If someone is due to turn up between 11-12 what time do you expect them?

[7seven7]

I appreciate it isn't 12 yet but I'm still waiting for my dad and stepmum to arrive. They are notoriously late to see us but I thought today might be different as they are staying locally and had breakfast booked ages ago. I don't expect they'll be here until after 12 now. They are coming up see baby DS who they have met once as a newborn. He is going to want to nap soon. Argh. I'm probably being unreasonable but it really starts to grate. Just having a moan.

That's a bit shit. Have they not heard of this invention called the mobile phone that you can use to let people know if you will be late?
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11:30

'between 11 and 12" would mean just that to me. I'd expect to arrive or have someone arrive within that hour window.

The idea anyone of saying "between 11 and 12" and then sitting at home being annoyed that someone hasn't arrived when it's not even 12 sounds uptight to me.

I'm also in agreement with it being annoying if you say a time and then people arrive early. If I wanted people to arrive 10 minutes early then that's the time I'd have said. Nobody gets a gold medal for showing up before agreed, quite the opposite.

Sorry as predicted they turned up just after I posted this so about 12. To the pp I did say I appreciate it was still before 12 but they are staying 5 minutes drive away. There is not much to do around here on a Sunday where we are and they had breakfast early. I told them to come around 10/10.30 but they then said that was too early which is fine. I said 11 and they then proceeded to say somewhere between 11-12. I got the impression that it would be closer to 11.30 but obviously I was wrong. We only discussed this last night. To answer why I would invite around the baby's nap, well it's all gone to shit at the moment anyway with the heat. My DS doesn't know what to do with himself half the time so naps are literally when he crashes. I can't really plan that. The loose plans were made weeks ago. The times were discussed last night.

And yes I'm incredibly uptight

I would say 11.30 or earlier, anything after is late lol how is 11.45am late? It is between 11am and 12,pm. I would expect the person to arrive by 12pm. I would consider them late after 12pm but only start to get a bit annoyed after about 12.15pm

Anywhere between 10:45 to 12:30ish

It doesn't matter if they're staying a 5 minute drive away. If the window was 11-12 then that's the window to expect them, whether they're traveling 5 minutes or an hour.

From your update, I'd say they clearly didn't want to do a morning thing and though you all agreed a late morning window, their suggestion of 11-12 after you'd said 10/10:30/11 was a sign they were probably going to arrive shortly before 12.

@LolaSmiles yes it would appear so, as I said, I'm very uptight

@JamieLeeCurtains

If someone's wrangling young DC, then up to about 12.45!

Unencumbered adults, 11-12 as agreed or a phone call explaining why not.

This would annoy me, turning up as late as 12.45 when you’re due between 11-12 is plain rude (kids or not).

12-2pm

South Asian time works differently.

"Expect" has two meanings.

In the sense that I think it's when they should arrive, between 11 and 12, dur.

In the sense that I think it's when they will arrive, if they're known for being always late, then probably about 2 pm, or they'll text at 2:30 saying they can't be bothered.

@7seven7

I did say YABU but I do have family members who I know are always late so I get worked up waiting for them too. So I don’t think your uptight

Between 11 and 12. They have a whole hour to work with, I would think it was rude to be later than 12. I am a very punctual person though, I know everyone is different!

@Sunrise234 thank you as a one off it is fine but they do a variation of this every time. I'd rather they just said we won't be ready until at least 12. They had asked when was best to see DS but it wasn't the times they wanted. I dunno I just find it frustrating.

In better spirits baby DS got a little present which was very thoughtful of them. Naturally he loved the box it came in.

In better spirits baby DS got a little present which was very thoughtful of them. Naturally he loved the box it came in.

😂😂😂 that’s nice. Yes I would feel the same especially as they’re so close by!

I'd be much more irritated by 10.55 than I would by 12.05.

@SteelyPanther and the opinion of every single person I've ever talked to about this. It's just unnecessary stress for whoever is hosting you. Selfish.

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