ‘assault’ they would give it to me to put my mind at rest. I have to go back in on Monday so they can explain it to me face to face and get a blood test then on the 7th I’m getting an std test and a hep b vaccine. I feel a lot more calm now I’ve got the pep and a bit more in control

[Graphista]

Good update. Inform yourself on the pep and take properly of course. I've had to take myself in the past thanks to a stupid needle stick incident, hope you get on ok with it.

[RuffleCrow]

Contact Rape Crisis op. Surely they can best advise you on tests and also reporting to the police. "Stealthed". God, I'm glad I'm no longer young so i don't have to use opaque Orwellian language to be socially accepted. No offence to you.

[RuffleCrow]

Sorry x-post.

[Buggedandconfused]

What a horrible man. Glad you are feeling better now you have tests and meds. Take care 💐

[Anon00]

@Graphista

Good update. Inform yourself on the pep and take properly of course. I've had to take myself in the past thanks to a stupid needle stick incident, hope you get on ok with it.

Oh I’m sorry you had to take it too, thanks for sharing. What was ur experience with it - would you say it’s worth it when the risk is so low ?
I also forgot to ask them something and now they’re shut until Monday - possibly you can advise me although don’t worry if you don’t have a clue, it’s a twice a day medication and obviously best to start as soon as possible but I’ve got it in the evening - so should I wait until tomorrow to take it or take like all of today’s in one dose ( so the morning and evening tablets both this evening ) ? It only occurred to me after I got it and I don’t have a clue

[Graphista]

I think it is worth it yes - having nursed patients with aids definitely.

I got on fine with it which was actually surprising as I have a lot of problems using meds! Some nausea but nothing major but everyone is different.

From what I recall you don't ever double dose with pep as they're fairly toxic meds in terms of you metabolising them and you're just starting them so take tonight's dose as your first dose then twice daily thereafter

BUT it's absolutely imperative once you start that you do not miss a dose as this significantly affects efficacy - set reminders on your phone!

[over50andfab]

OP you should start the PEP ASAP, ideally within 24 hrs of the event as the longer you leave it the less effective it is. As said you mustn’t miss a dose.

[Anon00]

@over50andfab

OP you should start the PEP ASAP, ideally within 24 hrs of the event as the longer you leave it the less effective it is. As said you mustn’t miss a dose.

I’m going to start it at 9am tomorrow morning, that will be 52 hours after it happened, the woman I spoke to said anything under 72 is fine, hopefully that’ll be okay

[Anon00]

Oh wait I misread the advice from the previous poster I’m going to take a dose now and then again at 9am. So that’s only 41 hours after

[Clairekat45]

Please don’t put blame on yourself ,he assaulted you and lied , I agree with other posters the show I may destroy you covered this and taught me that stealthing is a sexual assault and classed as rape ... you didn’t consent
You’re not a bad person for having a one night stand either , please report this and get any medical assistance you need , and be kinder to yourself , you can dm me anytime if you want a stranger to talk to but most of all you haven’t done anything wrong here x huge hugs for you

[S111n20]

Glad your feeling calmer op.💐

[over50andfab]

@Anon00

Oh wait I misread the advice from the previous poster I’m going to take a dose now and then again at 9am. So that’s only 41 hours after

Good choice.. As said earlier the ideal is within 24 hrs So the sooner the better. Setting an alarm as a reminder to take them is good over the next 28 days. 👍🏻