To find this weird at 38?!

[Toddlerteaplease]

I'm out with my parents and want an ice cream. It feels really weird that I can have one if I want one. And they can't say no. Anyone else feel
Like this?

Ha. I said to my mum quite recently "I am 42 years old, don't shush me!"
Felt amazing 😳🤦‍♀️

I love this thread. Some apply to me too but when I do them I still don’t tell my parents! Mine is having friends round and the house isn’t spotless. I love the freedom of inviting who I want when I want.

I'm 43 and my mum still puts her arm out to protect me as we're crossing the road. What she's not realised is I've also got an arm hovering behind her to make sure she gets across ok

I’m also 38. Told my mum how I very unexpectedly bumped into a friend from school last week. This girl wasn’t really very nice and a bit of I suppose in my mind eyes a bad influence.

My mum said “oh you’re not going to start hanging around with her again are you”?

Mum I’m pushing 40 and don’t get to “hang around” with my actual friends - let alone randomly start going back out clubbing with a girl I knew at 18

Went I got married at 27 my pleasure was being able to have two cream or chocolate biscuits ( or even more ) instead of only one cream and one plain.

We were never allowed takeaways unless we had distant family coming to stay!
Now DP and I get them once a week and it feels amazing We don't spend loads of money on other stuff so it feels acceptable!

I was giving my mum a lift once, and she complained that I wasn't going the way she would go. I don't have the best relationship with my mum, but must have had my brave pants on that day and said 'if you got a bus, it would go your way'

My mother was very good at teaching us to do stuff like this, actually. Each of us can recall going shopping with her, and without the rest of the herd, for school clothes of to buy Christmas presents, and stopping for lunch and being allowed to have an ice cream sundae or other fancy ice-cream, not just scoops, for lunch. Not after lunch. It was the lunch. don't tell anyone, it's our secret for a special day

amazingly, none of us talked about it to the others until we were well into our teen years. sometimes, now, one of us will have ice cream for lunch, put a picture on FB with no explanation, and tag the others.

@1moremum

My mother was very good at teaching us to do stuff like this, actually. Each of us can recall going shopping with her, and without the rest of the herd, for school clothes of to buy Christmas presents, and stopping for lunch and being allowed to have an ice cream sundae or other fancy ice-cream, not just scoops, for lunch. Not after lunch. It was the lunch. don't tell anyone, it's our secret for a special day

amazingly, none of us talked about it to the others until we were well into our teen years. sometimes, now, one of us will have ice cream for lunch, put a picture on FB with no explanation, and tag the others.

Love this. It made me smile

When I stay at my Dads house with my kids, he always takes them out for a walk in the morning, and buys them ice cream for breakfast at the local cafe.
He would never have done that with me 😂

My brother used to go hyper after certain foods and drinks so growing up I was never allowed them either. I remember doing my first shop the day after I moved in my student house. My entire food shop were things I had not been allowed, including sprinkles, potatoes croquettes, Fanta and Kitkats.

@BarbedBloom oh yes. I have to get up
For work at 5.45 so on my days off I sleep
In till 9. If I'm meeting my parents they always say,"we'll meet you at 9.30". Err no you won't!

My DC dob me in to my DM! I'm thirty-fucking-five! I'm so free and easy compared to my very structured, proper, self disciplined DM and the DC have clocked that there are things I do or say that my DM would disapprove of, so when we get together they all tell tales!!! My DD is a carbon copy of my DM too...I have given birth to my mother! She gives me DM-style disapproving looks and tuts if I drop food on my shirt or something. Argh!

@Covert19 that really made me smile, love it.

I hope you asked them if they want one.

Growing up we had a biscuit tin and you were NEVER allowed more than two biscuits in one sitting. To have more would have resulted in utter carnage and a total breakdown of society and the family home.

Now when I visit my parents I take three, even when I don't want them. I'm 39 and will never stop eating biscuits in threes til the day I die. My Mum was there when I had DS1 and I remember her bringing me tea and biscuits after I'd had him and me taking three custard creams off the plate - her face was hilarious and she couldn't say a word because a small person had just exited my nether regions and I was untouchable!

🤣

My mum wasn’t happy when I told her I had started to grow my own weed

@frenchonion just laughed out loud at your post.
@FudgeBrownie2019 we were allowed to have three biscuits from my grandmas biscuit tin.

I've just returned from spending a week with my parents, plus my husband and our two kids. My parents are on the whole lovely but they will still on occasion comment on what I eat (sugar in my coffee, the horror!), what I wear (yes but WHY did you decide not to wear a waterproof when you knew it was going to rain?) and they still tell 'amusing' stories about a long shower I took 20 years ago (I'm not kidding).

As a result I'm feeling a bit bruised and this thread has been rather comforting, thanks OP.

Not quite the same, but a couple of years ago I said that I wasn't going to take part in the teachers race on Sports Day.

I loathed Sports Day as a child. It took me over 20 years of teaching before I suddenly realised that I was a grown up and nobody could make me do it if I didn't want to.

@KrabbyPatties my parents would have apoplexy if I did that. My dad isn't even allowed to have half a pint of Guinness if we go out for a meal.

@HoneyBee03

I had pudding before dinner the other day and it was marvellous.

I did that too! Downside was ice-cream followed by hot dinner hurt my sensitive teeth sooo much

My parents have always hated tattoos, especially on women.
I finally had a small tattoo on the rear of my shoulder when I was in my 30's and I felt like yelling from the rooftop ' I've got a tattoo parents, so there '!!
My dad still holds my hand tight if we're crossing a road 😂

I went out early this morning shopping, got back and decided that I would sit/lie on my bed all day drinking coffee and reading my book, and snoozing, this was very liberating despite the fact that I am 54 and own my own home...didn't mention it in passing to my parents though :)