Would anyone like to venture a guess as to why I got stood up today?

[WhosThatGirl89]

OK backstory. Went on a date with a guy I'd met online in November. Went well, just ended up fizzling and stopped chatting. Anyway, he messaged me in January saying he wanted to go out again. I was in a bad place and told him I wasn't in a good place for dating. He said he understood. He then messages me again 3 weeks ago asking to take me out. We went out for lunch last week. Again, had a nice time. Been chatting since. Talked last night and he asked if I was free for lunch today. I arranged for dd to go to friends house for a few hours, reserved a table for 1pm. Both said we were looking forward to it.
I get there, it gets to 1.10 and he hasn't arrived. I call him and he says he's a few minutes away. I'm still waiting at 1.40 so I call again. Straight to voicemail and my WhatsApp message doesn't go through. So I go and have a nice Thai lunch by myself.

So, what do we think? Abducted by aliens? Kidnapped? Or just a massive prick?

Massive prick.

Massive prick.

Message again if you can, thanking him for helping you trust your initial instincts to avoid him, for reminding you that there are arseholes out there, and for reminding you that your own company for lunch is one of life’s great pleasures.

God to tell someone you’re on the way and not turn up is so awful that I’d have to assume something terrible had happened! Maybe he shat himself?

Singlehandedly averted a bank robbery, chased down the culprits, who had stopped to steal a little old lady's handbag, rescue her little dog from going out into the road in front of a fire engine on its way to a baby locked in a car - and then his wife spotted him and wanted to know where he was going all dressed up and stinking of cheap aftershave.

He doesnt know his arse from his elbow.

Dont get dragged back in to that half heartedness no matter what excuse he comes back with.

What a dick! Glad you had a nice lunch - I'm sure the company was better

Dont text, dont contact again and ignore / block his number

Message again if you can, thanking him for helping you trust your initial instincts to avoid him, for reminding you that there are arseholes out there, and for reminding you that your own company for lunch is one of life’s great pleasures.

Yeah tempting but.... don't do that!

He's most likely a massive prat who got a last minute "better offer"

The best thing you can do is absolutely nothing, don't get in touch and don't let him weasel his way back in again.

Massive prick.
Please update the thread with the fantastical excuse you will no doubt get in the next few days.
Good for you enjoying your lunch solo!

mitziK brilliant! Well it seems he's blocked me as my message from earlier still hasn't gone through. Its a first, being stood up. I've been ghosted before after arranging a date but this is a new one. Been single 5 years. And guys like this are the reason why!

Utter prick.

Hope you had a nice lunch and added a glass of wine or two.

Lunch was delicious and the waitress gave me a free portion on prawn crackers as she'd seen i was waiting for him. No wine as I was driving but am currently sinking a massive glass of gin and lemonade

Don't message him, block him.

@RowboatsinDisguise

God to tell someone you’re on the way and not turn up is so awful that I’d have to assume something terrible had happened! Maybe he shat himself?

Sounds weird though - why would he do that? Perhaps he panicked or something?

What a wanker. Lucky escape.

He didn't have a mask with him so the bus driver wouldn't let him on?

Sounds like a prick.
Who does that?!

Disclaimer: unless, of course, he has been knocked unconscious or similar, and his phone was smashed to smithereens. Then I might reconsider calling him a prick.

I'm so sorry - there are some real pricks out there. Don't let it dent your confidence as it's all about him (not you) and you had a narrow escape. Imagine how awful it would have been if he'd blocked you after dating for a while. Karma means he'll get it back twice as bad so hold your head up, remember how gorgeous you are and delete him from your memory bank!

Wife probably caught him on his way out the door. But it sounds like a great lunch!

Car accident and in hospital.

This happened to my grocery delivery driver once. I waited like usual, he called towards end of delivery window saying he’d be 20mins late (arriving in approx a half hour). So an hour later when he still hadn’t showed up, I called customer service and said I was worried because we live rurally and the roads can get bad/flooded. They called me back an hour after and thanked me saying he’d slid off the road into an irrigation ditch but thankfully they’d got an ambulance to him & hecwas stable and that my order was now cancelled but with a thank you voucher for next shop.

He’s actually Prick Man, superhero extraordinary. On the way to the date he learned there was an immediate crisis in need of a spare prick, a wedding without a groom. He arrived only to find the groom had in fact turned up and his presence was no longer required, thereby proving himself to be literally as useful as a spare prick at a wedding.

You’ve had a lucky escape. Glad you got a nice lunch out of it.

Aww thanks lifestooshort you're sweet. I know how that feels too. Went on 6 dates with a guy and he ghosted me. Not had much luck in the last 5 years!

This happened to me OP. That night I went online and started chatting to a new guy. We're now engaged with a baby.

Don't let it get you down. He's just a knob. There are good men out there. Hopefully one will turn up soon!