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How to get my daughter to close her door quietly!

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GreyishDays · 05/09/2020 12:57

She’s 12 and feels like she wants privacy, so has started closing her door. She’s doing it without turning the handle so about 30 times a day there is a big slam noise. I’ve asked her to close it quietly.
Any ideas for what I can do? I’m fairly noise sensitive and it’s really upsetting me.

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Babababababybelll · 05/09/2020 13:11

Obviously you're a kinder parent then me.

By the second week of lockdown my new rule was , slam the door once , warning.

Slam it twice , i took it off its hinges and she lost it to the next day.

It was a faf, but she was horrified, and after losing it three times - the door hasn't been slammed in weeks ha

Sexnotgender · 05/09/2020 13:13

Definitely consequences. My daughter loses 25p off her pocket money per door slam.

CloudSingsAloud · 05/09/2020 13:13

That's what we did too! But only had to do it once, there were tears. Hasn't been slammed since Grin

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IslandLulu · 05/09/2020 13:17

Polite note with a smiley face stuck on the door as a reminder should do the trick

Sexnotgender · 05/09/2020 13:19

@IslandLulu

Polite note with a smiley face stuck on the door as a reminder should do the trick
😂😂
TwoZeroTwoZero · 05/09/2020 13:24

Install a soft closing spring thing on it 😂

RandomMess · 05/09/2020 13:33

I have considered taking the door off too or in our case just the catch out the door handle...

tiredanddangerous · 05/09/2020 13:35

Tell her if she does it again you'll take the door away for a week. Follow through.

vanillandhoney · 05/09/2020 13:49

Get one of those things they have on emergency doors so they can't physically slam it at all. If nothing else, it'll be quite amusing watching them trying to slam a non-slammable door Grin

Toilenstripes · 05/09/2020 14:00

She slams the door, it stays open for two hours. No arguing allowed.

Thisisnotnormal69 · 05/09/2020 14:06

Agree you need strong consequences!

TweetUsOnFacebook · 05/09/2020 14:09

If my dd slams her door she gets one of these put on it www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07VPP115H/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_R24uFbCEKMT1B?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

copernicium · 05/09/2020 14:09

I removed the handle and catch about two years ago now...

phatsandsmall · 05/09/2020 14:12

@Babababababybelll

Obviously you're a kinder parent then me.

By the second week of lockdown my new rule was , slam the door once , warning.

Slam it twice , i took it off its hinges and she lost it to the next day.

It was a faf, but she was horrified, and after losing it three times - the door hasn't been slammed in weeks ha

My parents had this rule.. we soon learned to close the door quietly Grin
giantangryrooster · 05/09/2020 14:19

Get one of these felt things for chairs, put it on the door frame. It should be a thin one so the door closes, but it will remove the noise.

How to get my daughter to close her door quietly!
Sexnotgender · 05/09/2020 14:56

@giantangryrooster

Get one of these felt things for chairs, put it on the door frame. It should be a thin one so the door closes, but it will remove the noise.
It would be preferable to teach her to do as she’s told and not bang the door!
giantangryrooster · 05/09/2020 15:11

Sexnotgender with teens you got to choose your battles imo. 'Turn of the light, don't bang the door, don't this, do that'.

We all too easily turn into nags and with a teen there are often more important battles to take Smile.

Thisisnotnormal69 · 05/09/2020 15:13

Yes but hopefully you also want to teach your kids to be responsible adults and not act just as they please! Otherwise they won’t get very far in life

KitchenConfidential · 05/09/2020 15:15

You’ve asked her to do something, she is repeatedly ignoring your request. So you follow through with consequences.

EL8888 · 05/09/2020 15:26

Not sure but it would be good to know for my mum. She literally slams every door she encounters nearly off their hinges!

Sexnotgender · 05/09/2020 18:48

@Thisisnotnormal69

Yes but hopefully you also want to teach your kids to be responsible adults and not act just as they please! Otherwise they won’t get very far in life
Exactly. I have a teenager. I expect her to do what she’s told.
Relocatingtohome · 05/09/2020 18:49

@Babababababybelll

Obviously you're a kinder parent then me.

By the second week of lockdown my new rule was , slam the door once , warning.

Slam it twice , i took it off its hinges and she lost it to the next day.

It was a faf, but she was horrified, and after losing it three times - the door hasn't been slammed in weeks ha

Same here. We have a no slamming rule - I broke my fingers as a child when my sister went to her room upset with my mum -I followed her to give her a hug -she slammed the door and broke all of 4 of my fingers -so no -no slamming at all.
GarlicMcAtackney · 05/09/2020 23:15

Put an elastic loop of a face mask on each handle of the door, the latchy bit will be covered by the fabric of the mask, and will stay there until she can develop self control and stop blundering about like a nob.

Ginkypig · 06/09/2020 00:35

We had two doors to the living room growing up my dad got so pissed off with it banging that he nailed one shut one day.

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GreyishDays · 06/09/2020 08:12

Brilliant replies everyone, thank you so much!

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