Screaming

[LakeFlyPie]

Why do parents let their small children scream?
I live next door to a park and there have been what sounds like 2 children screaming in the playground since before 8am. They are not in distress but intermittently keep letting out very loud and prolonged screams, probably chasing each other and it's really fucking annoying
I have 2 DSs and when they were small if they screamed we just asked them to stop as it was unnecessary and they needed to consider those around them. IMO children can have great fun without screaming loudly.
Would be interested to know if there is a correlation between children who scream when small and teenagers (usually female) who scream and shout late at night as part of their socialising 😒

Yanbu to be annoyed by the children screaming randomly. It’s so annoying and so disrespectful of the parents to just let them scream.
Not sure about the correlation you mentioned to being a teenage girl screaming and being a screaming toddler though...

Some kids are screamers, some aren't. I'm grateful DS isn't, but some of his friends are. DD remains to be seen.

The 'some kids are screamers' argument doesn't wash with me, IMHO kids whose parents don't teach them that it's disrespectful to others are screamers.
Alex I wonder if kids who scream (ie don't learn that it's not socially acceptable to scream loudly and incessantly in the company of others) grow into teens who continue to display that behaviour

LakeFlyPie but how do you know that the parents aren't teaching them not to scream? With my sons friends, they scream, parent tells them not to, they scream again, parents take them to one side for a time out, kid screams again, kid gets longer time out and a talking to. The kids still scream, because some kids, when happy or excited and in the moment, scream. They often then clap their hands over their mouths because after the fact they know they shouldn't have done it, but in the moment, it is there way of expressing themselves. When my DS screams, it is because he is copying his friends, so he is disciplined accordingly, it is not his natural response and is therefore within his control and is dealt with differently from behaviours which are innate to him but less desirable from a social perspective - something he will learn as he gets older. That is not to say that I do not inform him and remind him that those behaviours are not liked by others, but I don't discipline in the same way.

I'd move.

We've got screamers nextdoor, 3 boys. It's a nightmare in the summer, hottest day of the year and all our windows are shut.
Not chance of us sitting out.

It's like a screaming competition, they all take turns constantly.
Their mum just lets them get on with it. She must just switch off, no idea how.

I cannot get DS to stop shouting, when we're out I can reel it in by telling him we will go home when he does it but at home or the car all I can do is keep reminding him.

I probably tell him to stop shouting 50times a day. I also find it annoying but I'm doing my best

@VacMan

We've got screamers nextdoor, 3 boys. It's a nightmare in the summer, hottest day of the year and all our windows are shut. Not chance of us sitting out.

It's like a screaming competition, they all take turns constantly.
Their mum just lets them get on with it. She must just switch off, no idea how.

You really need to have a polite, civilized word with their parents about that!! No, General child noise cannot be enforced by EH but nothing wrong with politely asking her to try keep it down. You are entitled to enjoyment of your home

I have 5 DC and my number one rule for playing outdoors was no screaming. My fear has always been that if you get used to constant screaming in the neighbourhood should there ever come a time when a child is in trouble and needs to scream, nobody would respond. I told all of mine you only scream if you are in trouble.

I agree @Alwaysinpain but she's a single mum and I'd feel bad having a moan.
I can just moan on here instead

We get a bit of peace when they stay at their dads or we just pray for rain.

"Let" Hahahahhahahahahahahhahhahaahahaaa no.

Sorry, it's the memories, they make me slightly hysterical.

Lives next door to a park. Complains about kids letting loose in the park.

Classic.

Little kids are still learning. Older (primary age) NT kids who do the intermittent shrieking whilst playing are annoying. Prolonged screaming particularly when the child is not playing with others could be sn which may not be possible to stop.

I'm a single mum! It doesn't give her a free pass to let her kids run riot, I'm a bit annoyed that you put her in a 'special' category.

Here screamers are bloody annoying. But I feel I should be That MNer who points out that some kids with asd , etc. can't help it and it's utterly exhausting trying to stop it and feel judgement from all corners.

We have screamers near us. Too far away to pinpoint which house, but too bloody close!!!

If your kid screams take him/her indoors. Repeat as often as necessary.

I have two children who are screamers next door, listening to it all day every day during the nice weather in April/May while trying to work from home at the kitchen table wasn't fun. I couldn't use noise cancelling headphones because I needed to keep a listen out in case my own DC needed something.

@TakemedowntoPotatoCity

I'm a single mum! It doesn't give her a free pass to let her kids run riot, I'm a bit annoyed that you put her in a 'special' category.

Here screamers are bloody annoying. But I feel I should be That MNer who points out that some kids with asd , etc. can't help it and it's utterly exhausting trying to stop it and feel judgement from all corners.

I was a single mum too, raised my DD on my own from 6 months old. I know how hard it was and I only had the one. I agree with you, I would not have put up with that behaviour.

They are very young so I'm hoping they'll grow out of it.

Screaming kids are so annoying but honestly you live next to a park you are going to get noise from kids !

My 2 year old is quiet around other people but around her dad an I she literally doesn't stop talking and is loud and screams when she's excited. We ask her to be a bit quieter and she will calm it down but you have to remember not every kid is the same, it's pretty unfair to judge the parents parenting just cause their kids scream. You literally have no clue how these kids are at home, I mean god, they're at a park. Get over it or move.

Mine were very much discouraged from screaming in the garden; the park, beach etc were places where making noise was acceptable.

I live next to a school playground and yes, they scream. It’s just what some kids do.

My DD7 is autistic and when she gets really excited she screams and flaps her hands and when she gets really frightened she screams too. Some children can't help it and believe me those parents are probably trying hard to get them not to do it

There are two kids that live across the road from me and they scream constantly all day long, real screams like in horror films, they compete with each other and the parents do nothing, if it's not the screaming it's the loud music, seriously loud and their mother sits on the door step in scruffy pyjamas smoking her tits off watching them, I'm in my late fifties and can't remember kids screaming like this when I was small, I accept that some children have special needs and have difficulties such as ADHD and autism, they can't help it but I think it's ridiculous when perfectly healthy kids are just allowed to screech like velociraptors because their parents can't be bothered to teach them that it's not acceptable to be inconsiderate, they just turn into the kids that don't get invited to play dates or parties because they have no boundaries, the two that live across the road from me upset everyone, we can't sit outside or have the windows open when it's nice outdoors because of this family that won't control their kids or have them blessed or get an exorcism or something.

I love living next to the park and hearing children and families playing, can even cope with excited shouting; it's just the unchallenged incessant screaming and people who let their dogs off the lead to bark non stop at the squirrels at 0600 that does my head in

Before I had children I hated screaming kids with a passion. Now sometimes I'm so used to it, I think I'm acclimatised or I zone out and I forget how bloody annoying it is.