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If someone is due to turn up between 11-12 what time do you expect them?

94 replies

7seven7 · 09/08/2020 11:56

I appreciate it isn't 12 yet but I'm still waiting for my dad and stepmum to arrive. They are notoriously late to see us but I thought today might be different as they are staying locally and had breakfast booked ages ago. I don't expect they'll be here until after 12 now. They are coming up see baby DS who they have met once as a newborn. He is going to want to nap soon. Argh. I'm probably being unreasonable but it really starts to grate. Just having a moan.

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SleepingStandingUp · 09/08/2020 12:33

Mil 12.30
My mate 1
Generally 11-12

MondeoFan · 09/08/2020 12:33

Between 11.30-12.15

Nacreous · 09/08/2020 12:33

I would aim for 11 but not be stressing about leaving time for traffic, parking, realising I need to hang a load of washing out before I go, so would likely end up nearer 11:20-11:30. 12 is the latest time for arrival.

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Candyfloss99 · 09/08/2020 12:33

If you want to know exactly what time they will arrive then ask them for a more specific time than an hour's window.

purplecorkheart · 09/08/2020 12:34

Around half eleven till about 11.45. Unless it is me and I would be there at eleven after spending twenty minutes killing time at the end of the road.

BogRollBOGOF · 09/08/2020 12:35

Up to 12 was still on time and 12:15 up to normal bounds of inaccuracy.

I arrange a 30 minute window with friends, so would say 11:30 until 12. I have 11:30 to aim for and then the buffer of until 12 to absorb unforseen delays and miscalculating (especially if meeting somewhere different where things like parking are harder to anticipate.

RedskyAtnight · 09/08/2020 12:37

Depends a bit where they are travelling from. As you say locally I'd expect them arrive between 11 and 12. If they had a long journey, I'd accept that there would be a chance of holdups and they might be late - though I'd expect them to get in touch if it was going to be a lot later than, say, 12.15pm.

JamieLeeCurtains · 09/08/2020 12:40

If someone's wrangling young DC, then up to about 12.45!

Unencumbered adults, 11-12 as agreed or a phone call explaining why not.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 09/08/2020 12:42

I'd expect them to turn up about 11:30. I'd be annoyed if it was after 12, but then lateness is my biggest pet peeve

PhoneLock · 09/08/2020 12:44

I they say they are going to arrive between 11 and 12, I would expect them to arrive between 11 and a bit past 12.

Unless there was something specific planned for exactly 12, it wouldn't bother me if relatives were bit late.

AbbieFB · 09/08/2020 12:45

11.30-11.40

If it was one of my friends she’d be on my doorstep at 10.59, another friend would turn up at 12.30.

lifestooshort123 · 09/08/2020 12:46

Between 11 and 12! If I was the visitor I would aim for 11.15 and that gives leeway for extra traffic. Those who say up to 12.30 is acceptable make me laugh - heard the saying 'she'd be late for her own funeral'? It's disrespectful and rude not to arrive in the agreed time scale and if there is a problem, that's what mobiles are for!

Redlocks28 · 09/08/2020 12:48

I wouldn’t invite people who were notoriously late with a given time of 11-12 and then get annoyed they were late.

Teluna · 09/08/2020 12:50

If they are notoriously late then you must have known they would take ‘11-12’ as 12, and then been late for that too...

In the future factor their lateness in and expect them to be later than whatever time you agree.

LadyCatStark · 09/08/2020 12:54

Me: 11:15-11:30
My parents: 10:50 😂

JazzaGal · 09/08/2020 12:57

No later than 12. Go about your day as per normal. DS had regular naps and was a nightmare if he didn't.

DPs asked to come for lunch. They turned up at 2:30pm. DC were up at 6, there was no way I could expect them to wait (as they wanted us to).

JazzaGal · 09/08/2020 12:58

OHs parents are the opposite, 10:30 in that scenario. Too early or too late is rude.

Sheknowsaboutme · 09/08/2020 13:00

Obvious answer is between 11 and 12.

wagtailred · 09/08/2020 13:02

My family 11.02 my DH family 2.30

TyroSaysMeow · 09/08/2020 13:04

Depends who it is.

Friend A will have given an ETA based on bus times without bearing her power-walking in mind. I'd expect her between 10.30 and 11. Friend B is habitually twenty minutes late and I'd expect him at 12.20.

You know they're always late, OP. I know it's irritating, but it becomes a lot less so if you stop setting yourself up for irritation by expecting them to be on time.

SteelyPanther · 09/08/2020 13:06

10.55am.
You should always be early.

Tumbleweed101 · 09/08/2020 13:07

Depends on the people being invited. Some would be near 11 and others pushing 12 or just after but usually you’d have an idea where those particular guests would be in that
Kind of time frame.

pinkbalconyrailing · 09/08/2020 13:09

depends.
my mum would say 'between 11 and 12' and we could be sure she would be here for dinner.

for most people though anytime between 11 and 12 and they would let us know if they are running late.

Spied · 09/08/2020 13:09

I'd be looking out the window for them at 11:10 and worrying something had happened to them by 11:30. But that's just meBlush

Pelleas · 09/08/2020 13:12

With an hour long window for arrival, I would expect them to turn up by 11:59.

However, people seem to have lost all notion of courtesy these days, so it wouldn't actually surprise me if they didn't arrive till 2pm. Sad