People with older teens say 16,17,18+ do you still take your kids in holiday and do you pay ?

[Lardlizard]

Or do you say book an apartment and say come if you want or something ?

I'm in my 30's and my parents still pay for a holiday home each year me us all (5siblings) I won't charge mine if I can afford it, especially if they're under 18.

Dd is 19 and for as long as she wants to join us, we'll pay.
My parents still do the same for me and my db and it's a bit of a family tradition as my Grandpa used to pay for us all to go on holiday every year until he was almost 90!

I have a 18 and 22 year old both still living at home so still pay for holidays . I would carry on doing so I envisage until they get their own families or want to do their own thing. The 22 year old is already making their own plans and tends to weigh each holiday up and decide wether it’s something they would like to do so tends to tag along one in every three holidays

My DD is nearly 19 and starting uni in September. The last couple of years she's got really grumpy about being forced to come on holiday with us. So I said from next year I'll be booking holidays without her. OMG you should have heard the tantrum 🙄

Up to 18, we had family holidays and chose destinations we knew they’d want to go to. Once they were at university, we planned what we wanted to do. They were invited on big holidays but not mini-breaks which we tended to do in term-time. We expected a decision before booking though, so we could book appropriate accommodation.

Yes, if they want to come we take them and yes we pay. TBH, I want them to join us much more than they want to come, so a free holiday is the incentive I offer. They do usually treat us to ice creams and drinks at some point while we're away though.

We went on holiday with my parents a number of times when DC were small (so I was in my 30s). I always expected/offered to pay but my parents never accepted any money, beyond paying for a dinner out during the trip.

This year is the first year dd is paying for herself. She is 19 and has an apprenticeship paying £18k I only earn £22k myself as a single parent but would still pay for her if she wasn't working or was in uni

I stopped going on holiday with my mum around age 16 but started going together again when I had children. We have been on holiday with her every year for most years between then and now. Nothing planned this year though 😥

Yes. I have 4 DCs ages 16-22 and we still pay for them on holiday. However, we don’t really give them money for souvenir spending. They save up their pocket money/earnings for that.

Good question - mine are those ages with one off to uni in September.
I will invite them and pay as long as they want to come with us on a family trip. And pay for other trips whilst still at school. Once at uni, will pay for family holiday if they want to join us, but other trips they will have to budget for from loan/top-up/earnings.

Yes we pay and, by and large, they’re happy to join us. Last year DC 2 didn’t come as they had a trip with their friends booked at same time. We also take a week away without the kids each year and, ironically, the older they get the more they seem to want to tag along on that week!

My dd came last year and she was 18 I paid as she was a student. I offered to pay for my ds21 too but he had other plans.

When we last took my grown up stepsons and their girls friends to the States we paid, they were mid 20s.

My DD is 26 and I always factor her and now her partner too into the cost of holidays. If we can't pay for everyone we don't go.

I took my girls on holiday (and paid) until they left home...why wouldn't you? One was 24 when she left, the other 23. Both had been to University and had just started out in their chosen careers, so had student debt at that time.

In fact even after they'd left home, when I said I was going skiing one year they both came with me 😂 (they paid for themselves that time though 😉)

To be fair, I was a single mum and it had been just us three since they were toddlers, so we were a pretty close trio. It didn't seem odd to us...maybe it was? We now go away as a larger family group regularly, now they are married with children. It's nice.

I feel a bit spoiled reading some of these comments. My parents used to invite me on holiday with them and pay for it while I was in my 20s. I was either at uni or in low paid jobs at that time, so couldn't have afforded to go with them otherwise (and probably, if I'd had the money, I'd have chosen to spend my money on a different type of holiday). I was single, hadn't met my DH at that point and didn't have my children, so don't know if that makes a difference.

When my kids are late teens/twenties I'll do the same - I'd pay for them to come with us if they wanted to.

If I wanted them to come, then I would pay. If I didn't pay, then I'd have to accept that holiday with mum and dad might not be their first choice to spend money on. I'd feel bad if they felt pressurised into spending their hard-won money to please me.

Mine is about to turn 15, I cannot imagine telling her in a year's time she isnt coming on holiday with me. We have a long list of destinations we would like to visit - if we do all of them, she will be coming with me when she is 50.

Yes and yes.
My DS is 23 and living at home, and it’s a yes and yes to him too. He doesn’t always come with us.

DS was 18 last year and we gave him the option if he wants to join us on holiday? We had one hoiliday just the 2 of us which was weird but lovely and one holiday with him, we paid for him and it was a great holiday. I think he's now ready to do his own thing. He knows he'll always be welcome to holiday with us but with the way things are at the moment I don't think we'll have a holiday this year anyway.

I can’t imagine not paying for my kids to come on holiday to be honest.
When they’ve got kids of their own I hope to be able to pay then too, depending upon finances.
If I invite them to come with me I’d expect to pay.

I’m almost 30 and if I go away with my family they pay. However, I have much younger siblings so they still do the big family holidays and I tag along occasionally.

I do also pay to take my mum away once a year or so. Just for a long weekend, we’ll do a city break. I’ll pay for flights and hotel as either a birthday or Christmas present and then when we’re there we split most things

I will say that is also slightly selfish on my part as I like to go away quite a lot and DP is very restricted in how much time he takes off work plus my mum is a very easy holiday companion

DS1 is 18, at the moment I feel like we'll pay for as long as he's happy to keep coming with us! Maybe we'll re-assess once he's working full time or living alone, but would never expect him to pay while he's still living with us.

My parents took us eurocamping when I was 16 and my brother was 18. I don't think he would have paid to come as he was saving for uni. We didn't have a holiday every year, and at that point I think we had last had one at 11 and 13, and I'm so glad we had that week.
At that age parents choose (with input), book and pay. Or children go away with mates, and they choose book and pay themselves.
But I come from a family that only went on holiday when we could afford it. Other families would prioritise the holiday and make sacrifices in other areas.