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Do you still fancy your OH?

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overweightcat · 10/06/2020 11:14

Even after years together?
This is purely about physical attraction not personality.

Had this topic come up on my recent zoom chat with friends and after a few wines the majority of them said they don't fancy their husbands/boyfriends anymore after 5+ (or significantly more) years together. Putting it down to weight gain and/or general ageing but they made it all sound like it's completely normal and part of the parcel of a longterm relationship with DCs and work/general life. This was followed by a general moan about partners.

There was me and another friend who didn't say much throughout. It prompted me to pay attention to DP a bit more and yesterday for some reason I woke up stupidly early, I decided to stay in bed and turned and saw him next to me and just thought "crap he's gorgeous", I feel like in the day to day life with kids and work and all the other things to get on with it just gets taken for granted but when I just pause and really see him I remember how stupidly handsome he is (to me of course) and wonder how I landed him.
He doesn't look exactly like he did when we met he's put on a few pounds and is currently growing a bit of a beard which isn't my thing at all but it doesn't take away from the fact that he's tall, dark and handsome with broad shoulders, his stupidly long eyelashes which make me jealous, lovely deep voice and a cracking smile - just my personal type.
He's not Mr.Perfect and has plenty of annoying habits, he's a master at flooding the bathroom floor when showering and can never find an item that's under his nose even with detailed instructions which gives me the rage Grin but purely from a physical perspective I do still fancy him.

So out of curiosity since I felt like the minority on the call I just wanted to put the question out there - do you still fancy your OH after years together?

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Karmagoat · 10/06/2020 13:14

Yes. Been together 18 years married for 11.

fairyfingers · 10/06/2020 13:17

Yes and no. I always thought he had nice bits but my initial attraction to him was more sort of sexual than how he looked iyswim (I didn't fancy him at all til he kissed me on a drunken night out but good lord it was a kiss and a half!).

I still do very much enjoy him that way and he has some very good bits to him - his arms and eyes are particularly nice. So still very attracted but more in a clitoral rather than visual sense. 20 years plus now.

Dollywilde · 10/06/2020 13:18

8 years together, 2 years married. I think he’s more handsome now than he was when we first met - he’s utterly gorgeous. I’m so punching Grin

My libido has taken a bit of a hit as I’m 8 months pregnant, but it’s got sod all to do with him, like a Pp said it’s actually rather frustrating cause I wake up next to a hot guy every day! And he’s even sexier to me because of how understanding and lovely he is about it all.

I’m very happy with my choice of husband Smile

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acocadochocolate · 10/06/2020 13:20

No. Being accused of laziness and left to wash up alone is so unsexy.

Coniferhedge · 10/06/2020 13:23

Definitely. We’ve been together 18 years. He’s put weight on, got greyer and older, but so have I! If I see him across a crowded room or if I’m meeting him and see him walking towards me along the street, my heart still skips a beat.

SkinnywannabeKBH · 10/06/2020 13:25

Oh yes, together 20yrs, married 11yrs. He has put on weight but is still hot and has a cute bum Wink. I am WAAAAAY bigger than when we started going out and he somehow still things I'm "hot" a posted lol.

Literaryseed · 10/06/2020 13:27

Absolutely. We met young and he's just improved with age. 13 years together, 6 married.

Doje · 10/06/2020 13:28

Definitely. 10 years together.

I sometimes wake up next to him and immediately think how lucky I am. Also, when we're out together, and he gets chatting to someone else, I look across the room and think how sexy he is. God, that's cringy. 😆

Morporkia · 10/06/2020 13:30

28 years and we seem to be going through a 2nd honeymoon phase 🥰 lockdown has brought us closer physically, emotionally and mentally. I think the middle part of our relationship when we had young kids was the time when we sort of fell into a rut of having a quickie when the kids were out at clubs/friends etc and didn’t take the time to actually enjoy each other. He has developed a bit of a belly and is slightly balding but I fell in love with his eyes and they are still the bluest, sweetest gorgeous eyes I’ve ever seen 😁

RUOKHon · 10/06/2020 13:32

Yes. We’ve been together 10 years and I still think he looks fit as.

lightandshade · 10/06/2020 13:33

Yes.

I'm massively punching and god knows how I managed to snap him up he's gorgeous

peaceanddove · 10/06/2020 13:46

God yeah, he's hot. He's got lovely olive skin, huge shoulders and the sexiest grin. We've been together nearly thirty years but I still ogle him given half a chance, I particularly love watching him wet shave, or driving because he has really muscley forearms and nice hands. I still get a bit flustered if I watch him getting undressed and the little clinking noise his belt makes as he undoes it is seriously sexy Blush

Peachypips78 · 10/06/2020 13:56

Yes- 20 years together, 18 married, and I still fancy him lots!

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 10/06/2020 13:57

We’ve been together 33 years and yes, I still fancy him something rotten. He takes care of himself and I get a “phwoar” moment when I see him get out of the shower.... Fortunately for me I seem to have the same affect on him .....

Redwren · 10/06/2020 13:59

Very much so. We're 10 years in albeit we're both still young at 30 but hes lush. A manual worker hes lean and muscly with a lovely peachy bum. I cant gaze at him in bed though as his morning breath is horrendous!

We are in a lovely phase atm, I've just lost my baby weight and got into running and while hes not one for showering me with compliments I can tell he really fancies me atm which is a massive confidence boost

OculusThrift · 10/06/2020 14:15

Hell yeah. Been with him over 20 years and still find him fit as fuck.

BillywigSting · 10/06/2020 14:19

Very much so.

Together 14 years and he's a bit softer in the belly, a bit hairier on the chin and has newly acquired glasses but yes, apart from my dc he is the most lovely creature on this earth.

It's the forearms. He's got very sexy forearms. And a nice bum. And very beautiful bright blue eyes that seem to change colour.

managedmis · 10/06/2020 14:36

Nope

SciFiScream · 10/06/2020 14:43

Yes. I fancy my DH. We've been together 18 years and married for 16. We've both put on weight. He's gorgeous and has really sexy legs. I love watching the way he moves his hands. He's grown a fuller beard now which I love and he smells great too.

He's also kind, caring, generous and takes his share of house work and mental load so I know I've got a good un.

Love him.

lemmathelemmin · 10/06/2020 14:51

Don't fancy him physically anymore, and he's barely changed in the looks department. He is lazy, smokes weed and has a terrible work ethic. Everything I find unattractive, plus more.

BarbedBloom · 10/06/2020 15:17

6 years in and yes. He is in his 40s and has changed a bit, but I still look at him and think he's gorgeous

Mammyloveswine · 10/06/2020 15:24

Most of the time he irritates me too much but objectively he is actually very handsome! He has lovely blue eyes, beautifully shaped lips, he's tall, full head of dark hair... occasionally I am reminded of this until he irritates me with something else!

I found photos of us when we first met over 10 years ago and he was a total stunner!!

redwoodmazza · 17/06/2020 09:45

NO!

Badtasteflump · 17/06/2020 09:51

20 years married anx ues I still 100% do. It fluctuates with my mood though Grin.

Marianne22 · 17/06/2020 09:54

It depends if we are getting on. His personality changes by the hour. Never know which one I'll get.

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