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New Job Think I have Twins

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SmellyKipper · 25/08/2020 13:31

I have 2 children (4 and 7) and had an interview for a new job yesterday, I always get really nervous in interviews. I mentioned to the interviewer that I had two young children, the youngest is 4. She replied with "twins? how lovely" and spent a good 5 minutes talking about how lovely twins are. For some reason I didn't interrupt her, I felt sick with nerves over the interview because I really need the job and just smiled. Anyway this morning I have had a phone call offering me the job and will be working closely with this woman. How do I tell her I don't have twins? The thought is making me cringe and making me consider backing out just so I don't have to have the conversation.

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JanewaysBun · 25/08/2020 13:33

Haha oh no!

You will now need to borrow a friend of youngest DC for bring your child to work day it is the only option!

BeeFarseer · 25/08/2020 13:37

Style it out. Ask her how HER twins are doing. Wait for the inevitable confusion. Then go 'OH, so you thought I had twins and I thought you had twins, how funny!'.

Laugh, move on.

frazzledasarock · 25/08/2020 13:41

Don’t over think it. Accept the job if you like it.

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ShirleyPhallus · 25/08/2020 13:42

Tell her she misunderstood and that you have triplets. Then the next time you speak, tell her you have quadruplets. Repeat until she thinks you’re Octomom.

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SmellyKipper · 25/08/2020 13:43

I was going to send her an email saying "by the way, I don't have twins" but I think on balance that would make me look more of a crazy woman .

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Simonsaysitschristmas · 25/08/2020 13:43

I would play dumb OP. Accept the job and when it inevitably comes up into conversation just say “oh no, I don’t have twins. They’re 4 and 7 - sorry I must have not made myself clear due to the nerves”

Honestly no one will think anything of it (and congratulations on getting the job )

DramaDromedary · 25/08/2020 13:46

@BeeFarseer

Style it out. Ask her how HER twins are doing. Wait for the inevitable confusion. Then go 'OH, so you thought I had twins and I thought you had twins, how funny!'.

Laugh, move on.

Love this. Do this!

SandysMam · 25/08/2020 13:46

Ha ha this has really made me laugh and exactly the kind of thing I would do!!! Good luck in your new job, some simple suggestions up thread which should get you out of this one!

Champagneforeveryone · 25/08/2020 13:51

I once (for reasons best known to myself) blithely told my new hairdresser my parents were dead (they weren't)

His haircut was so wonderful I forced myself to go back and style it out. The memory of the look of confusion on his face still makes me feel guilty to this day.

OrigamiOwl · 25/08/2020 13:59

Do what @BeeFarseer suggests... That's a good way out of this one.

2bazookas · 25/08/2020 14:00

No problem at all, it was a simple mistake. Hers not yours.

If it comes up you just say "No, they're 4 and 7, not twins"

If she says " but I thought you said twins" you just say

"you must have misheard, I said the youngest is 4. "

No mystery, no cringe, nobody has anything to apologise for.

withgraceinmyheart · 25/08/2020 14:06

Don't worry about it! Accept the job and enjoy it.

I don't know if the previous good suggestions up thread will work (I don't know how far you took it!) but even if not, it's the kind of thing that will become funny once you've worked there a few weeks and you tell her what happened. Just don't make a big deal of it and tell her how you were nervous and didn't know how to say.

She won't think anything of it. We've all done stuff like that. I was once nodding along to a conversation whilst nervously distracted by something else going on in the room. My friend told me later that I'd agreed that I was covering the event for a local paper, that the woman had given me a quote for the article and that she was going to look out of it.

I was mortified! It happens.

listsandbudgets · 25/08/2020 14:06

LOL.

Don't worry OP... I once told someone I had a twin... I don't. I honestly don't know what came over me but they said "oh I saw you at that event the other day" and I said "no that must have been my twin sister"...

Then I kept meeting her and she'd ask me which twin I was.. I even made up a name for my twin and sometimes answered to it so she'd think I was the other twin

Disclaimer - I was 10 years old and when the lady asked my mum if her twins didn't get on because she never saw us together there was a lot of confusion

cherrybakewellll · 25/08/2020 14:10

If it makes you feel better, slightly off topic but I think interview nerves sometimes get the better of people. I work in healthcare and when interviewing a candidate for a certain position, he told me 'oh I'm fine with dead bodies, I mean I've never worked with any officially but back home I saw loads'.

I was. My boss at the time went ahead and employed him anyway.

We've never discussed it

cherrybakewellll · 25/08/2020 14:12

Oooh also when I was 19 I went for a job at a very small company, just a nearly retired surveyor, his PA and I was to be receptionist. He said something about he likes to walk past the village school in his lunch break but sometimes he thinks the teachers think he looked dodgy. I just blurted out 'well you do look the type'. I have no idea where that came from other than nerves.

He actually said he gave me the job cos he thought I was hilarious.

I would do as precious poster suggests, just say 'oh sorry I thought you meant you have twins!'

Thefaceofboe · 25/08/2020 14:35

Sorry Op this really made me laugh. This is the type of thing I would do. Definitely take the job and just deny you ever said you have twins.

inthebleakmidwinteriwouldsing · 25/08/2020 14:44

@2bazookas

No problem at all, it was a simple mistake. Hers not yours.

If it comes up you just say "No, they're 4 and 7, not twins"

If she says " but I thought you said twins" you just say

"you must have misheard, I said the youngest is 4. "

No mystery, no cringe, nobody has anything to apologise for.

But for heaven's sake don't say "You must have misheard, I said X."

Even if you know you definitely did say X.

It's just rude and she's going to assume she misheard anyway, she's not going to think you said something that wasn't true (unless the job is at the Parents of Twins Association and you need to have twins to work there!)

You want to make a good impression on these people so just say "We must have got our wires crossed" or something. I'm normally all for standing up for yourself but there's no need to make a simple misunderstanding into a he said/she said.

Catlover77 · 25/08/2020 14:49

This thread is hilarious! I can’t stop laughing

Happynow001 · 25/08/2020 15:03

@Simonsaysitschristmas

Honestly no one will think anything of it (and congratulations on getting the job )

Yep. This ^^ OP. Don't overthink it. Don't make a huge apology. Nerves can get to anyone at interview and a person can blank out for a moment and by the time you're refocused the conversation has moved on. Been there...

Congratulations on your new job! 🌹

tmh88 · 25/08/2020 15:18

oh don't worry, a colleague I worked with misheard my name, I think the entire office called me Gemma for about 3 months before I got the balls to say its JENNA.

AlwaysLatte · 25/08/2020 15:28

Say you had your cousins twins visiting.

Cissyandflora · 25/08/2020 15:38

I misheard someone’s name when I was introduced. He was Wolf. I think I just thought -that can’t be right - so I called him Wilf. It made more sense to me. We spent a lot of time together and he never said anything about his name and I always called him Wilf. Ages later I saw it written down. Wolf. It was wolf. Not Wilfred. Different vibe completely.

passthegin1234 · 25/08/2020 15:47

This has tickled me. I can't stop laughing! Just the kind of thing I would do!

BlueJava · 25/08/2020 15:57

Just leave it - you are way over thinking it! Accept the job if offered (good luck!) then if she mentions twins when you start just say "Oh sorry, I think it was a misunderstanding at interview, my kids are 4 and 7" or whatever. then move on. Really don't email her - that would be weird!

MrsSlocombesPussy · 25/08/2020 16:00

I agree with PPs, just say it was a misunderstanding and move on. Don't go along with it. A woman at work called me Alison for 2 years before I finally corrected her. The first time she did it, I let it go, and from then on I was too embarrassed to tell her!

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