Is it still considered wrong to look in someone’s handbag?

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Totally pointless, and rather boring, question! But I was thinking earlier about how I was brought up to believe looking through someone’s handbag was almost sacrilegious! Bit like reading someone’s diary. Is that still the case? Would you mind if someone looked in yours?

I wouldn't mind in the slightest as long as they had a reason to be in there. I often say to my kids go and get my purse/glasses out of my bag.

Depends who it was.

Best friend. No.
Newbie at work. Yes.

Dh wouldn't dream of going in mine.
Not to be respectful but in fear of what he may touch...
Ddog treats, likely a sticky sweet... Heck knows what else..

Depends on the person and reason.

My dad flat out refuses to go in my bag, even when I've asked him to.

I don't mind family going in mine. Never come up with friends.

Yes I'm quite old fashioned, I personally would think it rude to go through someone's handbag. If someone needed something that was in my bag I would get it for them not let them rummage for themselves.

I think it is rude and would be most annoyed if I found someone rummaging in my bag unless I had invited them to do so.

Why on earth would you go looking in someone else's bag? Are you a pickpocket/private detective/spy/professionally nosy?

As above depends on who's mooching.

Family and best friend not bothered, work colleagues or other friends can get out of it.

Not that there is anything worth mooching for in mine 😂

I don’t mind who looks in mine. Well - I wouldn’t mind if I carried one!

But was it a thing? Or was it just my mother who felt that way?

Agree, I never would. DH must have been brought up the same, even to the point where he won't go in my bag even if I ask him to. He'll always just pass me the bag.

It’s a bit like going through someone’s coat pockets- you just wouldn’t, would you?

I think it was a common saying . I've heard the phase many times before 😬

I find this odd as I’d go and get money out of DPs wallet (with permission of course) without thinking about it but if I ever ask him to get something out of my bag he’ll always bring me the whole bag. It’s like it’s been instilled in him to never go into a woman’s bag

Flurry I’m not any of those things sadly - although I’d quite like to be!

Of course it's not ok. You don't go through people's drawers etc.

I'd find it rude unless I said to whoever it was 'can you please grab my purse / phone / card' whatever.

My kids aren't allowed in my handbag but only because they have a tendency to nick my make up.

It depends who.
My husband is free to rummage round if he wants. He never does though cos my bag is like Mary Poppins carpet bag if she was an extreme hoarder and he's a bit scared of it.

If the kids need something eg my keys and I can't be arsed I say they're in my bag, just grab them.

Apart from that I wouldn't expect anyone to go in it unless I'd asked them to or I was unconscious and they needed to ID me

I would consider it rude.

well, I think it is odd to go in it without asking!

I often say to dc or dh - it is in my handbag. But they wouldn't go in it without me sayign, or asking if they can get xx out of it.

Yes, veyr odd to rummage without permission

It's like going through someone elses's drawers (not knickers!). Not on unless requested by the owner. (Also applies to knickers!)

Nope, I'd be very angry if somebody went into my handbag. Husband won't open mine, even if I tell him it's okay for him to get my purse out - he hands me the whole bag. I'd feel quite violated, to be honest. It's the lack of boundaries that I'd resent, it's not because there's anything particularly private in it.

It’s really rude. Fine if you ask someone to get something from it, but otherwise, random rummaging in a person’s bag ( handbag or otherwise) is just wrong.

agree its really rude. not quite as bad as rummaging in my nickers when i'm wearing them but close....

If I'd passed out or was in an accident for id, otherwise no.