Weird response from bloke I've been seeing

[meallthetime]

I've been seeing a bloke for a while. We've got fairly close and he's started to show signs of being committed / attached.

Anyway, we had quite a deep conversation and afterwards it was a lighter tone.

I messaged him goodnight and he replied and said he's on a training course all day tomorrow so if he doesn't reply to any messages that's why.

Then 15 minutes later he adds 'and if I don't reply to you on Sunday it's because I don't give a damn ' (well he used the crying laughing emoji but I can't find that on here).

So I guess he's saying he really doesn't give a damn about me so I just ignore this?

Sorry I meant so I just end this (relationship) not ignore this.

I think he's probably making a joke that didn't come across well!

Maybe it was just a joke? To me it sounds like a joke anyway

Urgh.. That would make me reply 'don't worry mate, there will be nothing for you to reply to'.. And then I would block him.

He's joking!!

Joke

Sounds like a joke.

Urm, it's a joke.... is that not quite obvious??

It’s a joke

Did you respond to his message saying he wont be in touch tomorrow? If not he maybe thought you were annoyed by it and then said that as a jokey way to break the ice.
Either way I'm sure it was just a joke.

Joke!

It's clearly a joke.. does he usually have a dry sense of humour?

Is it a joke about the course, then?

I don't really get it if it is.

I suppose the context is that he has form for ghosting me at the weekend and so I thought about all the times he has read my messages and not responded (always at the weekend).

He DOES have form for ignoring me. I or I probably should have said that.

And I'm not clingy, we might message once a day to each other responsively and then he'll just ghost me for a few days.

And I feel like I know why now, because he doesn't give a damn.

Your first post = he is just joking.
Your second post = ghost him and find someone who can be bothered to contact you!

Erm, after your second post, I would say bin him off.

"Well if that's how you feel, I won't bother messaging" [crying laughing emoji]

Ignore him for a few days.

He DOES have form for ignoring me. I or I probably should have said that.
Well, yes, you probably should

I'd joke back something lighthearted, "If I don't reply it's because I'm busy with the 6 foot blonde bloke who lives down the street... will probably be busy for a while tbh" and thence laughing face.

Well I've said it now thisismytime it's not like I've kept people on tenterhooks for several days what's with the weird faces.

If it helps I'm autistic and I can't pick up on the nuances of these passive aggressive faces people seem to love posting that actually don't convey anything to me.

@meallthetime
Just wait it out if you can.
I do believe he meant it as a joke, but instead of waiting for him to respond to you, let him wait for you to respond to him.

Bit suspect texting once a day ignoring you for days but mostly at the weekend. Almost as if there's someone else in his life who might work during the week. I agree bin him off why should he pick n choose when he wants your attention. The right guy is the one making the effort and asking to see you.

Sounds like a joke to me. I'm not good at writing every day to anyone but if that's what you want from this relationship, you need to let him know.

If you are not sure about him, best to end it now though

In view of your second post, I'd just say 'no worries' and proceed to never texting him again. Seriously, I hate people playing games to see who has who on tenterhooks. And people into playing these games are not into having a relationship. Goodluck OP.