Posting family photos on Facebook

[Rollergirl11]

We are on holiday. I have taken quite a few lovely pictures of us as a family out for dinner and strolling along the beach of an evening. DD(14) says she doesn’t want me to post any of the pictures with her in them on Facebook. Obviously if there was a particular photo that DD really hated I wouldn’t dream of it but she doesn’t want me to post ANY and there is absolutely nothing wrong with how she looks in any of them. And she is in all of them.

She doesn’t use Facebook and nor do any of her friends. Would you respect the wishes of your teenager, resulting in not being able to post anything? Or do you go ahead regardless?

This is why people shouldn't post pictures of their new baby on Facebook, you don't have their consent and later on in life could be like your daughter. Please don't post them.

I agree with the rest, just blur her out and post them, maybe make a private fb page with just your family on and post there so nobody else but you and her can see them and you still have the unedited images for her to look back on.

I hated having my photo taken in my teenage years but now in my 40's I'm so glad that some were taken.

Yes, absolutely respect her wishes. If you want pics for FB get her to take them.

I can see my now 3 year old being like this in later life. If I so much as lift my phone in his presence for any reason, picture or otherwise, he tells me to put it away!

I think what a PP said is right about technically not having your kid's consent. If your DD is actively saying she's uncomfortable with it, don't do it.

I cannot believe you considered going against her wishes.

If you want to share a couple of photos with specific people then ask her if she’s comfortable with you sending them directly. We use iCloud shared albums a lot for this within our family and Google have something similar.

Definitely don't post them. You're lucky you even have any. I refused to even be in any photos from about 13-18.

Definitely respect her wishes.

My DD 14 asked me this over a year ago and I respect her wishes. X

• It’s not always about vanity. It can be about privacy and autonomy.*

This ^

It’s just such a shame as there really is nothing wrong with how she looks in any of them

Seems as if you are really not getting it.

We spend so much time educating our children about being careful with their online presence only to put pictures of them up on social media! Mine asked well before 14 not to be put on Facebook etc. I regret doing so when they were younger and make use of Facebook memories to delete as many as I can.

Im sure it's not about how she looks. You should talk to her about this to find out her reasons. Hopefully you'll learn something from her.

@Budapestpest

It’s maybe not about how she looks. I am quite a private person and I simply don’t want pics of me or my kids online. Nothing to do with how we look.

This.

You really should respect her wishes.

Let me put it this way... you'd rather get some random likes from people you probably don't speak to much in real life, in order to show off that you are on holiday, rather than respecting your own daughters privacy and feelings?

I only share on Facebook photos of my DDs that they've agreed I can. Likewise, DD1 only shares photos of me (on Instagram stories etc., not Facebook) that I've agreed to being shared. DD2 isn't old enough for social media accounts yet.