To find this weird at 38?!

[Toddlerteaplease]

I'm out with my parents and want an ice cream. It feels really weird that I can have one if I want one. And they can't say no. Anyone else feel
Like this?

It took me so long to buy what I wanted from the supermarket in my weekly shop. My weekly shop mimicked my mums for years until I decided “you know what, there’s nothing wrong with buying crisps every week if I want to. It’s not weird!”

I did a social distance trip to the park with my dad and my dc. It was hot so I bought us all the nice ice creams, not just the cheapest. That was a first :-)

I used to love going into service stations on long journeys to have something to eat, purely because my parents always said it was a waste of money for rubbish food. Now I agree with them, when did that happen?!

The gloriously weird but liberating realisation that I didn't have to cut the onion into the most minute tiny tiny tiny pieces so my mum wouldn't find a bit in the mince.

I chop em up big and chunky now and I love that I can!!!

(I made right big growly noise in my head when I wrote that last bit!!!)

I think this is why my cupboards are full of crisps, biscuits and chocolates! We rarely were allowed biscuits and crisps, and only had some sweets (a few penny ones, never a bar like a flake) perhaps once a week. I can have as much as I want now!

It was with great trepidation that I told my Mum I was having my ears pierced (age 32). She just laughed and said, "you can do what you like -you're an adult". Until that moment I hadn't realised what a hold the childhood ban on piercings had had over me.

I had a piece of cake as a snack today, my mum would of given me an apple!

I love having lunch out on a day out. It was slways warm sandwiches. I know money paid a part
But it was the buying a Cup of tea in the cafe and eating them bit I hated!

@Aroundtheworldin80moves yes. We were the same. When we had a picnic today, my mum had brought prepackaged sandwiches from Tesco. Such a huge luxury when I was little and we rarely had drinks from cafes.

@Tlollj that made me laugh

It used to amuse me that when I was in my 50's, my Aunt would hold my hand tightly when we crossed a road!

I also usually watch tv until the early hours - no more Mum calling out "Deathray, it is late! Turn your light off".

My parents (and Aunt) are now deceased so can no longer waggle a finger at what I eat. This is now the doctors' job. No escaping it is there??!

@ThanksMateThanksMate

The gloriously weird but liberating realisation that I didn't have to cut the onion into the most minute tiny tiny tiny pieces so my mum wouldn't find a bit in the mince.

I chop em up big and chunky now and I love that I can!!!

(I made right big growly noise in my head when I wrote that last bit!!!)

Are you my daughter 20-30 years from now?!!!

I still feel guilty using kitchen paper to mop up fat, etc. My mum used old telephone directories for most jobs like that, and used the kitchen paper only very, very sparingly.

Sometimes I buy a jar of cocktail cherries and eat the whole lot at once ... it's wonderful that there is no one to say No.

@Deathraystare my mum still tries to hold my hand crossing the road - I'm almost 30! I think it's so ingrained now that she can't stop. I wonder if she would also do it to a friend lol...

When I went to Rome for the first time a priest friend held my have to cross the road. When I asked why he said it was because he thighs the bishop would send him to the most remote parish in the diocese, if anything happened to me!

*thought, not thighs!

Sometimes, I go to bed to read on a Saturday afternoon!! It is so liberating.

Sometimes I just eat an entire garlic baguette for dinner because they’re my fave thing in the world, but this is the first time I’ve ever admitted it!

@Raimona

When you get a husband he’ll just tell you off for eating ice cream and not parking properly instead 🤷‍♀️

I’d tell mine to fuck right off if he tried to tell me off for either eating ice cream or for my parking!

One of my favourite things that I read was from an adult who went to pick their mum up after a night out with her friends. She was pretty drunk getting in the car and said, "can we go and get chips?" He then said ever so nicely, "no mum, we have chips at home." He said he had waited years for that.

I also take pleasure in having a lay in. My mum always thinks it is terribly lazy when she phones me at 9am on the weekend and I am still asleep. But there is nothing she can do about it now. My DH feels the same as his mother has the same opinion - she gets up every day at 7am.

Sometimes I just eat an entire garlic baguette for dinner because they’re my fave thing in the world, but this is the first time I’ve ever admitted it!

My favourite tea is a garlic baguette with tomato soup. And now ds12 🙂

I’m 36 and when we all went to the beach the other day I took great pleasure in telling my mum that I’d bought an ice cream and a drink from the kiosk! It was always either or as a kid.