School mum is posting sexualised photos of her 9yo on IG

[Fressia123]

My DD just confided in me that her friend is being forced by her mum to pose for IG. I've looked the account up and the photos are all very much sexualised. I can only think of the horrible things those photos have been used for and how they're online to never disappear. Is this a safeguarding issue? Should the school know? I've told my DD that she should encoury her friend to tell their teacher, that that's the only way something can be done about it. I'd be grateful for any further advice.

Success! CEOP is going to take it down. So relieved

Will anyone talk to the mother though she could set up another or do it on a different platform.

No criticism to you op good for you for reporting.

I do t know Gerbil . The CEOP made a bigger deal that the mother was impersonating the daughter and that it was without her consent. I would hope they do talk to her but nobody really tells you what's going to be the course of action.

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Success! CEOP is going to take it down. So relieved

I think you need to inform the school as well so they can assess whether just taking down the IG account is enough in terms of appropriate action. There may be other stuff going on or they may decide further action such as speaking to the mother or safeguarding for the child is required.

Don't pass off the responsibility to 9 yr old children!!!!! YOU should notify the school asap.

Your DD did exactly the right thing by telling a trusted adult. But now she needs to be shown that adults are powerful enough to act on such information , to stop harm.

Also, I'd never allow my child to be alone with that mother , so no playdates at friends house.

Also, I'd never allow my child to be alone with that mother , so no playdates at friends house

Really?? Do you think reading the OP's posts there is a snowball's chance in hell she would allow her child to the other mum's house?!

Well done OP for not ignoring it. Great response from the CEOP, shame on the NSPCC for their lack of response

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Also, I'd never allow my child to be alone with that mother , so no playdates at friends house

Really?? Do you think reading the OP's posts there is a snowball's chance in hell she would allow her child to the other mum's house?!

Well done OP for not ignoring it. Great response from the CEOP, shame on the NSPCC for their lack of response

Not even a 'lack of response' - they suggested finding someone to 'talk to the family'. Which is absolutely against all safeguarding principles. If there's something seriously sinister going on, rather than the mum just being a pillock, some random tipping off the parents that this is under scrutiny could cause additional harm.

I'm a teacher. I've had to report numerous safeguarding concerns.

Whilst it's possible that a chat with the mum is all that's needed, steaming in without knowledge of the individual circumstances could do an awful lot more harm than good.

Exactly @CorvusPurpureus . I think the mum isn't thinking things through and that's all that there is, but I also know she'll think she has every single right to do it and there's nothing wrong about it.

It shocks me how some parents let their primary school aged kids look. One child in year 4, already in the throes of puberty, in a short cropped top on non uniform day. Then another child (year 6 but tall enough to look at least 14) wearing such a small skirt that you could see half of her bum cheeks . It looked obscene, like she was wearing the tiniest miniskirt with not much in the knicker dept for all to see on sports day. What was the mother thinking??? No Dad on the scene.

Skort

Shorts/skort/gym skirt, are perfectly normal attire for sports day.

Also I genuinely don't have an issue of what they let them wear that's their parenting and I can't judge. But taking photos and putting them online without her consent is a different matter.

No Dad on the scene

What does this have to do with anything?

I can't speak for the poster but my interpretation was that when she said what was the mother thinking, she went on to say no dad on the scene because normally people say what about the dad, why is it only the mother at fault etc etc.

I interpreted it as the child is wayward/dressed inappropriately because raised by a single mum with low standards. Wonder what the poster meant.

Another update. account is still up, but now it has a disclaimer saying it's manages by the mum. School never replied to my email so I don't know of they'll do anything about. I've done my best.