my 3 ds are moving out on tuesday, i'm so happy for them

[romeolovedjulliet]

we told our dc we wanted to downsize 3 years ago and we were going on the market in jan 2021, so the dc started saving up from their wages. am really proud of them as they have sorted out a flat to share and moving in on tuesday, they are really pumped up about it,
i'll miss the late night gaming, sweaty socks and 'mum, i need the washing machine to do my uniform' etc.

How old are they? Cant ever have imagined my parents saying that to us, or saying it as parents.

😭 I have 3 very little ds and this just made me cry! You must be very proud but I’m sure it’ll be hard having them all go at once. How old are they?

Ps I think it’s a very reasonable thing to say to grown up dc

Are they moving in together just the 3 of them? That’s nice. Are you going to go round and walk mud through their house?

Mine were late 30s when one found a serious girlfriend and planned to move in with her. I had wanted to downsize for some time so I told the other one it was time he moved out as well. I've discovered I really enjoy living on my own.

I think it's fantastic that your sons have worked together and got themselves sorted. My sister and I did similar and we had great times living together, as did a couple of my mates. Good for them!!

All at once is going to be a shock to the system for you.
They'll have a great time all together.
Once my oldest two were gone I took about a year before I really missed them and would love to have them all home and together again.
Chances are we'd only last a few weeks at most before I would be wondering what the hell was I thinking getting them home.

they are 21, 23 and 26, they are 3 of 6 dc our 24yo dd is moving out next month as she wants wants her own place. the elder 2, now 27 and 30 moved out in their mid 20's. they live near byand we are all close as a family which is great.

My parents asked me and my brother to move out when we were 22 and 24. No drama, no nastiness.

Have you seen the new accommodation? There isn't a house made of straw, a house made of sticks and a house made of bricks is there?

Well done to them and to you. Can't be bothered to Google the proper quote but sounds like the 'give 'em roots and give 'em wings' played out perfectly.

Are you going to go round and walk mud through their house?
@Vaunting when my son was little I told him when he was grown up and had a place of his own I was going to visit and jump up and down on his sofa He was most upset!
He's 40 now but I haven't done it...yet.

it's a lovely flat and ideal to get them started on the ladder, they are quiet lads so hopefully will behave themselves.dh and me are emigrating to isle of wight, so they didn't want to move with us

mud and jumpingon their new sofa ? yep i'm going to do it all !

@0blio exactly what my Mum said to me...as I was jumping on her settee. I remember being upset too! She hasn’t done it yet either. I don’t think!

How lovely that they're doing it together. They'll have a blast.

I can't imagine my parents saying this to me or me saying it to my DC (although they are only little so I might change my mind in the future )

How do you think you will feel going from having 3 at home to just you and DH? It's so lovely that they will all still be together.

Wet towels on the floor & a sugar trail round the kitchen work tops make an excellent house warming present

That’s lovely for them. I wonder if you’ll think your new home on the Isle of Wight is worth it when you’re missing popping round to see them?

My parents encouraged me to move out once I hit my 20s. We had moved to a rural place when I was 15, and it was clear it was my parents retirement home. It had no jobs or life for a young person, and I always knew I would have to move out once I wanted a job beyond the local shop. My parents always had this idea of 'you need to have your independence and be an adult'. It was never a negative thing. I went back a few times for a few months here and there after travel etc but it was always clear between us that it was temporary. I eventually moved countries at 25 to be with my now DH. My parents needed their space, and I needed to be an adult. I will be raising my DDs to expect the same when the time comes. Its all part of parenting I think, to raise them well and then encourage them to go out into the world knowing you love them. I also think its amazing that the three of them want to live together. It shows how you have instilled a great sense of family bonds in them.

I say a serious well done to you. You have done your job as a parent well.

@ChipotleBlessing

That’s lovely for them. I wonder if you’ll think your new home on the Isle of Wight is worth it when you’re missing popping round to see them?

That’s harsh. Everyone involved here is an adult. Why wouldn’t it be worth it?

chip we plan on popping back every 5 /6 weeks to see family plus ds 3 has taught me to face time so we can keep in touch once we move so happy to keep in touch that way once or twice a week plus a phone call or two.

.dh and me are emigrating to Isle of Wight

Emigrating ? Where from ?

Christmas will be a squeeze when they all settle down 😀 but we'll done op! How lovely that your sons are close enough to move in together.

Well I think it's lovely that your 3 DSs are planning this and planning to share . It's great that they get on and that they've dalvanised themselves to save .
Are you in the position to gift them some money from your house sale ? Not that you should have to but new homes are ££ and they would appreciate a small cushion of money for gin emergencies .

I tell my 20yo DS if he ever gets round to moving out I'm going to:
raid his fridge
shave my legs in his sink and not bother to rinse
not bother flushing the loo
not bother changing the empty loo roll
walk straight into his house with my dirty feet
eat all his Jaffa cakes and refuse the nice dinner he cooks me
put his TV on QVC and lose the remote
plank and fall asleep on his sofa dribbling out of my mouth