I keep getting sucked into threads about what much younger children can do independently but whenever I do, I get the sense that a lot of older children aren't doing nearly as much independently as my 9 year old. I am not putting this in AIBU because I am perfectly comfortable with our decision making, but am interested in seeing where our approach fits in a spectrum.
Ours can:
make basic snacks (v basic - he has no interest in cooking) eg getting himself some frozen berries and yoghurt or a slice of bread with peanut butter.
Make himself a hot chocolate or me a cup of tea.
Shower/bath completely independently with zero input from me except occasional reminders to wash his hair.
Prior to lockdown, we were working on letting him stay at home alone for short periods (eg trip to corner shop) but that's stopped and we're all here, all of the time!!
Sit in car while I pop into shop.
Go round corner/up road to friends' houses (one small suburban road to cross).
Go for walk/run with no adults - but we don't let him do this alone. He goes with his 12 year old cousin or his friend and friend's brother who live locally. They also have strict rules about where they go, when they return etc and we have been known to check....
At swimming pool, he can swim in pool with us watching from outside the pool unless it's very busy. But when we are in the pool he still is able to swim independently and not stay super close.
At a cafe/shop he can go to counter and choose/pay alone.
Is this in line with others? Do your kids do more/less?