Anyone have their last baby at 41? Did you feel too old?

[40hello]

Can’t stop thinking I want another baby have been trying a while and it isn’t happening. Would be 41 by the time the baby was born, if I managed it.

Anyone else have their last baby at 41? Did you feel older?

We’re also about to move areas (one part of London for another) and am a bit worried all the other people with babies will be at least 10 years younger than me and I won’t feel like I belong!

I love this study!

Thanks all! These stories are making me very relieved and happy! (And hopeful.)

I’m 48 with a 2 and 3 year old. I think I look older than other mums at pre school, but once we get chatting I realise that age doesn’t really matter. In some ways, I think being an older mum makes you more chilled. I’m definitely more tolerant than I would have been as a mum in my twenties.

I hate threads like this. Some of us haven't had first babies by this age.

Yep! she's now 15 and it hasn't been that different really. We have big age gaps as well, so the main issue is having been parents for 30 plus years with four more to go until we may possibly have an empty house!! keeps us young though

Good luck, Elouera and 40!

Did all of you who had babies later have them naturally or have assistance?

I'm ttc my second at 43( had an ectopic last year) and am beginning to lose hope that it will ever happen

@playbadlycast- thanks

DD was born 7 weeks before I turned 42. She’s 5 now. Pregnancy and motherhood has been fine. She didn’t/ doesn’t sleep so we are generally knackered but I think that would be the same if we were younger. I’m not quite the oldest at the school gates but the others have been surprised when they find out my age. I have plenty of friends who have also had babies in their 40s so we are at the same life stage and I don’t feel particularly unusual. Was the oldest by 5 years or so at NCT.

I like them, Stepoff, because they always gave me hope when I worried that I wouldn’t have kids. But I can see how you must feel, too.

I was 40. She's now 10 and it's been absolutely fine.

Natural. Though my friend reminded me that I had progesterone insert things for one pregnancy. So not entirely natural then! I’d completely forgotten.

I’m sorry, stepoff, I didn’t mean to be insensitive.

@40hello I've got my fingers crossed for you. I'm 42 and 11 weeks pregnant. All these PP are giving me hope too! I have screening this week and I am very nervous.

First at 39 and second at 41. Was not any more knackered than any of my younger friends. They keep us young - my daughter and I are off on a horse riding holiday in the summer.I would never have started riding again if it hadn’t been for her. Plus we are really relaxed about many things - age does bring benefits.
My best friend died at 35 leaving two infants. Sadly youth does not equal immunity to that.

44, he was the 6th baby. Difficult pregnancy tbh but he is worth it. All mine have big age gaps but it all seems to work out .

Thank you, passthemustard - Ooh that’s exciting and good luck at your scan! I’ve got my fingers crossed for you!

Sorry about your friend, pinkhouse

Yep conceived naturally. Don’t give up,hope older ladies TTC.

Thank you, ellabella!

Nearly 41 whe DS2 was born and even though it was ok I wouldn't of wnated to be much older.

I had my last at 40. Conceived naturally the first cycle of trying. It was much different from being in my late twenties really

First child aged 40, 2nd arrived just before I turned 46. I had 2 miscarriages and a termination for medical reasons in between. Had got my head around having 1 child so feel so very lucky to have had the fortune to have our 2nd.
Think the children keep me young, however stressful it is at times!
Both were naturally conceived surprises - nothing I plan ever seems to work out....
Never worry about the age thing.... really doesn’t bother me. I just want to live to see my children as happy, fully functioning adults. I know several people who have died in their 20’s and 30’s’very sadly, who had young children. In that sense, age is relative

I was 3 months off my 41st birthday when i had my one and only. We wanted and tried for another and now i'm too old so game over!
Go for it! It's not old!
Good luck

I had my first and only at 41. It's been fine. As pp said in London there's a lot of older mothers and you won't feel out of place.

I'm currently a week off being 41 and being induced for my second baby. Had my dd at 38. Both pregnancies pretty straightforward but been more tired this time due to running after a lunatic toddler. Both conceived naturally. My dd took over a year of trying then conceived this baby was a few months after a miscarriage.
Apart from having to be induced to being 'a mother of advanced age', I've not felt too old.