If you are loving your life, tell me why you feel this way

[Snog]

Looking for some life wisdom here....
If you are loving your life, what do you attribute this to?

I love my life, but definatly things i would like to add to be happier, money so that i can pay bills without worry for weeks before hand, buy my kids clothes when needed, or even take them on a holiday.and i would like to not have to fight for my sons education and chances in life due to his asd, id like my husband to tidy up after himself. But despite this i am content with what i have and i remind myself that my life could be very different.

I think like many previous posters, it’s a mixture of being grateful for what I have and taking joy in the little things. I had a lonely, traumatic childhood and was adrift and seriously mentally ill for a lot of my teens and twenties. Now I have a wonderful partner, a gorgeous DD and I’m training for a career I feel really fulfilled by. I love pootling around in our little flat, going for walks, reading, baking, going to ikea with my best friend. It’s a good life.

I notice a lot of replies combine a baseline of comfort and security with a feeling of being lucky or grateful for it. So perhaps both mindset & what you actually have.

Just accept everything as it is.

I earned it. It's all mine.
I went through highs and lows. I survived nightmares and followed my dreams. I met some truly horrible people, and some truly lovely people. I experienced good luck and bad luck. I worked hard and played hard. I made excellent choices and terrible mistakes. I lost dear friends and family. I came uncomfortably close to death a few times. I met the love of my life.
So far we're doing our best at living happily ever after. We take it one day at a time. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. But for now, I'm happy with what we have.

I have learned to take pleasure in simple things and appreciate the small things that I have. I was very depressed in my teens and twenties and spent my thirties getting help and learning who I am. I have very little material wealth but value my relationships and personal growth. Also I work every day at improving at my hobby which keeps me occupied and happy.

Divorced and every single day I am grateful.
I have peace in my home.
I parent with love and with honesty and without compromise.
I held on when I was in pieces and now I’m a priceless restoration. The repaired cracks are part of my growth.
I love my friends family and dcs and I am grateful.
When I feel like the world is on my shoulders I remember how far the universe has brought me and I say thank you and face each moment, each dilemma and each challenge with the knowledge that this too shall pass.

A good supportive relationship with a kind and funny man who loves me and the children.
Plenty of money.
Living in a nice safe green area.
All the kind of background things like healthy children, independent parents, living in a Western democracy, not subject to discrimination on account of race or sexuality etc etc.

This is an interesting thread!

I think the combo of not being well off and hating your job is very miserable: you are quite trapped in just working to pay bills. (I may be there with no end game.)

My family and I are in good health, I work at a place where people are nice and respectful, I have a lovely new boyfriend and his family are great , i've learned to manage money better, I live in a nice place, toxic people are gone from my life, I get to do hobbies I enjoy, I have a small number of very good friends and a caring, supportive family. I feel very lucky.

@Getagripffs I’m sorry to hear that, can I ask did you go abroad? Have you got a chance to change?

Hmm my life isn’t easy atm, am exhausted and stressed lots of the time. But I find my life meaningful and I’m grateful for all of it. I’m not religious but I feel connected to and held by something bigger than me - call it nature, spirit, god, a higher power, whatever.

Hot picks.

How does it work? I've got on line lottery and don't know how to do hot picks...

Anyway... For me it's (touch wood) have some awful over bearing miserable people out of my life...

Not massively aspirational, don't miss out things we don't have or yearn for impossible things either.

Get massive joy from gardening, children, dh...

Not the best start, so now to live happily and have enough feels like a luxury. I'm always grateful.

I love my life because I choose to be happy. On paper I don't have much to be happy about.

I am 42. Got three auto immune diseases and very poor mobility. In pain daily. In a survivor of child hood abuse and rape. I'm an ex drug addict and was in a very abusive relationship. I'm bipolar and have ptsd. I threw my schooling away and got nothing. I can't work. I live in a council house. One of my adult kids will need care forever.

BUT

I have some amazing kids. A very supportive significant other that worships me. I scrimp and scrape on benefits so we can go on holiday every year and have three of treat. I take £10 and make it stretch for miles by bargain hunting for everything and doing stuff on the cheap. I struggled and persevered and got a degree with the OU and then a MA with my local uni. Only took 16 years all together! I have a nice home that is secure and food in the cupboards. I have the best friend in the world in my sibling. I love learning new skills.

I am happy because I focus on the good points. Comparison is the thief of joy. So I don't compare myself to others. I find MY happiness and really don't give a shiny shit what others think of me and I accept and love myself despite my limitations. That's the real key to happiness.

Comparison is the thief of joy. So I don't compare myself to others.

I think like many previous posters, it’s a mixture of being grateful for what I have and taking joy in the little things.

Agree with this, I tend to look for the positives. So some would find my job boring (finance, spreadsheets) whereas I like the fact it's close, good colleagues, not standing all day. I even feel lucky I can wear trainers!

How I feel about my life varies from day to day. It's been pretty turbulent tbh!
In an ok place at the moment, a few minor health issues are taking their toll though.
Very grateful for my lovely kids who can be a pita but are amazing really. DH is mostly supportive. I have some really good friends too.
Some fairly shit things have happened though so I'm not as resilient as I'd like and even when positive things happen I'm waiting for it to go all tits up again.

@IAmReportingYouForBBQing

You sound amazing.

Anyone loving life today?

@Snog

Hey Venus, say more!

I married a millionaire.

I’ve loved my life when I’ve been in love and felt fulfilled, like I was achieving success and doing something worthwhile. I’ve not loved my life when I’ve been lonely and had nobody to love, felt like a failure and been broke and unemployed. Sadly the latter has far exceeded the former and is likely to continue that way.

Having fought and held out through difficult times for the things that are important to me- long-distance relationship with a man in another country, my disabled and at times suicidal child, the work I love. Dh and I are happy together, my child is still alive, and though my career hasn't resulted in any great financial success I know I have done good work.

At the moment, I am unable to visit my own country because of Covid, I cannot see my elderly and frail parents, and I miss the very touch of the rocks under my feet. But then again, as my 88yo dad says when I speak to him on the phone "one has to take joy from what one has": I can speak to them on the phone, I have a nice little garden to sit in even if I can't have the cliffs and the sea. I go out every morning to see if anything new has sprung out in the garden and that is a huge pleasure. Dad has got new hearing aids which means he now agrees to speak on the phone: I hadn't heard his voice since Christmas.

I feel very happy. Some of it is luck / some of it hard work (a lot!). I have a very lovely DH, he is a huge source of my happiness. We have built a wonderful life together. My home is beautiful (my dream house), I enjoy my job and we don't want for anything. I have some very loving and close relationships with family members and friends. My in laws are lovely my two dogs bring me more joy and laughter than I thought possible. They are the epitome of happiness (and unconditional love!).

I take none of this for granted and do sometimes worry that something will happen and take it all away