Only Child Guilt

[MrsMc15]

Hi everyone - this is my first post! I am 36 and myself and my husband have a little boy who will soon be 3. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage last week and we have both said that we feel that maybe we should content ourselves that we have a happy healthy little boy. I would have loved a second child if alone to ensure our son never felt lonely in the world. I was nervous and stressed about conceiving the second time as we’re so context as we are. My worry is that we’ll look back in years to come and regret not giving our son a sibling when we do still have opportunity to do so. Right now neither of us feel that we could start into that journey again as I have bad morning sickness in my first pregnancy and was extremely unwell after the miscarriage. Is it selfish to leave him without a sibling or does anyone have a positive reaction to parenting an only? Thanks x

1 year on now and thank you , it does take time... Alot more time that I ever thought

Sadness is a normal feeling for you now, but you should not be thinking about this situation in terms of guilt.

No parent is perfect, we all do the best for our DCs and that's what you are doing. Feeling guilty that things have not worked out as you had hoped is an over reaction.

For the record I have an only after many attempts and two miscarriages. We are very close and he had a happy and fulfilled childhood. Focus on your DS!

Thank you - lovely to hear. We're definitely in a better place 12 months on and very thankful for what we do have in life and the life we have together x

I only realised after posting that your post was a year old but I'm glad you are feeling better now.