Posting family photos on Facebook

[Rollergirl11]

We are on holiday. I have taken quite a few lovely pictures of us as a family out for dinner and strolling along the beach of an evening. DD(14) says she doesn’t want me to post any of the pictures with her in them on Facebook. Obviously if there was a particular photo that DD really hated I wouldn’t dream of it but she doesn’t want me to post ANY and there is absolutely nothing wrong with how she looks in any of them. And she is in all of them.

She doesn’t use Facebook and nor do any of her friends. Would you respect the wishes of your teenager, resulting in not being able to post anything? Or do you go ahead regardless?

Yep I would respect her wishes definitely.

Or use one of three many free apps and blur her out?

Respect her wishes. Can't you just text them to people if you really want them to see that you're on holiday?

Yes, respect them, my two asked me to stop when they were younger than that so I did. Our agreement is that I can only post photos if they are in the very far distance or backs turned, no close-ups.

Of course you respect her wishes . Blur her out or post ones without her. Or let her take the pictures!

You have to respect her wishes on this.
Are there none you can crop her out of?

Of course respect her wishes.

Yes I would absolutely respect her wishes. Who is it in Facebook that you really want to see the photographs? Can you not just email them to specific friends and family?

Yes I'd respect her wishes.

Why do you want to post your family holiday pictures on Facebook?

Yes of course you respect her wishes otherwise what are you teaching her?

Do you really have to ask if you should respect your daughters wishes? Surely that's a given! If someone doesn't want their photo plastered on social media then it shouldn't be, it doesn't matter how old that person is or if they use said social media. She has a right to privacy and her own choices as much as anyone else.

Of course respect her wishes. You have the pictures to look at any time you want, no need to post them for all to see if that's not what she wants. Post with her blurred out if you really want to post them. You can include that sadly dd doesn't want to be seen on it.

Yes, you must respect her wishes on this. Take a photo without her in it, if you want to put one on Facebook.

Why would you NOT respect her wishes and right to privacy?

Would you like if she was posting videos of you to Tik Tok without your consent?

Okay, I hear everyone. It’s just such a shame as there really is nothing wrong with how she looks in any of them

It’s maybe not about how she looks. I am quite a private person and I simply don’t want pics of me or my kids online. Nothing to do with how we look.

It may well not be about how she looks! I don’t post any pictures on social media not because I’m worried about how I look, but because I don’t feel the need to share my life with the world, and understand that as soon as a picture is out there it’s no longer my own. Be thankful that she understands about being safe online and her rights to privacy

X-post with @Budapestpest

It’s not always about vanity.
It can be about privacy and autonomy.

Please do respect her wishes. Photos last forever on the internet. DD might understand that these photos could be dredged up at any point for the rest of her life by people she doesn’t know and she doesn’t want that.

We have had a policy since DD was born of not putting photos of her online. There is no need. SIL puts every photo I send to her via text of DD on her Instagram feed. It really annoys me. I don’t know what she is doing it for. No one on her insta knows DD or really cares.

This is exactly why I don't post pictures of my toddler on social media. She can't consent to them being available online forever.

I have Facebook friends where I feel I 'know' their children even though we've never met because they are such prolific posters.

Could you ask her to a few pictures of all of you? That way she is involved and you get to post some pictures.

I've become adept at taking photos just showing the DCs backs in the distance, or just the food in a restaurant or whatever for SM as well as the family photos for our own use. I've also noticed that as our DCs have become teens virtually nome of my friends post photos of their DC anymore, even those that used to post prolifically. I only ever did occasional ones.

I'm the same as @Budapaestpest and can be quite private. I never post pics of me or my children on social media as them photos are of our special family moments for us to treasure. Im so glad I grew up in the era before social media as I would have hated my photos splashed everywhere for the whole world to see. I really do think parents need to think about how their children will feel when they are older and there's photos from the second they are born plastered everywhere for the whole world to see. Poor kids have no privacy these days.

I agree too. I've left the odd one of my two from years ago on FB but I don't tag them, don't post their names, have strict privacy settings and don't think there's anything too embarassing. Neither of them use FB themselves and I have my tags set to "must be approved" so if someone else posts photos of them and tags me they won't automatically pop up on my wall.