Gender Reveal

[coylygirl]

Hi all, I've been invited to a gender reveal party and I'm really excited having never been to one before. My question is this: is it usual to take a gift and if so, should this be for the expectant parents or for the anticipated little one? I am happy to bring a gift but just wondered on the correct protocol. TIA

I don't believe there is any correct protocol for something so tacky and so recently invented. But anyone who has a gender reveal is bound to be pretty grabby so yes I would expect would judge you for not bringing a present.

Ignore the mood hoover.
Yes a gift for the baby would be nice and maybe something for the parents.
People on here get so weird about something that's a bit of lighthearted fun, I'd hate to be so cynical.

No, no gift.

Imagine they'd have a baby shower, do a gift then. Or after the baby's born. I prefer gifting once the baby is here.

For the revealing-the-baby's-sex party, I wouldn't bring anything.

Jeez. A gift for a reveal, they sound the type to have a baby shower so you’ll feel pressured to buy a present for that and then when the baby is actually here! I’d just show up and pretend to be excited

Thanks for that, I was just pleased to be invited tot the celebration. They are first time parents and just soooo excited. I will take a little something for each x

I know people will flame me, but 'gender reveal' is biological nonsense.
People are born with a sex. Yes, sex is a continuum, with extremes and inderterminate middles, but is it based on biological/physical facts.
Gender is a social construct. It's how we expect/demand/tolerate individuals - regardless of their physical biology - to behave.
Unless you can see maybe 10 or 20 years into the future, you simply cannot tell what a person's gender may turn out to be.

I'd tell them I think 'gender reveal' parties are transphobic. That way I get out of attending such toe-curling tacksville AND collect woke points at the same time.

But you say you want to go so... I'd take a bottle of Prosecco. You may need it.

I always wonder if parents do this for subsequent children.

Would they do it six times if they had six kids?

Suspect people would grow rather tired of it its an absolute nonsense.

I see the joy police are on patrol this evening.

OP, I don't know the protocol but a bottle of bubbly probably wouldn't go amiss.

I've never been to one but would take a bottle of fizz for the parents and then a present for the baby at the baby shower 🍾

I love giving little baby gifts so would probably buy a little babygro or a small newborn toy.

I’ve accidentally been to one before, DH hadn’t read the full details so we just thought it was a bbq.

We took a bottle of wine & some elderflower cordial for the pregnant host. A handful of people took baby gifts, it seemed to be more like the type of gifts you would take to a dinner party or bbq.

With gender reveal gifts, baby shower gifts and then newborn, the baby/parents will have had three lots of gifts by the time it’s born, surely no one can be that entitled to expect that!

I’m with those who say it’s tacky.

I think it’s very self centred to expect people to come to A PARTY arranged to REVEAL if the sonographer saw what looked like a penis or vagina on your baby.

What ever happened to:

“Aw what are you having”?

“A boy”

“Nice”

Job done.

But hiring a venue, commissioning a professional cake, playing games, bursting a probably expensive balloon or whatever-
T A C K Y

So tacky.

Yes, sex is a continuum, with extremes and inderterminate middles

No. Sex is not a continuum. It is a binary. Male and female. One produces large immobile gametes; the other small mobile ones.

Balls to all those saying it's tacky, if you want a gender reveal party, have one. If you're invited to one and don't want to attend, then don't.

I did actually have a gender reveal party with my second pregnancy. I had immediate family and a handful of friends and their children. A friend organised the 'reveal' part and I organised food and drinks. It was a fun few hours and was a real treat to find out if I was having a boy or a girl with my DS and parents there.

Didn't have a reveal or baby shower with my first pregnancy as I was far too cool for that sort of tacky grabbiness. Second time round I couldn't have given less of shit what people thought and loved seeing other people get together and have fun.

A mug emblazoned with
SEX NOT GENDER

@ItchyScratch

I’m with those who say it’s tacky.

I think it’s very self centred to expect people to come to A PARTY arranged to REVEAL if the sonographer saw what looked like a penis or vagina on your baby.

What ever happened to:

“Aw what are you having”?

“A boy”

“Nice”

Job done.

But hiring a venue, commissioning a professional cake, playing games, bursting a probably expensive balloon or whatever-
T A C K Y

YES YES YES

It's just so desperately needy

gosh Have a read of this www.scientificamerican.com/article/sex-redefined-the-idea-of-2-sexes-is-overly-simplistic1/
or this blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/
They are simpified to help people understand the science.

You lot are a miserable bunch tonight aren't you.

FWIW I also think gender reveals are a bit cringe, but that's not what the OP asked.

I think for gender reveals I'd just take something for the parents (something the mum can use during pregnancy maybe) rather than something for the baby. That's what I've always done. It's such a long time until the baby is here whatever gift you get for the child will be lost in a sea of other crap by the time the baby gets here

So what are the other gametes beside Sperm and Ova?

Spova? Overm?

Can spova and overm come together to create a human embryo?

I would just take a small bouquet of flowers. Enjoy the party!

*pertella^
As I've said before, have a read here:
www.scientificamerican.com/article/sex-redefined-the-idea-of-2-sexes-is-overly-simplistic1/
or this blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/
They are simpified to help people understand the science.

Personally, have no axes to grind. Have been with v conventional/heterosexual DH for decades. But from my own observation, peoples' lives can be very complex in all sorts of ways and still very important.

I've read it. If sex is a spectrum then there should be a spectrum of gametes.

What are they?

@florascotia2 what are these other sexes then?
I have a biology degree. Those articles are rubbish.