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Does my daughter stand a chance at all?

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 13:25

This is a copy of her reddit post:

My dissertation was due today at 12 and the university’s policy is that any work submitted 1 hour after the deadline will not receive any penalties, so I submitted my work at 12:58. After which I went on my email to let the course leader know that I’ve submitted it and saw the email she sent 6 weeks ago that said because this is a resubmission, work must be submitted by the deadline or they won’t be marked and the assignment failed. I don’t know what to do, I’ve not emailed anything to the course leader because I’m panicked, scared, angry, sad and can’t think straight, and I’ve also not received an email form anyone. This was my last piece of work. I don’t know what to do

Is there anything she can do?

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TeaAndHobnob · 13/08/2020 14:48

Awwww, bless her. No advice but I hope you get it sorted. We've all made mistakes, and I can understand how she might be feeling about this.

Could you draft the email to her tutor, and persuade her to copy it and send it? If she's depressed the effort of putting words to things might be too much.

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 14:49

@AlexaShutUp

OP, it would be awful if your dd lost her efforts of the last three years for this one mistake. Please do encourage her to communicate with the department about this. I used to work for a university and I think they would have shown some leniency in these circumstances.

In the meantime, I hope that you can find a way of helping her to stay positive. She definitely shouldn't assume the worst yet. Hopefully it will get resolved soon.

Oh, and please ignore all of the posters who revel in telling you that it was her own stupid fault. Yeah, she was obviously wrong not to read her emails properly and to submit after the deadline, but who hasn't done something really stupid at some point in their lives?! Most of us are just lucky that our stupid mistakes don't cost us too dearly. People should have a little heart!

Thank you for this.
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howlathebees · 13/08/2020 14:49

She needs to contact her tutor ASAP, the longer she leaves it the less of a chance she has of them accepting the dissertation

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 14:51

@Choochoose

She really needs to contact her tutor if there's any hope, leaving it won't help at all. I appreciate that can be quite a nerve wracking thing to do, but even if she emails and then shuts her computer down for the rest of the day until she feels more able to face it.
I agree.
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triff123 · 13/08/2020 14:52

@roundtwotooto

Really hope this works out ok for your daughter OP!
Thank you.
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triff123 · 13/08/2020 14:52

@TeaAndHobnob

Awwww, bless her. No advice but I hope you get it sorted. We've all made mistakes, and I can understand how she might be feeling about this.

Could you draft the email to her tutor, and persuade her to copy it and send it? If she's depressed the effort of putting words to things might be too much.

That's a great idea, thank you!
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marns · 13/08/2020 14:53

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RandomTree · 13/08/2020 14:54

Definitely contact her lecturer ASAP (rather than contacting the central admin team or waiting for anyone to contact her). I think it will be ok (fingers crossed).

Collision · 13/08/2020 14:54

Really hope this works out well for her.

Mental health is horrific.

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 14:54

@marns

Please tell your daughter to email, I graduated this year and my university would never contact me if I missed a deadline or exam it was always up to me to contact them. Do we know if the lecturer actually received the submission - my online submission portal would have closed at midnight so they wouldn't have received it. She really needs to make the first move and fast. Good luck!
Thank you.
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whereverwhenevernone · 13/08/2020 14:55

No idea who that is, love, but perhaps you could explain how allowing students to disregard deadlines improves their career prospects for the future?

She didn't disregard the deadline, she misunderstood.

Your football comparison read like a spoof.

So sorry it appears you were actually genuine and seriously thought you were making a reasonable point and not taking the piss at all. My apologies.

Quartz2208 · 13/08/2020 14:55

Does she suffer from a need for things to be perfect OP? Because if you do get it so it is allowed (and she does need to be very proactive about this) she then needs to focus on exactly what made her need to use every single minute of time she thought she had and not checking her email

IsaLain · 13/08/2020 14:55

What is she going go do when she is out in the real world working and makes an error or misses a deadline? Is she going to hide in her bedroom and refuse to contact her boss?

