Banter or being an arsehole

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Both are men

Friend A writes on his facebook status

‘(Wife’s name is pregnant!’

Friend B writes on friend A status

‘Tell me who done it mate and I’ll sort them out’

Friend A blocks friend B

Arseholery or banter?

Banter can be tiresome so maybe A is sick of B’s sense of humour.

Can you imagine wife a posting
“Just found I’m pregnant“ and a friend responding “Ha ha does your husband know you’ve been sleeping around?“

It’s just twatty behaviour people just want to hear congratulations and know their friends are happy for them. I love a bit of cutting, dry wit but banter isn’t this it’s just lazy, non funny pot shots and put downs at your friends expense under the guise of “just joking”

It’s banter.

Friend A could have replied something like “Beat me up next time you see me” or something. Blocking is pretty childish in this situation.

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Read that as clearly meant to be a joke.

I must be a terrible person too because I found it funny and it’s probably the sort of thing I’d say to a friend ¯\(ツ)/¯

Unless there’s a massive backstory A is being overly precious and overreacting

blocking is ott

Oh COME ON. So many people on here seriously need a personality transplant. That is so CLEARLY banter and the fact they're friends and have grown up together shows that they have a close enough relationship to be able to joke around with each other.

A has a stick up his arse. As do most of the people replying on this thread saying it's "inappropriate"

Takes the shine of what should have been a very special anouncement and on a public forum making it worse. Not nice for the mum to be.
One person's funny is another person's cringe. Know your audience. May have been funny on a private message.

I really think it depends on the type of person B is.
If any of DH's friends replied like this I'd prob say banter, although not that funny but if a specific friend, who really hates anyone else having good fortune, replied like this I'd def say he was being an arse

I think it’s quite funny, but you really have to know your audience if you’re going to make that sort of joke.

@mrsmummy1111

Oh COME ON. So many people on here seriously need a personality transplant. That is so CLEARLY banter and the fact they're friends and have grown up together shows that they have a close enough relationship to be able to joke around with each other.

A has a stick up his arse. As do most of the people replying on this thread saying it's "inappropriate"

It's possible to have a sense of humour and not be a cunt AT THE SAME TIME. Some of the men I know who do this are the least funny people I know. They think they're funny. But they're just mean and unfunny.

Most likely intended as banter, but if people have been having problems with fertility issues, it may well have caused offence.

Banter is punching up, arseholery is punching down. It depends on the relationship between the two guys as to which of the above it is. And probably not best in front of onlookers either way.

Unless you are actually one or other of the couple concerned, you can't be absolutely sure that a sperm donor was not used. The couple may not necessarily make this known even to close friends. B should have erred on the side of caution.

Just to make it plain how much of an uptight prude I am "stick up his arse" is another phrase that is, to me, indicative of a certain desensitised sense of humour. It relies on brutalisation to be amusing.

@Dontjudgeme101

I hate that word Banter. It is used by people to say mean and cruel things to people and dress it up as a joke. They should ban that word. I can’t stand it!

Totally agree with you.

I agree. The only time it ever get labelled as "banter" is when people are trying to defend some tasteless / semi offensive behaviour anyway.

I don’t get banter that’s why I’ve asked. I know A wife and my first thought that it was incredibly misogynistic and derogatory towards her but maybe I’m missing that it was a ‘joke’

Eh? How can you not get banter?

It’s just humour ... you either find something funny or you don’t.

All in all the situation is pathetic. The comment wasn’t funny and it’s also pathetic for a grown up to be upset and block someone over a joke.

A joke offends you as an adult then let that person know.

I can assure you I don't have a 'stick up my arse' because my idea of banter appears to be considerably more sophisticated than your terminology might suggest.

Think if it was said face to face would just be banter but on a public forum just not v funny