Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

530 replies

WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

OP posts:
MrsMozartMkII · 26/07/2020 23:05

I liked the "sorry about the nervous accident" one.

YouSofunny · 26/07/2020 23:05

I've had guys (a group of them) chat me up because I looked sad and I was alone having been stood up. They were proper blokes as they sent the gobshite a photo of me kissing the one I liked and sent it to the other fella. He replied with 'no need to be so mean'. We all had a round of shots then haha.

Lady - there are plenty more fish. He was probably married. Go get yourself a nice guy.

SmileyClare · 26/07/2020 23:06

Serenda ha ha that made me laugh Grin

The language is all very Carry on film isn't it. Hmm

ballsdeep · 26/07/2020 23:07

You should say to him

I'm sorry, I didn't realise that having something come up meant you had to block me from WhatsApp.

What a cock

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 26/07/2020 23:08

I would also place money on whatever this bullshit reason is, he will try to confide in you, has never told anyone about this before but he knows he can trust you, before trying to get your sympathy.....

I have met a million if these men, they love to stick to a script.

Apileofballyhoo · 26/07/2020 23:08

Also think he's married (worst case) or he had set up a date with someone else and met them instead of you, but they've dropped him. Arsehole.

Fawnandwren · 26/07/2020 23:10

@mrjolly a hahaha 😂😂

BillBaileysBum · 26/07/2020 23:13

Look, yesterday was a shitty way to treat someone but to be brutally honest you did me a favour. Let’s just face it, this wasn’t ever going anywhere, you’re a nice guy but I’m just used to a bit... more. I’ve got a couple of other dates lined up now so let’s let this thing die it’s death. Take care and have a great life.

SpookyNoise · 26/07/2020 23:16

I think his wife got in the way of him meeting you.

BobbieDraper · 26/07/2020 23:17

If something actually gets in the way, you cancel. You can still lie if the real reason is embarrassing but you cancel; you dont say you're on your way! The guy is playing power games or is just an idiot who cant think on his feet. He isnt a good catch!

TenShortStories · 26/07/2020 23:19

Given his latest message you have to reply:

"Things came to a climax? Sounds like we're talking about an erectile dysfunction issue, yikes. That's a bit of an over-share but it does explain things so I can see why you felt the need to tell me. I'm glad for you that you got it sorted."

Then quickly block.

PurpleSproutingSomething · 26/07/2020 23:21

I wouldn't block, or reply, I also wouldn't turn the read ticks off.

It will drive him crazy to think you're reading them and not responding.

It doesn't matter about the brands of phones if you're messaging through whatsapp, if you can see two blue ticks from the messages you've sent, he'll see the same from you.

PurpleSproutingSomething · 26/07/2020 23:22

And once he's gone quiet, like others have said, I put money on him messaging with a 'hey' in a couple of weeks time.

Shizzlestix · 26/07/2020 23:25

Block him, he’s an idiot.

k1233 · 26/07/2020 23:32

It wasn't ideal to lie and there was no way he was going to make it - so he told you he was 10 mins away? Can't think on his feet can he LOL

Silence is obviously rattling him, so keep it up and see just how ridiculous his excuses become.

ThickFast · 26/07/2020 23:34

Wow, silence clearly bugs him. Bet he’s desperate for you to ask what came up.

Nomorepies · 26/07/2020 23:34

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn by MNHQ on the poster's request.

oakleaffy · 26/07/2020 23:35

Not sure how to link my other thread. Basically, had a 3rd date lined up, booked a table. 10 mins after we were supposed to meet I called him, he said he was a few mins away. Then he didn't turn up and blocked me

@WhosThatGirl89

Sounds like he has a wife or girlfriend......The blocking is classic, why else not contact you?

My SIL {divorcing} is dating a so called ''wealthy single man''
Turns out he is married with 4 children........and doesn't want to leave his wife..... I think SIL is nuts.

Notredamn · 26/07/2020 23:45

Nooooo. 'Who's this?' only implies that you're being stood up by more than one person.

I'd be tempted to ask what came up and go along with it, like Daisy May Cooper did with the sea captain (and the others) for a laugh. But in reality I'd just block.

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 26/07/2020 23:46

sorry but he had a better offer that didn’t turn out so well

It would have been better to totally ignore him or just a simple goodbye he isn’t worth anything more and will see through a lie

Any attention is good attention for him

Casmama · 27/07/2020 00:03

I wonder if the answering the phone and saying he was on his way was for the benefit of someone in the room while he took the call rather than you.
It seems very likely he is either married or was with someone else on Friday night.
I would ignore completely.

jessstan2 · 27/07/2020 00:08

@TenShortStories

Given his latest message you have to reply:

"Things came to a climax? Sounds like we're talking about an erectile dysfunction issue, yikes. That's a bit of an over-share but it does explain things so I can see why you felt the need to tell me. I'm glad for you that you got it sorted."

Then quickly block.

Oh I love that one!
Bringonthebloodydrama · 27/07/2020 00:22

"Stop texting me."

Staffy1 · 27/07/2020 00:25

@WhosThatGirl89

I like the idea of arranging to meet then standing him up or ordering loads of stuff then leaving
Except it won't work if he just intends to mess you around again and stand you up again. I think the suggestions of replying with "no worries, I met someone nice, hope you eventually find someone too" are good ones.
YourWinter · 27/07/2020 00:32

From a friend's many years' experience of PoF, I think 99% of the men on there are ready to jump at what looks like a better offer. Or they're married / in a LTR, bored and looking for a bit of fun. It's where they get to hone their skills at lying and deceit. Perhaps 99% of the women on there are too, but she's the only person whose experiences I've heard about (through her 40s and into her 50s).

OP just don't answer, or certainly not with anything inviting a reply (like "Who's this?". He's shown he's rude, dishonest, unkind, dim, and he doesn't deserve another minute of you thinking what might have been. The problem with not answering is he might think you're enjoying stringing it out until you actually do meet again. So maybe better to reply with something absolutely 100% final, even if it is an emoji, so he knows not to bother thinking he can use you as entertainment whenever he has nothing better to do.

Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option.