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Banter or being an arsehole

69 replies

Sixlargeeggs · 29/08/2020 14:23

Both are men

Friend A writes on his facebook status

‘(Wife’s name is pregnant!’

Friend B writes on friend A status

‘Tell me who done it mate and I’ll sort them out’

Friend A blocks friend B

Arseholery or banter?

OP posts:
TroysMammy · 29/08/2020 15:03

Juvenile twatishness.
When a friend of my husband's told him his girlfriend of a few months was pregnant he asked "is it good news for you?" When his friend said yes my husband congratulated him and said how pleased he was for him.

Bunnymumy · 29/08/2020 15:07

Sounds like A maybe had his nose put out of joint
...feeling the comment stole attention away from his post. Hense a knee jerk reaction. Unless maybe he'd been growing apart from B for a while and the risky comment was just the final nail in the coffin.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/08/2020 15:08

Who are you in all this @Sixlargeeggs

CuriousaboutSamphire · 29/08/2020 15:08

Well, yes!

Hi friends, wife is pregnant

Who has she been fucking behind your back?

That would tend to put noses out of joint.

Original poster
Sixlargeeggs · 29/08/2020 15:09

@Bunnymumy

Sounds like A maybe had his nose put out of joint ...feeling the comment stole attention away from his post. Hense a knee jerk reaction. Unless maybe he'd been growing apart from B for a while and the risky comment was just the final nail in the coffin.
Probably this tbh
OP posts:
BlueJava · 29/08/2020 15:09

Arsehole.

Who wants a nasty comment like that on Facebook when they announce happy news for all to see? It's horrible, plus designed to put the attention on to the arsehole, not on the happy news announced by the couple.

giantangryrooster · 29/08/2020 15:11

It's a stupid joke. Unless A has a massive story of wife cheating, it's way too much drama over a crude joke.

WorraLiberty · 29/08/2020 15:12

I love it. That's just my sense of humour! 🤣🤣

But you have to choose your audience and it seems he doesn't know his friend's SOH as well as he thought.

GisAFag · 29/08/2020 15:12

I thought that was a funny response. If the 2 have shared same humour history then it's a massive over reaction. Know your audience

VampireBill · 29/08/2020 15:13

Banter. And why the hell would anyone 'announce' a pregnancy on facebook? It's just a throwaway comment for a bit of a smile. A is over-reacting.

toolatemate · 29/08/2020 15:15

Banter / bad sense of humour

Chocaholic9 · 29/08/2020 15:17

Banter

heartsonacake · 29/08/2020 15:20

Banter; it’s funny.

Everyone has different senses of humour so if you don’t find it funny that’s okay, but the comments about it being disrespectful and all that bullshit are just ridiculous.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 29/08/2020 15:20

It could just get away with being banter if it was amongst themselves at the pub perhaps? On a public forum, very inappropriate.

thirstyformore · 29/08/2020 15:25

So many uptight people! It was a joke. Person A is the bigger knob. Must be a right barrel of laughs going out with some of the posters on this thread Hmm

Newnamenewopenme · 29/08/2020 15:27

I wouldn’t like it, but there’s a chance we will end up having to use donor sperm or adopt. If we used a donor we wouldn’t tell anyone so a comment like that could cause upset. They might be in a similar position secretly.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 29/08/2020 15:28

Yes. I am uptight. I hate all humour that requires a victim.

I don't find other people's distress or discomfort amusing and can't understand anyone who does!

RaspberryToupee · 29/08/2020 15:29

A might have over reacted. However, a pregnancy announcement is not the time nor the place for banter. If B can’t realise that, he’s probably the type of person who is always ‘bantering’ and this is probably (rightly so, IMO) the final straw.

However, I think most banter is borderline arsehole. My brother is one for banter. If you’re his friend, you’d probably call him a lad. If you’re not his friend, you’d probably call him a dickhead.

Lisa78Lemon · 29/08/2020 15:29

I found it funny so must be a terrible person :p

Commenter needs to read the room but if that's a standard thing he would say to him in real life, I don't see the issue. Its quite obviously a joke.

RandomTree · 29/08/2020 15:30

Something between arseholery and banter IMO. Not funny (which banter should be) but clearly trying to be funny.

PurBal · 29/08/2020 15:32

I don't really do Facebook. DH doesn't use social media at all. So the idea of posting personal information on it is a little alien. I'd probably block them too, but I'm not sure I know anyone who would do this...

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 29/08/2020 15:37

B is saying to A in a round about way that A has been cuckolded and is making a joke out of it at completely the wrong moment. I would say definitely a case of B being an arsehole.

Call me humourless if you want!

lemorella · 29/08/2020 15:38

It's a bit of a gross way to take the shine off a lovely announcement, but that's Facebook for you. I would have just deleted the comment not the friend.

Dontjudgeme101 · 29/08/2020 15:42

I hate that word Banter. It is used by people to say mean and cruel things to people and dress it up as a joke. They should ban that word. I can’t stand it!

bringbacksideburns · 29/08/2020 15:43

It's unfunny banter not worth a block.

Is there past history as I'm thinking the person annoys them generally - hence the swift block.

Overreaction.

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