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Do you still fancy your OH?

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overweightcat · 10/06/2020 11:14

Even after years together?
This is purely about physical attraction not personality.

Had this topic come up on my recent zoom chat with friends and after a few wines the majority of them said they don't fancy their husbands/boyfriends anymore after 5+ (or significantly more) years together. Putting it down to weight gain and/or general ageing but they made it all sound like it's completely normal and part of the parcel of a longterm relationship with DCs and work/general life. This was followed by a general moan about partners.

There was me and another friend who didn't say much throughout. It prompted me to pay attention to DP a bit more and yesterday for some reason I woke up stupidly early, I decided to stay in bed and turned and saw him next to me and just thought "crap he's gorgeous", I feel like in the day to day life with kids and work and all the other things to get on with it just gets taken for granted but when I just pause and really see him I remember how stupidly handsome he is (to me of course) and wonder how I landed him.
He doesn't look exactly like he did when we met he's put on a few pounds and is currently growing a bit of a beard which isn't my thing at all but it doesn't take away from the fact that he's tall, dark and handsome with broad shoulders, his stupidly long eyelashes which make me jealous, lovely deep voice and a cracking smile - just my personal type.
He's not Mr.Perfect and has plenty of annoying habits, he's a master at flooding the bathroom floor when showering and can never find an item that's under his nose even with detailed instructions which gives me the rage Grin but purely from a physical perspective I do still fancy him.

So out of curiosity since I felt like the minority on the call I just wanted to put the question out there - do you still fancy your OH after years together?

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FurbabyLife · 17/06/2020 10:26

More than ever! We’ve been together since we were in our late teens and now mid-30s and he just gets better and better! 🥰

Abitouting · 17/06/2020 11:50

Yes. Together 9 years and two young children.

I love his shoulders, his arms, his dark hair and beautiful hazel eyes.

I love it when we catch eyes across the room, like just now I looked up and he's glancing over at me with a sexy smile whilst doing some DIY. Delicious.

I just wish he'd wear collared tops more because he looks divine in them.

RosieLemonade · 17/06/2020 12:17

Yes. Been together since we were 19 and 20. Even when I’ve really really disliked him I have always fancied him.

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Carycy · 17/06/2020 12:22

Yes he’s hot. 43 and def still got it.

TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 17/06/2020 12:29

Yes I still fancy him - he’s never been “handsome “ really but we just click physically , call it chemistry or whatever!
He’s lost his hair now but still a good body.
I didn’t think he was especially attractive to other women but someone at his work really fancied him , and told him, last year. 😬 So that was an eye opener !

Lisette1940 · 17/06/2020 12:43

Yes, together 27 years and married 19 years next week 🥰

LuvMyBoyz · 17/06/2020 13:17

36 years together and I still fancy him. We are normally close together (in the house, garden, car, sop etc) but when I see him from a distance my heart flips! I like to go and get petrol with him because when he comes out of the shop and back to the car I get that little heart-flipping moment!

Ughmaybenot · 17/06/2020 13:24

I’ve been with DH 5 years and I think he’s sexier now than when we got together. He was still boyish then at 23 and now he’s filled out/muscled up generally and hardened up a bit facially at 28, I just think he’s absolutely gorgeous. Plus he’s still hilarious and charming and gentlemanly and all the rest that I was so attracted to at the start.
It might all change of course... but I can’t really see that happening. We’ll go through lulls, I don’t doubt that, but I can’t see it just disappearing. Ask me again in ten years Grin

2020times · 17/06/2020 14:19

@maras2 - that's so lovely! After all that time Smile

15 years with DH and still fancy him, he's put on a few stone, got more wrinkles, is now completely grey, but he's so so handsome to me

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