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Help me feel better- What have you missed at work?

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 15:57

I feel like a complete fool. My manager set up an online supervision and I completely missed the email. I realised part way though. The whole thing was fine. I told him at the end and he just said email or call if I think of anything.

I feel like an idiot, like I want to cry My mind is blowing this up out of all proportion. I know that but it isn’t stopping it. I have no DC, no extra pressures, no excuse

Has anyone else done anything like this during lockdown or before? Make me feel better or at least in company!

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 15:57

Just to say I didn’t get answers on 30 days only so came to Chat

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 16:46

Bump - I’ve finished work but now mood is sinking a bit.

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 20:16

Anyone there even just say hello please

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DaphneFanshaw · 09/06/2020 20:20

Hello

DaphneFanshaw · 09/06/2020 20:21

Stop over thinking things.
Take a deep breath.
When you’re on your death bed you won’t even remember this.
Do something nice for yourself, bubble bath, tea and biscuits and move on.

DwayneBenzie · 09/06/2020 20:21

Hi OP; I’m sorry you had a shit day! Can you explain what you missed exactly - your manager wanted to have a meeting but you missed the email? So how come you ended up having a meeting anyway?

I’m sure it’s nothing to worry about but perhaps if you can explain to us it might help get it off your chest.

ThreeLeggedCat · 09/06/2020 20:23

On my first 1-2-1 Teams meeting with my manager I pressed ‘disconnect’ rather than accept call. Then at the end of the call I saw the cat bringing in a dead rat through the cat flap and ended the call in a hurry!

Weepingwillows12 · 09/06/2020 20:23

I sont know what a supervision is? Is it like a performance feedback meeting?

I have missed meetings before. Not loads but I do feel bad. Everyone does it. I once flew to another country for a really important meeting with a director (was told it had to be in person etc) and he never showed. When I spoke to his PA she looked really flustered and then we ended up having a call. He was at home. I was in his office. He was so embarrassed. In the end I just found it funny.

If it happens a lot then it can be annoying but if you are generally punctual then no harm done from one mistake.

DaphneFanshaw · 09/06/2020 20:23

Honestly, the only thing you’ve don’t wrong is to blow this out of proportion.
I have anxiety and do this all the time.
I have learnt over the years to talk myself down, but I do get how horrible it is.
Just try and remind yourself that you’re ok, nothing bad is going to happen and that everything is going to be ok.

SandysMam · 09/06/2020 20:25

Bless you, just relax, you are a human being and we all make mistakes. Your manager probably isn’t even thinking about it. Remenber, no one thinks about you as much as you do. Even if he shouts at you, it will pass.

pinkazing · 09/06/2020 20:25

It was for your benefit and the only one missing out was you so no need to beat yourself up. If you had issues or concerns you can still send them over so nothing lost. If he’s anything like me I love it when I log onto a call and the other person doesn’t join the call, a few mins of peace (with my headphones in) and I can get on with what I need to do,

QuacksInTheDark · 09/06/2020 20:25

If this the worst fuck up you’ve committed at work than you’re doing very very well in my book. Have a nice drink 🍸 and chill

Kljnmw3459 · 09/06/2020 20:27

What is supervision in this context? And what 'anything ' does ur boss want you to think about? I think you're just feeling anxious and overwhelmed and are unable to think clearly and are blowing this out of proportion.

isseywith4vampirecats · 09/06/2020 20:27

im on furlough and our company sent an email that I had to go into and sign electronically to get my furlough wages I missed it completely luckily our manager is on the ball and messaged us about it on facebook as he knows our team all go on there

DaphneFanshaw · 09/06/2020 20:27

Oh god, I’ve done so much stupid stuff in my life I don’t even know where to start.
The one I still cringe about is sayI got “Bye, love you“ after an interview to my prospective employer.

I don’t even style it out I just kind of squealed and said “Oh sorry, I just said I love you” she was really lovely and said don’t worry, it happens all the time. I think we all know that it doesn’t though.

Sandybval · 09/06/2020 20:28

I have no DC, no extra pressures, no excuse

You do have an excuse, you are human! And everything is highly pressurised now because of everything going on, so please be kind to yourself. I've messed up loads in different jobs haha, I find as long as you are honest about it rather than bury your head in the sand it works out okay (unless I suppose it was something really terrible, which it doesn't sound like this was).

dementedma · 09/06/2020 20:30

All done it. I work in a fairly high security organisation (Defence related). Sent an email and somehow managed to cc in an entire group of the wrong people. someone reported it as a data breach. thought I was going to get sacked but Boss settled for a mild ticking off and a “be more careful in future”

FizzyPink · 09/06/2020 20:34

I was once working from home and at the time I lived in a freezing old flat so used to work from my bed. Somehow I managed to fall asleep and completely missed the start of a senior management meeting. I only woke up because a colleague WhatsApp called me to ask where I was. I hastily made up an excuse about having problems dialling in and joined the call Blush Nothing was ever said about it

YoungsterIwish · 09/06/2020 20:35

What is an online supervision?

Lots of balls been dropped, lots of us out of our comfort zone, having to learn new technologies at a time when it's hard enough to focus on the mundane.

And that's before technology let's us down.

YoungsterIwish · 09/06/2020 20:41

I worked in an international IT company once and there were loads of email groups set up, e.g. "AccountsPayable" was all the accounts team, etc.

This one guy got a photo of a topless model and decided to foward on to his friend Mark. Only instead of sending it to Mark, he sent it to "ManagementAll". All the top managers in EU and USA got it!

There were immediate phone calls from the US for him to be fired straightaway.

Malin52 · 09/06/2020 20:43

Hi OP I understand. I get anxiety over work a lot but I've learned to manage it and via some big ticket errors which made me realise the world keeps turning and we are only human.

Can you explain what an online supervision is?

If it makes you feel better I have missed an important client deadline by being disorganised, missed an email that asked to me to present on a topic I don't know well to the whole department so I had to do it with no prep and injured a famous client....

I am now a partner in the same firm having been promoted several times.

Taswama · 09/06/2020 20:49

I had no idea how to turn the camera on for the first few Teams meetings. I didn't admit it. I do now but have decided I quite like it off if its a boring meeting as I can just get on with other stuff.

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 22:29

Thank you all. It was a catch up - run through any issues, training needs, Feedback on quality of work - I think every 6 months.

I have underlying, generally well controlled depression and I need to keep these sort of things in check. I don’t have anyone irl I can say this kind of thing to. This is the first time for a while I’m low related to work. I’ve made other mistakes and been ok with myself. (Work has triggered in the past).

One thing I’m going to re-start is consistent mindfulness meditation. I was trying to do it during work and it just didn’t happen.

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Patch23042 · 09/06/2020 22:42

These things happen OP. Honestly. Your boss will have forgotten.

There’s a good thread in Classics about work mistakes.

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Lockdownlooks · 09/06/2020 22:44

Thanks I could do with a classics thread tonight.

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