Is there anything to look forward to ?

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It’s all just so hard
So depressed

Sorry you're feeling like that. I know what you mean. All our holidays are cancelled and I feel there's nothing to look forward to.

But at some point, the swimming pools will open again, so I'm looking forward to that.

And Springwatch starts tonight!

Me too, I'm really mourning all of the lovely plans I had over the spring/summer (my 30th birthday, a holiday, my Masters graduation, a couple of gigs). Of course I'm grateful to be healthy but I'd been planning and looking forward to everything for months and one by one I watched as my plans were cancelled. I'm starting a university course in July and I've put blood, sweat and tears for the last five years into getting here, but even that will need to start at home for the foreseeable future, totally changing the experience.

It just made the whole thing a lot more depressing but then I feel guilty and brattish because people are dying every day

The problem of there being nothing to look forward to (except a whoknowswhen end to lockdown) is a huge contributing factor to my amazon spending habit. Little parcels of joy. Sowing laughter and tears, the world round

I've lost the ability to look forward to anything, recently, have withdrawn from most of the things and people I was most connected to, and I find myself measuring my hair growth every week or two, like the weirdo I am. Once the roots are longer than the rest, I'll have probably succeeded in feeling something happened.

No joy in anything

I don’t feel like there’s zero joy to be had but I’m certainly struggling.

No point in anything

I am struggling this week. Hit a dip. I have been wfh all the time. Due to go on holiday next week, but obviously cancelled. I am still taking the leave but nothing really planned. I wish they would open up National Trust etc.

My big leave in September is probably not going to happen either. Three weeks in Canada, but will it go ahead/will I have to quarantine 2 weeks after, which is not feasible.

Shops etc are going to be no go, with all the precautions in place. The High St will finally die. Pubs/cafes etc don't seem to appealing either.

Feeling sad for yourself and people dying aren’t mutually exclusive. As long as there has been humans they have died.

It’s ok to feel like this. It’s ok to feel down about the things we have missed out on and the things that have been cancelled. It’s ok to feel sad and depressed about the whole situation.
Its hard not knowing when things will get back to a normal state that we recognise. It’s difficult not having nice things to look forward to.
After all these weeks at home there’s no more sorting out to do and zoom or houseparty has lost it’s appeal. There’s nothing to say to people anyway!
But things are beginning to move forward. Things will be open again and we will be able to live our lives with events and plans to look forward to.

@HouseOfSticks

I suppose I just feel guilty because I'm having a Kevin and Perry style "IT'S SO UNFAIRRRR" moment about holidays and birthdays being cancelled because of the virus, when seemingly healthy people are dying from it.

Feel the same today, cancelled our holiday of a lifetime, Summer is looking like it’s going to be spent at home much like just now.

I'm sorry @sweetkitty, that's horrible.

Last year DH and I decided to book our lifelong dream holiday (two weeks travelling around Japan) for May 2020 but something came up and it wasn't the right time for it. I can't imagine how crushed I'd be if we'd gone ahead and booked it when we planned to.

It's hard I know. But things are slowly getting better! Shops are reopening in 3 weeks time. Other stuff will gradually follow. We will get there.

Thank you Chocolatecake10 and Waxonwaxoff0. It is rubbish, but we have to have some hope. The endless negativity has such an awful impact on mental health.

It’s the social distancing that makes shops opening etc so completely pointless. For as long as I have to be treated like a leper I don’t want to go into any of these places.

I have been relatively upbeat throughout all this. But now when things are loosening, I feel a bit depressed.

No point to anything. My DP is being made redundant, and my low paying job isn’t safe. Both mid 50’s. We had finally reached a time in our life were we could afford the occasional holiday, meal out etc., put money to one side to pay for a slightly earlier retirement. All gone in the space of a 5 minute phone call.

Try and look forward to the little things - if you have a garden some flowers blooming and the dawn chorus.
I have been treated for long term depression and looking out for the little wins really does make a difference, not a huge one but still helpful.

just call me Polyanna

We had finally reached a time in our life were we could afford the occasional holiday, meal out etc., put money to one side to pay for a slightly earlier retirement.

Sounds like us and it will all go if DH is made redundant, which is looking likely. No, I can't see anything to look forward to.

@floppyhare is right. Sometimes the little pleasant things that are not very far ahead can really help.

thanks. I hated posting it as it sounds so much like a platitude and a fairly meaningless one at that but it helps me.

Been trying Bert hard with my garden so flowers are the only thing

Don’t know who Bert is

yep totally with you there. Been struggling with it all for a while and then seemed to have hit a big mental brick wall since last week. No enthusiasm or joy to be had from anything. Which is bloody hard going when you have 2 kids to look after and you just want to crawl into a hole and hibernate until this is all over.

I'm looking forward to seeing all my friends when we are finally allowed.