My partner of 2 years just dumped me by text

[Knucklehead101]

Well he sent me a really shit message along the lines of "let's face it our relationship isnt the best. I think we should end it. What do you think?" I replied "yes this is definitely the best decision. Good luck. Bye."

I've blocked him on everything but I'm so sad and alone. Please help me keep the strength not to unblock him! I dont want to be horrible to him (although there are a million horrible things I could say) because I'm better than that. I'm so sad though. What's wrong with me?

A relationship not working is not your personal failure... it happens. Not everyone is meant to be together. Unless you were abusive you just didn't work out. It'll be OK. You'll find the right person.

Just read he's an alcoholic and it's LD. nothing is wrong with you... he is the problem.

You had a lucky escape.

Thank you all. I feel horribly sick and cant stop crying even though I know I am much better off alone. I've never had much self esteem (probably why I put up with this shit relationship in the first place) but now I feel fat stupid ugly old and alone. I'm in my late 40s and feel like this was my last chance of happiness

Sorry to hear you're feeling so crap right now. However, it definitely wasn't your "last chance of happiness" if he was an alcoholic! Especially if that encouraged you to drink excessively too.

Thank you I know it wasnt happiness but at least it was something..

I really feel for you! I am very impressed at your response to him though.
I wanted to join your thread just to say you don't need to base your future happiness on this particular relationship (especially as he's an alcoholic)
I left my ex husband when I was early 40s,because he turned out to be not very nice, met my now DH 2 years later, and have been with him 11 years and married for 5 of those.
I found it really worth being single for the 2 years and getting to know myself without a partner. DH is lovely and couldn't be more different to the first one (I also had some counselling which helped me identify a good 'un when I met him.

Hand on heart if anything happened to dh and I I’m staying single and getting more pets.

Best answer + best decision you've made in 2 years.

Now.....

Start living life for you. Do things you want to do for you. Lose weight if you want to. Get some counselling if you want to. Really start your life again. You're young. You have years ahead of you

Well done

He HAS done you a favour, you'll realise later in time.