Mumsnet pet peeves

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Does anyone have any pet peeves about the catchphrases or little snide comments on Mumsnet.
My personal favourite to a money related thread is "can't you just get a higher paying job"
So go on let's vent!

I hate it when someone writes “HTH”. It’s passive aggressive and for ages I didn’t know what it meant.

HTH is PA? Oh no, I've never meant it like that, just like a friendly sign off

The replies that assume that everyone has the exact same circumstances as them. So 'put it in the garage/cellar/stables' when the OP says they live in a flat.

My favourite was the total and utter meltdown posters had when it came to light that some flat dwellers ... don't have outside bins. There isn't anywhere to store them, people manage with various solutions, but the mass dramatic fainting that occurred on the thread and wails of 'But what do you DOOOOO with your rubbish!?!?' had me

There are many strange quirks about my place (like no bin) which I only discovered after I moved in. I'm so glad I didn't have a RL MN flap about most of them.

People who go on threads about poor people needing free school meals or food banks and ask why "these people" don't just use their savings. Yes, because all jobs/disability benefits etc pay highly enough to be making savings each month.

I hate when people say “it would never occur to me to think/say/do”. It always sounds so passive aggressive and that the OP is an idiot for even considering such actions.

• The idea that everyone has the same type of house and budget.
• That most people don’t understand poverty/low income lifestyles *Mostly, that anyone earning less than 50k per annum is considered broke.

I remember a thread where a lady on an income of 110k (her partner was a high earner too) was complaining because she got a promotion and lost her free childcare allowance and as a result she had to budget 🙄. At the time, my partner had just lost his job and I had recently graduated and gave birth to our 3 month old (so no maternity leave). We hadn’t earned enough to save anything and universal credit gave us £1070 a month to live off and we had to pay £80 in council tax. Our rent was £650, leaving us with £340 a month for our baby, food and all bills. We went hungry for a few months until he found something (sometimes we’d make ‘French onion soup’ for dinner when all we had in the cupboard was cheap stock and some mouldy onions), meanwhile, I had to read on Mumsnet how people are better off on benefits and those who work have it harder, apparently better than even those on 40k a year.

'Sanpro' makes me instantly despise the person using the phrase. Just say pad, tampon, mooncup, or pants. It is a hideous phrase.

People who think it's normal to go for a 12 hour day out of the house without going to the loo. Also people who think workplace toilets are only for pee and that you should only ever do a poo at home. I've never known so many people to be so neurotic about toilets except on MN.

Don't like your neighbours?

Just move house.

Yeah cos it's always that simple

People who say, Do you think I should leave him, and then give a list of all the stupid paltry reasons in their relationship.

'just' or 'surely' is almost always following by some type of patronising wankery.

People who use 'they' or some other way they think they're being clever to avoid using singular pronouns because they think doing so will influence the thread (you can usually tell the sex of the people involved anyhow).

Virtue signallers who mighty free and easy with other people's times, money, property and usually use the pretext of kindness, thoughfulness, the bigger person and the next thing, 'unselfish'.

@CruCru

I hate it when someone writes “HTH”. It’s passive aggressive and for ages I didn’t know what it meant.

Yes, I agree. Just plain nasty

People posting threads genuinely struggling with a complex issue only to be told it's a troll and the thread being pulled. I have seen genuinely distressed posters posting about difficult issues (one poster got deleted and banned because she posted that as a child another child the same age had sexually assaulted her. am talking older children, of course. it got pulled. as if these things don't happen in real life?! i wonder if that poster ever got the support she needed? I hope someone believed her) and just being accused of trolling without any real basis. we are all grown ups, if some peope may be triggered or upset or tempted to invest more in a poster than they can, it is their choice to make (or not). I hate the way MNHQ sometimes treats us like fragile snowflakes by taking down these threads. None of us HAVE to respond if we suspect it is a troll.

The way people speak about shop workers here and thinking that shop workers are beneath them
Seen it a few times on here.
Well some of like me do it as fits good with family times. Plus i do have 2 degrees so hardly beneath people

My god all the people considering under 50k broke! How in what world!
Also people nurse bashing

@Noti23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Is this actually a deleted message or someone stating that the deletion message is their most hated phrase?!

Can you take in Ironing (like widow twankee) is a favourite of mine,when somebody says they are struggling with money.

Stealth boasts.... “ I don’t know what to with my million pound inheritance”.

An OP asking for help and then posters fixating on some irrelevant detail of their post.

Just recently there was an OP with a sulking husband who had spoiled her DC's birthday breakfast (pancakes) with his behaviour.

In jumps a poster to say how she would NEVER feed her family pancakes because they were stodgy and not nutritious.

You couldn't make it up. I found it funny (in a way) but I doubt the poor OP did.

I hate it when someone ruins a humorous thread. Like someone complaining about minor things their husband does and then there’s always one poster that says something like ‘well my husband left me and my 15 kids after killing my mother and dog so no I don’t think he’s a knob’.

"Get a nanny"

Because nannies are hanging around freely avaliable, waiting to be paid below minimum wage so they are affordable to all with a childcare issue.

Any thread about food.
There was one a couple of weeks ago when the OP said her DSD was eating three packets of biscuits every night.
The girl didn't have her mother so it was obviously emotional eating and it turns out the packets of biscuits weren't full sized just those tiny iced gems

When folks use “ we”. As in what are “ we “ wearing, or when are “ we” sending kids back to school. There is no “we” because “we” are all individuals not a hive mind. For some reason it winds me up.

Accusations of competitive under eating if you don’t wish to eat six donuts and forty seven slices of toast by nine am.

And yup, HTH, always comes across as sarcastic.

When somebody has an argument with partner over something silly and everyone says leave, get out now... Ridiculous