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He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

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WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

OP posts:
user1294625849274 · 26/07/2020 22:19

I guessing you have 1 more message coming your way, something along the lines of “I get the message, but it really couldn’t be helped"

Possibly followed by a full-blown tantrum when that still doesn't work.

Tbh ignoring him is more satisfying than any message you could send.

sonjadog · 26/07/2020 22:20

Could he be any vaguer???

WhattheHhashappened · 26/07/2020 22:20

Did he have a panic attack? Is he a twat or does he suffer from some sort of anxiety disorder?
Not making excuses for him but I can’t think of any other reasonable explanation why someone would bail like that...

PatchworkElmer · 26/07/2020 22:21

You’re doing the right thing by not replying. It will drive him insane.

WizardOfAus · 26/07/2020 22:21

PS- don’t reply to second text (or pathetically predictable 3rd, 4th, 5th texts). However much you want to. Don’t do it. It will fuck with his mind and deflate his ridiculous ego.

WhattheHhashappened · 26/07/2020 22:21

Oh yes... girlfriend or married!

Russellbrandshair · 26/07/2020 22:22

My guess: you’ll get one more whiny self entitled text saying something like “it really wasn’t my fault. I promise I can make it up to you, there’s no need to ignore me!”

Then after 3 weeks you’ll get a “hey”

Lol

WhattheHhashappened · 26/07/2020 22:22

You’re doing the right thing by not replying. It will drive him insane.

Haha yes, this!

diddl · 26/07/2020 22:22

So he still hasn't explained?

SidesteppinTheRona · 26/07/2020 22:23

Eurgh! That final text made me want to punch something! What a complete wankshaft he is.

OP you’re doing the right thing by completely ignoring. He left you sitting alone in a restaurant let down and embarrassed like a saddo, after having lied to you. Then says he HAD to lie to you.

What a despicable bell end.

Shizzlestix · 26/07/2020 22:23

@WizardOfAus that thread was epic!

I’m amazed (and appalled) that he’s messaged again, how bizarre! What a very odd man.

Honeyroar · 26/07/2020 22:27

I remember the lady that got dumped after 3 weeks and Ignored all his texts. It was definitely the best thing to do, it drove him wild!

UsainDolt · 26/07/2020 22:27

Reply "please don't worry. It worked out for the best in the end."

BumbleBeee69 · 26/07/2020 22:28

he sounds very needy Grin

Honeyroar · 26/07/2020 22:28

He’ll probably message you telling you you’re rude for not replying.

Apileofballyhoo · 26/07/2020 22:29

I'd be tempted to text back something random, like "No, there were definitely 6 or 7 of the big ones. I decided to leave it till next week". And then never reply again. You'll know why he didn't show up (he's an arsehole) but he'll never know wtf you were on about.

SmileyClare · 26/07/2020 22:29

Who writes " things came to a climax" in a message to their stood up date? Weird Grin

I'd have to block him Op. I couldn't bear to read any more made up crap.

Mangofandangoo · 26/07/2020 22:30

Oh Op, what an absolute cretin!

Does he think your daft or something 😂 sounds like you've dodged a bullet

WeveGottaGetTherouxThis · 26/07/2020 22:33

The “climax” comment gave me the creeps!

You’re definitely doing the right thing by not responding.

roarfeckingroar · 26/07/2020 22:34

Blue thumb him.

Iminthewrongstory · 26/07/2020 22:35

I vote for the laughing emoji and then a block.

Or 'LOL' - and then a block.

Or just some random, slightly weird gif - ventriloquist dummy, that sort of thing - and then a block.

Really, whatever you do is fine as long as it ends with a block and you don't give him another moment of your time.

AnnaSW1 · 26/07/2020 22:36

It sounds like he went for a date with someone else yesterday and it didn't work out. Now he's trying it on with you again.

Keep on ignoring him. It'll dent his ego way more than anything witty you could text him.

Onwards and upwards SmileWine

TheParrotsBeak · 26/07/2020 22:36

What a wanker he is OP, you deserve so much better. I honestly think you should block and ignore. There's nothing you can say unfortunately that doesn't make you look like he's really got to you, trying to be witty still just looks like you're bothered. Ignoring is the only option.

There's some horrible, horrible men around. I recently bumped into a guy on tinder, who was actually an old neighbour of mine, who I had a fling with two years ago just after I split with my husband. Neighbour was flaky at the time and I had no idea why as we got on really well. Should have realised then what a twat he is, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt as back then my life was such a car crash I didn't blame him for being put off.

So recently neighbour whatsapped me after we matched on tinder. He asked me to go for a walk with him that evening so I did and we had a lovely date. Talked over lots of things from before, he told me he always liked me but my situation (horrible ex) put him off. He opened up about lots of things. Asked me to his birthday party and wanted to see me again. Put it this way, there was history between us and I expected better. But two days later he hadn't replied to me and I've not heard since.

He didn't owe me anything- except to treat me decently, which of course is how anyone should treat another person. But he knew everything I'd been through and we had been there before. I was so upset he'd string me along like that. It made it easy for me to move on quickly as he's such a dickhead but I really wanted to tell him what I thought.

I'm glad now though that I kept my dignity and didn't message him again. Sorry for the derail- just made me think of how grim trying to date is. 🍷💐

Carrotgirl87 · 26/07/2020 22:37

He's dying for you to ask him what happened. Grin

I really like the 'no worries' reply, shows you're really unbothered, don't care enough to ask why, and aren't bitter or sulking.

thenightsky · 26/07/2020 22:40

@WhosThatGirl89

Here we go, he's just messaged again.

"I am really sorry. I had a few things going on that were getting in the way of me coming and they all came to a climax that morning. I couldn't go into details when you called so I had to lie. I'll make it up to you if you ever want to go out again"

😂 I had to lie?! Ffs

Yet he was 'minutes away'

Aye right.