This was already an extension, and she read the email telling her there was no grace period, she then submitted it with 2 minutes to spare in the grace period she knew no longer applied, and even if it did she left herself no time for technical problems. It sounds like a deliberate attempt to self sabotage and now she is refusing to engage with the uni because she doesnt really want to solve the problem. There is a lot going on here and she should perhaps be seeking some counselling because she cant behave like this if they do allow her to pass and she gets a job.

MacduffsMuff · 13/08/2020 14:55

Jeez oh there are some right arseholes on this thread. OP is asking for advice, not for some of you perfect Penny's to give her daughter a virtual kicking (she's stupid/she's ridiculous etc). The OP has already said, yes her daughter behaved stupidly to leave it til the last minute but some of you just cannot wait to stick the boot in. What a dreadful way to conduct yourselves.

@triff123 as others have said, her course leader needs to be first port of call. I hope she gets something sorted, this is a nightmare for her.

Zilla1 · 13/08/2020 14:56

OP,

keep communication open with your DD.
if any demerit is applied then appeal, based on COVID (and MH). Make it clear to the university what their path of least resistance will be.
encourage your daughter not to catastrophise in the short term and learn from experience in the long term.
Congratulate her on completing her studies and help her plan for her next steps once it's clear what will happen.
Good luck.

Livpool · 13/08/2020 14:56

People on here are harsh!

A young woman made a mistake - she doesn't need 20 lashes!

OP - I would very much echo others that she needs to get in touch with the tutor. Once that is done I am sure everything will be fine

YorkshireTeaIsTheBest · 13/08/2020 14:57

Email the course leader copy and paste the bit about the extra hour allowed previous and explain she thought it still applied and ask if it will be counted as submitted and marked.

Don't ignore it.

IsaLain · 13/08/2020 14:58

What's with all the "a young woman made a mistake". She isnt 12 years old starting high school with no idea what's going on. She is an adult, tigen very clear instructions and has already gone through years of further education. Handing things in on time really is the most basic concept which she would have learned many years ago.

WinterIsGone · 13/08/2020 15:00

Hopefully, the course leader will be lenient. Fingers crossed.

[On a technicality, did it specify GMT or BST? If she submitted it by 1 BST, it was technically 12 GMT.]

Genevieva · 13/08/2020 15:01

All I can say is I am glad I was a student at a time when we didn't submit work electronically. A deadline date I can support, but a deadline minute is just absurd. What about last minute power outages or technical problems?

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 13/08/2020 15:01

In the interests of clarity could you just confirm for me the cut off date for allowing human error?

Bin85 · 13/08/2020 15:03

Have a good think about your friends who know her
Any people of good standing like doctors etc who will vouch for her
Write a letter of support saying what a loss it would be if she didn't pass and write about her health problems
Find out if there is an appeal committee and when they sit
You need to give them some evidence for her to be allowed through
Will anyone at the university speak to you and advise ?
They may say no as she's over 18 but worth a try.
I will message you

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 15:04

@Quartz2208

Does she suffer from a need for things to be perfect OP? Because if you do get it so it is allowed (and she does need to be very proactive about this) she then needs to focus on exactly what made her need to use every single minute of time she thought she had and not checking her email
Yes, she gets anxious where she needs to double/triple check everything
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IdblowJonSnow · 13/08/2020 15:05

It's really not in anyone's interest to fail her is it?
Doesnt look good for the uni either for their students to fail.
I wouldn't fail someone for that.
But none of us can say. She needs to be incredibly polite and apologetic. A valuable life lesson in not leaving things until the last minute.
Good luck.

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triff123 · 13/08/2020 15:05

@MacduffsMuff

Jeez oh there are some right arseholes on this thread. OP is asking for advice, not for some of you perfect Penny's to give her daughter a virtual kicking (she's stupid/she's ridiculous etc). The OP has already said, yes her daughter behaved stupidly to leave it til the last minute but some of you just cannot wait to stick the boot in. What a dreadful way to conduct yourselves.

@triff123 as others have said, her course leader needs to be first port of call. I hope she gets something sorted, this is a nightmare for her.

Thank you
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