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Can your DH/DP stack the dishwasher?

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WhyAskMe · 09/06/2020 09:08

I'm not trying to blow my own trumpet but we have a slim line dishwasher and I can get pretty much the whole kitchen in there and it will come out clean. I come down this morning to a pile of washing up. I assume the dishwasher hasn't been run. Nope it has. The back row had two pasta shallow bowl plates and a side plate taking up the entire space with a tin tray at either end! How, how can he not manage to get more in the back row by simply stacking it better?! To those who tell me I should just do it then, I usually do but I was busy getting our baby to bed and then doing his invoices! Honestly it just both winds me up and baffles me. I kind of wish he had just left it for me to run this morning as I unstack it every day and now have had to wash up too.

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AHintOfStyle · 09/06/2020 09:11

Yes he can. He's a boss at it. I can't get half as much in as he can so he sorts it each time before it gets switched on.

RoLaren · 09/06/2020 09:11

I feel you. I can fit the whole lot of frozen shopping into our freezer with some careful organising and depackaging. He shoves half in haphazardly, then leaves the rest gently defrosting on the side 😡 When I point this out he says, we can eat it today!

BarbaraofSeville · 09/06/2020 09:14

Why do you have to wash up? Just put the stuff in the dishwasher and run it as many times as it needs to, to get through all the washing up. It uses less water that way anyway.

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WhyAskMe · 09/06/2020 09:18

Because it was things I needed for breakfast e.g. bowls. I guess I could have had toast but I'm a creature of habit and wanted cereal ... We have limited bowls etc as we have a tiny kitchen. Plus it wasn't that much to justify running it again.

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WhatAWonderfulDay · 09/06/2020 09:20

Yes, he can. He goes all engineering on it, thinking about the water flow, pressure, the thermodynamics of it all....

I don't interfere and let him get on with it while I sit sipping my glass of whatever.

drspouse · 09/06/2020 09:21

Yes, because he's an adult.

Sleepyquest · 09/06/2020 09:24

Yes but then again I'm not one of these people who is fussy about how the dishwasher is stacked. Life is too short.

I'd just empty it and fill it again

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 09/06/2020 09:24

He thinks I (and DCs) don't do it properly and waste space. (He used to work as a packer in his youth).

Apart from that we all can, of course.

Sleepyquest · 09/06/2020 09:24

I mean after its run, do another cycle

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WhyAskMe · 09/06/2020 09:27

Obviously I need a new DP Wink

@RoLaren I actually think that is worse! I have also dealt with cooking almost the entire contents of our freezer after he put things away and didn't shut the door properly. I gifted away a lot of meat that day Hmm

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SeaOtterFluff · 09/06/2020 09:30

Yes. Because he's an adult and it's a chore that needs doing. Just like mowing the lawn, ironing and cleaning the toilet. Stuff just gets done in this house.

binkyblinky · 09/06/2020 09:31

My husband is scared of our dishwasher, I'm sure. He never ever opens it!

WatchingFromTheWings · 09/06/2020 09:40

Think I've loaded the dish washer twice in 3 years. It's husbands job. I don't interfere! He organises it well as we're on a water meter so he won't run it more than he can get away with!

BarbiesWorld · 09/06/2020 09:42

I'm fairly sure that DH thinks the dishwasher stacks, runs and empties itself 🙄 domesticated he is not

quietheart · 09/06/2020 09:47

Yes he can, but not as good as me 🤫

VettiyaIruken · 09/06/2020 09:50

Yes. As can our sons.
It's not difficult and they'd get short shrift from me if they tried to pretend otherwise

Pleasenodont · 09/06/2020 10:00

A lot better than I can, I’m awful at it. I never had one until we bought this house so I’m just a bit useless.

ExpletiveDelighted · 09/06/2020 10:00

Yes, he's better at it than me, I jam too much in and not everything gets clean. My jamming in skills come into their own for putting food in the fridge and freezer though, I am a whizz at putting shopping away.

NewLevelsOfTiredness · 09/06/2020 10:13

My girlfriend sees it as a defeat if she can't get everything in.
I would rather hand wash one of the big pans to make sure everything is spaced nicely.

We both believe we are right. Although every now and again when she does it one of the big pans will be left out, which I will quietly wash and put away without mentioning that I see it as a minor victory of sorts for my method.

nowornever1 · 09/06/2020 10:13

Yes my DH is better at loading the dishwasher than me and generally he's better and filling the freezer or packing a suitcase.

We all have strengths and in our home we try and work to them

MittensTheSerpent · 09/06/2020 10:19

Of course he can. He's a grown man with all of his faculties in tact. Why wouldn't be able to?

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WhyAskMe · 09/06/2020 10:36

Some of these comments really made me laugh. I can confirm he is an adult. He does have other very good strengths just the dishwasher...

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Mountains91 · 09/06/2020 10:39

My husband reloads the dishwasher after I’ve done it.
He manages to get more stuff in and it comes out better!

Ninkanink · 09/06/2020 10:39

Yes, because he’s not a useless idiot.

Ninkanink · 09/06/2020 10:41

It’s not actually funny, imo. Stop enabling him to be so ridiculously incapable. If he can’t do it properly, he needs more practice until he gets to the point where he can be relied upon to be an actual grown up.

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