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Would anyone like to venture a guess as to why I got stood up today?

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WhosThatGirl89 · 25/07/2020 19:30

OK backstory. Went on a date with a guy I'd met online in November. Went well, just ended up fizzling and stopped chatting. Anyway, he messaged me in January saying he wanted to go out again. I was in a bad place and told him I wasn't in a good place for dating. He said he understood. He then messages me again 3 weeks ago asking to take me out. We went out for lunch last week. Again, had a nice time. Been chatting since. Talked last night and he asked if I was free for lunch today. I arranged for dd to go to friends house for a few hours, reserved a table for 1pm. Both said we were looking forward to it.
I get there, it gets to 1.10 and he hasn't arrived. I call him and he says he's a few minutes away. I'm still waiting at 1.40 so I call again. Straight to voicemail and my WhatsApp message doesn't go through. So I go and have a nice Thai lunch by myself.

So, what do we think? Abducted by aliens? Kidnapped? Or just a massive prick?

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Toilenstripes · 25/07/2020 20:50

He probably met up with a Tinder date.

Jojo19834 · 25/07/2020 20:54

That’s why I gave up dating, people have zero manners!!!

GameSetMatch · 25/07/2020 21:02

When I was a lot younger i arranged to meet this guy who I’d know for a few months , he stood me up, I gave up on him blocked and deleted him from my phone. Ten years or so later I started a new job and I found out the lady who I worked with was this guys Mum. The poor guy had OCD and couldn’t leave the house half the time, I felt really bad...... maybe this guys the same? Maybe there is a reason .

Notsurewhatsgoingon · 25/07/2020 21:14

I honestly think something might have happened to him. Why would he say he is on his way and then not turn up. He was the one who got back in touch with you so he must like you. Maybe I'm naive.

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WhosThatGirl89 · 25/07/2020 21:30

Well this is what I was wondering as well. Why would he say he was on his way? Unless he didn't think and answered his phone then lied. The only other reason my WhatsApp wouldn't go through would be if his phone is off or he's blocked me. I'm not really surprised by guys' behaviour anymore but I would like an explanation. Why can't they just be honest and say they don't want to date anymore instead of being a coward

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wingingmywaythroughlife · 25/07/2020 21:40

Does he have a profile pic on WhatsApp? If he's blocked you his pic will normally disappear. Not that I'm speaking from experience or anything... 🙄

TomBradysLeftKneecap · 25/07/2020 21:51

Whatever you do, don’t get drunk and send an email telling him he’s a dick because, when he calls and says he’s been in an accident, you’ll have to fly to Mexico, find his phone and delete the message. At least, that’s what happened in this terrible Netflix movie I watched the other day. Grin

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WhosThatGirl89 · 25/07/2020 22:07

Yep his pic on WhatsApp had gone. Ffs. I'm so sick of this shit. I've only ever been in one long-term relationship and he lied to me the whole time. Don't worry no drunken rants from me to him. On here might be a different story

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pokehuman · 25/07/2020 22:07

@WhosThatGirl89

Well this is what I was wondering as well. Why would he say he was on his way? Unless he didn't think and answered his phone then lied. The only other reason my WhatsApp wouldn't go through would be if his phone is off or he's blocked me. I'm not really surprised by guys' behaviour anymore but I would like an explanation. Why can't they just be honest and say they don't want to date anymore instead of being a coward
If he still has a picture showing on WhatsApp he hasn’t blocked you, either phone off or app deleted. Have you got 2 ticks showing yet?

It’s very odd he said he was on way and didn’t show up!

pokehuman · 25/07/2020 22:08

@WhosThatGirl89

Yep his pic on WhatsApp had gone. Ffs. I'm so sick of this shit. I've only ever been in one long-term relationship and he lied to me the whole time. Don't worry no drunken rants from me to him. On here might be a different story
Cross post, so sorry. He blocked you.

Some people are effing arses. Lucky escape though! So sorry x

Ishihtzuknot · 25/07/2020 23:07

He’s a dick, at least you found out now and didn’t waste any more time on him. Even if he panicked, didn’t have a mask, didn’t want to be out right now etc he should have been honest and shouldn’t have said he was nearly there. I’m glad you enjoyed your lunch anyway, block and forget there will be better men. I’ve never had luck with men either so I know how you feel Wine

Potayto · 25/07/2020 23:31

What a cockwomble. Atleast you dodged that bullet now and won’t waste another moment.

Part of me was thinking maybe something happened but if his pics gone on WhatsApp then he’s blocked you, so he’s just a cock.

crimsonlake · 26/07/2020 01:16

I had a date, he was really late, kept me waiting for what seemed like ages. Rang or text to let me know that he was stil ages away and expected me to still wait. I left.

NomNomNominativeDeterminism · 26/07/2020 01:22

Clearly, abducted by aliens. AND a massive prick, so serves him right.

Jeremyironsnothing · 26/07/2020 01:32

He stood you up because he knows you are too good for him. Lucky escape.

1forAll74 · 26/07/2020 02:08

Maybe he met someone on the way, and went to a pub for a drink, or he could have had an accident, and ended up in hospital. Limitless reasons to choose from.

TheClitterati · 26/07/2020 02:08

He must've dropped down dead on the way to the date obviously. Or he's just a super prick arsehole.

I can't be dealing with any of this which is why I don't date.

EmbarrassedUser · 27/07/2020 12:28

Some blokes are twats. Never had that happen but been ghosted. Been seeing this guy and he was staying at mine one night. We had not one but TWO shags and then went to sleep. I woke up at about 3.30am for a glass of water and he’d sloped off. Literally never saw or heard from him again 😂 This was after 3 months of dating as well. What a coward and the cheek of getting two shags before he bogged off.

Flatsfromnowon · 09/08/2020 10:40

OP - Pleased not just me... similar happened to me only last weekend.

Although had been seeing this guy properly and he was keen to make it exclusive...

How are you feeling now?

Willowkins · 09/08/2020 10:51

Sorry you got stood up Flats. You might like to see this with the answer to your question: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3978861-He-stood-me-up-now-hes-texted-Gather-round-ladies?pg=1

Flatsfromnowon · 09/08/2020 11:13

Thanks @Willowkins... I’m still in that stage of driving myself barmy about what I might have done!! Oh, and checking WhatsApp to see if I have been unblocked yet...

Will read thread - thanks 🙏🏻

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