People with older teens say 16,17,18+ do you still take your kids in holiday and do you pay ?

[Lardlizard]

Or do you say book an apartment and say come if you want or something ?

I would pay for kids still in education.

If they’d rather stay home and are older teens it’s another question. Do you trust them at home alone?

These answers are so unrelatable to me. I was taken on holiday precisely twice during my childhood as no one could afford anything, let alone holidays. I moved out at 16 and have been self sufficient ever since. I know my experience isn’t the norm but I guess I feel sad for younger me never getting to experience these family holidays (well into my twenties it seems). And also scared that I have a twisted view of what’s normal. I struggle with the idea of paying for my kids into their twenties as I’d hope they would be living their own lives or at least be able to pay for their trip. By the time they’re grown I’ll be wanting to return to my pre kid hobbies like scuba diving, hiking and backpacking. I’ve never enjoyed the whole ‘family’ resort package deal thing, so these last few years have been tough.

When my DC were young we couldn’t afford much in the way of holidays (single parent, low wage). During their teen years I got a much better job so had some decent holidays where I paid up till about their mid 20s.

As the years went on they contributed more. So started off I’d cover flights/hotel, but they’d need their own spending money, pay their share of excursions etc. Then they covered their own flight/spends but I’d cover accommodation. To the point now they’re mid 30s it’s more half and half. Although I will still pay for a nice meal out or whatever. So it wasn’t an overnight thing.

Both my DC are single, no kids, so that’s not a consideration. We don’t always holiday together. We all take other trips. But most years I’ll go somewhere with one or the other (my two like different places whereas I’m up for most places!).

DC were 18 and 21 the last time we went on a family holiday. We paid, and were happy to.

My husband’s upbringing was the same.

no-one in our family enjoys the resort type thing either, I expect yours are quite small still, holidays get more fun when they’re teens.