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He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

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WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

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DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 26/07/2020 20:07

The 'something that came up' probably wasn't a patch on you he realises he has fucked up and is sniffing back round again.

The problem is that each time he fucks up and up forgive him, he will like you more, but you will like him less, so at the point he's ready to commit, you won't even like him.

If he is this awful, this early on, when he's supposed to be impressing you, can you imagine what the future would hold.

I would change my WhatsApp picture to me and a good looking guy, not block him, but read his message/s and never respond again.

Good job you found out he was a prick this early on before you wasted even more time on him.

Patsypie · 26/07/2020 20:08

Just say 'no worries' with a smiley. Don't block or say anything else or he'll know you care. Ignore any other messages then discretely block.

Twilbury · 26/07/2020 20:09

I would definitely just say no worries and then ignore!
Dont give him a chance to get under your skin.
You have nothing to prove to him or yourself about this interaction.

RunningFromInsanity · 26/07/2020 20:10

I would do the laughing emoji.

ThickFast · 26/07/2020 20:10

God he’s a knob.

conduitoffortune · 26/07/2020 20:12

But I think what he will take from the laughing face is that he's got to you. Any response needs to be indifferent, the height of not arsed. I like the idea of standing him up but what if he doesn't commit to the next date again, he would still walk away thinking he's king dick

kitschplease · 26/07/2020 20:12

Laughing emoji or thumbs up.
He's a rude person- lucky escape!

FondueOhOh · 26/07/2020 20:15

I vote ignore. He is not deserving of a second more of your time.

Laundrywoman · 26/07/2020 20:15

The brass neck of him.

Sunnydazey · 26/07/2020 20:15

I vote ignore too, it’ll drive him mad that you haven’t responded

OldLace · 26/07/2020 20:16

Problem is, if you arrange a further meet so you can stand him up,
he might repeat yesterday's nonsense again so rob you of satisfaction?

I'd not reply at all, and block if you wish to.
(it has taken me many years to reach this point though...)

sunflowersandtulips50 · 26/07/2020 20:16

So he texts you on date night saying he is a few mins away and then doesnt turn up and then blocks you....part of me would block him but the other part of me thinks to say 'who is this? ...I dont know what your talking about then see what he says and then block

Longwhiskers14 · 26/07/2020 20:17

"Can't talk now, I'm on a date."

strawberrymilkshakemonkey · 26/07/2020 20:19

it's a 'new phone who dis' situation OP. i'm sorry you got stood up but sounds like you had a lucky escape - he seems like a twunt

Chocolate1984 · 26/07/2020 20:19

Why not just tell the truth? Why did you tell me you were minutes away, block me and then stand me up? Once you get/don’t get an answer just say it was a really selfish and inconsiderate thing to do and then ignore him. You were annoyed, he was horrible, tell him.

Cherrybakewellard · 26/07/2020 20:19

Just don't reply and if he texts you again say 'sorry I couldn't reply sooner, something came up that was Far more interesting and a higher priority than you'

Original poster
WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 20:19

Oh no sunflowersandtulips he didn't text to say he was a few minutes away, he answered his phone and actually told me he was

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Queenest · 26/07/2020 20:21

Don't arrange to meet him. He’ll stand you up again!

Just ignore the twat. Or 🔔🔚

Bemorechicken · 26/07/2020 20:22

@OhioOhioOhio

Hmmm. I'd say, 'no worries'. I wouldn't want him to think I was so hurt I cared to block him.
I wouuldn't want him to think he's got away with it. I'd just ignore. Or say "Why text? You stood me up? My friends and I think you are a real catch - not. It costs nothing to be polite and text to cancel. That is just ignorant of you"
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WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 20:22

chocolate1984 that's what I want to do because I feel like I deserve an actual explanation but I can't see him being honest. And if he is, I won't believe him anyway

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Chocforthewin · 26/07/2020 20:23

Defo ignore 👌🏻 sometimes no response is a bigger response

Whenwillthisbeover · 26/07/2020 20:24

👍🏻 would be enough for rme. I wouldn’t give the satisfaction of a reply or blocking. Thumbs up and ignore.

Naillig222 · 26/07/2020 20:24

I wouldn't stand him up. It's petty and you'd be stooping to his low level.

I'd just not reply and delete his number.

MarshaBradyo · 26/07/2020 20:24

He was pretty much walking away when he did this. The text was just an afterthought.

I wouldn’t say no worries. I’d leave it.

TheFaerieQueene · 26/07/2020 20:24

Don’t reply. He has no respect for you and any reply he will see as weakness. Just block and forget. A waste of space like this hasn’t got any right to squat in your head.