My partner of 2 years just dumped me by text

[Knucklehead101]

Well he sent me a really shit message along the lines of "let's face it our relationship isnt the best. I think we should end it. What do you think?" I replied "yes this is definitely the best decision. Good luck. Bye."

I've blocked him on everything but I'm so sad and alone. Please help me keep the strength not to unblock him! I dont want to be horrible to him (although there are a million horrible things I could say) because I'm better than that. I'm so sad though. What's wrong with me?

Do you agree with him that it was time to end it?

Sorry to hear this. Nothing is wrong with you, you need to go through the grieving process

Well it’s never nice. Did you see a future with him?.

That's really tough, I'm sorry, I hope that you are OK

Arsehole! Good response, definitely best to block him whilst you are feeling strong!

Well done for having the self respect to respond like that. You did great. Try and picture a future, happy with someone who would never send that to you. You need this to happen to ever get to that moment where you are over him and don't really care what he's up to. You deserve better and you'll find a better partner. Leaving him blocked means you have responded with high self worth and dignity intact and that's priceless, mainly for you. It's shit going through a break up, I can imagine especially so in lock down so hope you're ok all things considered and have perhaps a rl friend you can talk to as well

No future really because it was a long distance relationship and he is an alcoholic. So he's done me a favour by doing something I wasnt strong enough to do myself. Still hurts like fuck though even though I know its definitely for the best

Sorry you feel like that. What a rubbish thing to happen.
I think you have done the right thing by replying like you did

I think your response was badass. Don't unblock him. Walk away with your head held high

It’s the rejection then. It passes.

Stay strong & move on.

He's an alcoholic? Did he think you were trying to limit his intake?

It sounds as though you've had a narrow escape.

Start to plan your life now, OP. Your future's wide open - make the most of it.

💐💐💐 flowers for you honey!

@HollowTalk no, quite the opposite. I often joined in with the drinking to my shame. Another very good reason for this relationship to end. I'm so rubbish with this sort of thing though

Rejection is painful and takes time to recover from.
If you had ended things with him you’d probably be torturing yourself with guilt about whether you’d let down a vulnerable person or pushed him into drinking more, etc etc etc.
You are allowed to feel sad and lonely and grieve for a relationship that didn’t work out, but it will pass, and you will feel better.

Well done you! Good reply. Definitely don't unblock him, your response was perfect.

Well he sounds like a total prick.

Don't ever ask 'what's wrong with me' if a total prick doesn't appreciate you. He obviously has terrible judgment!

Give yourself a little time to wallow and then focus on the bright side, you can now meet someone nice.

He’s an alcoholic. He’s been with you for two years but dumped you by text. And you’re asking what’s wrong with you??? 💐

There’s nothing wrong with you, and it sounds for the best. Please don’t berate yourself

Good for you. I doubt he was expecting that response.

If he comes back and says he 'made a mistake' or 'changed his mind' please just tell him that he preempted you and you were pleased he said it as it save you saying it AND you hope he has a good life.

If you don't think you can do that then just block him now. He is not the right one for you.

You dodged a bullet there OP.

Sorry OP. It's bound to hurt at first but, as you say, he has done you a favour and could have saved years of hassle and heartache.

Alcoholics are endless trouble and worry. They can be violent too. Try to move on. Get other interests/friends etc. when you can. Stop thinking about him.

Your out of a life time of worry believe me, my ex was a bender alcoholic the worry was dreadful. 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐tomorrow treat yourself to something special, it will be the morning of the rest of your life.

You are sad because breaking up is sad. That's completely normal, even when the relationship was not healthy. You will grieve for a bit but pretty soon be glad that you are not locked into life with an alcoholic. That would make you much, much sadder, long term.