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Single parents help

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Keeponsurviving · 04/06/2020 09:24

I have become a single parent during lockdown and don't know how i will manage to get any shopping. Who are we allowed to let into our home or leave kids with? How is everybody else doing it? I don't want to take them with me as they have special needs and shopping was stressful before lockdown but if i have to i will. They won't be going back to school yet as they are not in the year groups asked to return so school is not an option

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purpleme12 · 04/06/2020 09:29

I haven't managed to get a delivery in lockdown and don't drive.
My ex does our shopping at the same time as his

AvoidingRealHumans · 04/06/2020 09:30

I have been taking my 2 with me when I go shopping, it's been fine and supermarkets seem much more relaxed now then at the beginning.

I don't leave them with anyone as I have no one local to help, it hasn't been allowed anyway.

Supermarket delivery slots are still few and far between here but there are click and collect slots in abundance so that may be easier if you have a car.

FedUpofLockdown123 · 04/06/2020 09:33

Can you get a click and collect slot? There's still no delivery slots where I am but there is click and collect which makes life easier. If you don't drive would someone be able to collect it for you?

Also have had my parents park beside my car in the carpark so I don't have to take them in. I take snacks and a tablet and open the windows and my parents talk to them through the window. They would call me if either of them were to get upset but thankfully haven't had to do that.

Other than that I have been taking mine into the shops with me but it is stressful and understand with special needs added it will be even more stressful for you.

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FedUpofLockdown123 · 04/06/2020 09:35

Stressful because of my 3 year old btw. Not because of the set up or other shoppers etc.

curtainsforme · 04/06/2020 09:37

Have you checked for delivery slots? I know a lot of people are still assuming that they are as rare as hens teeth but Tesco, Sainsbury's & Asda all have slots available in my area now.

pinktaxi · 04/06/2020 09:38

Click and collect is very straightforward and quick. Kids can stay in car.

curtainsforme · 04/06/2020 09:40

Also if slots are not available now keep checking throughout the day, they often just appear!

midnightstar66 · 04/06/2020 09:40

I me a e one in the car most of the time, sometimes the 10 year old stays in the car but the 7 year old comes if it's a longer shop. Occasionally they both come in. I used to do my main shop while they were at their dads but now we've got a puppy who can't be left so it's no longer an option. Anything non food I order from amazon

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Keeponsurviving · 04/06/2020 09:40

Can't trust my ex to do it for me. I do drive but shop at aldi so no click and collect. When is the best time to go if i take them with me? I was going at night before closing as it was quiet and they were in bed but with nobody here to watch them i can't do that now. Wouldn't leave them in the car because of their additional needs and behaviours

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Jjjjjj1981 · 04/06/2020 09:41

Do it online OP, it is possible to get delivery slots now. You just have to keep checking back if you don’t see any at first

midnightstar66 · 04/06/2020 09:41

I leave mine that was supposed to read - not sure what happened

curtainsforme · 04/06/2020 09:41

I do drive but shop at aldi so no click and collect

I think you need to be a bit flexible tbh. You get what you can, in the safest way possible. If that means using ASDA instead of ALDI then that what you do.

midnightstar66 · 04/06/2020 09:43

Can't exP watch the dc or drive to the supermarket and wait with them in the car? Or has he totally left and NC? Other wise just change your supermarket for now. Tesco cheap range is mostly Chatham aldi anyway and nicer quality I find. They usually have plenty slots if you keep checking

purpleme12 · 04/06/2020 09:44

Well if you drive the easiest thing is to do click and collect. I know you said you shop at Aldi but circumstances being what they are, I'd change to One where you can do click and collect
There's no deliveries here but there's always click and collect

purpleme12 · 04/06/2020 09:47

But confused why this is an issue if you drive

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Keeponsurviving · 04/06/2020 09:48

It's just that my youngest is very fussy and will only eat certain foods which i can only buy in aldi as that's where i have shopped since he was a baby. I have tried to get him to eat food from other shops but his sensory needs mean he can tell the cheese is is not the same

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Keeponsurviving · 04/06/2020 09:53

How does click and collect work as I've never used it? Is the shopping bought out to your car

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Grandmi · 04/06/2020 09:56

Do you have a friend who can do your shopping?

curtainsforme · 04/06/2020 09:58

Well then you will just have to go to ALDI. I don't really know what the problem is. You only want to shop in ALDI and you have a car. Just go to ALDI.

Pebblexox · 04/06/2020 10:06

If you have any family near by you can ask someone to come to your house to watch. Special needs are a reasonable reason to need that extra support, and with you going through such a tough time nobody could judge you for that.
If you don't feel comfortable with that, is there anybody who could do some shopping for you?

Pissflapflip · 04/06/2020 10:07

Getting deliveries here. Does mean I can't be choosy which supermarket I use but between Tesco, Asda, Morrisons, Iceland, Sainsburys there is usually one available. See if any of your neighbours get shopping delivered and share the shop. Ask local friends to pick up bits for you if they are out. See if any local businesses or farms do any delivery for fruit and veg etc. I have so far managed to not have to leave my two or take them in a shop. It is do able just need to be flexible.

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Keeponsurviving · 04/06/2020 10:09

curtainsforme the problem is i have children with special needs and nobody to leave them with so i can buy food to feed them on their limited diets. The older one has specific dietary requirements which i have from elsewhere delivered so this is mainly to feed the younger one and myself

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3LittleMonkeyz · 04/06/2020 10:16

Does you area have support services for children with additional needs? Some schools are letting kids come to school even if they are not the right year group if they meet other criteria. It may be worth checking

Namechangewhy · 04/06/2020 10:20

As you have to shop at Aldi and have no childcare, just take them with you. Right before closing is very quiet. Take care op

midnightstar66 · 04/06/2020 10:27

As you have to shop at Aldi and have no childcare, just take them with you. Right before closing is very quiet. Take care op
Or first thing in the morning. My aldi never had a queue anyway but honestly it late it will pretty much be empty

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